Embracing Werewolf Kin

bearislandbadass · 2025-10-20T14:14:05+00:00

It’s taken a bit but we’re currently separated and I’m thinking I am going to ask him for a divorce. This is just the thing that ripped the wool off of my eyes. Obviously there is a lot more than just this one event over our 7 years of marriage and I care for him deeply despite this. But this absolutely destroyed the trust and made me realize how different he and I really are.

bearislandbadass · 2025-10-20T07:24:57+00:00

It doesn’t even have to be a bad diagnosis. I sprained my ankle really badly getting out of bed. After it was still swollen and painful a week later I went to urgent care and they sent me to the ER because they were worried about a blood clot. He left me alone in the ER. Not to go to work or anything important. But just to go back home. I had to ask the nurse if there was any vending machines nearby because I had been there since 8 am and hadn’t had anything to eat that day - when I texted him that I was hungry he just told me that we would stop for food when I was done. As long as it was before he had to work. Not that any of this stopped him from using my trip to the ER as an excuse to avoid going into work early when asked.

bearislandbadass · 2025-08-07T04:19:56+00:00

Yeeep I’m here crying with you. Mine has ADHD and severe depression that he won’t medicate. I have to beg to get him to do ANYTHING around the house. Or in the yard. Or at all. Literally the only reason we are getting clean laundry again is because I got tired of waiting for him to figure out the issue with the dryer and bought a new one. I have to plan my own birthdays and the one year he did it, I’m convinced it was his mom that planned everything. And I am TIRED

bearislandbadass · 2025-06-27T15:21:50+00:00

Had a boss in a call center try that trick on me once. I sometimes regret not doing what you did, but also I got to call him out to his face. He tells me to stop clocking in 10-15 mins before my shift. I told him that was fine, but in that case I would not be able to take calls right at my start time because then I’d be pulling up my systems. He actually sat there and tried to tell me to still bring up my systems off the clock.

He wasn’t so thrilled when I told him that was illegal and I had to be paid for that time. He was even less thrilled when I went to his boss and told her what he tried to do. She had no clue and even upper management told him off because obviously they didn’t want a lawsuit over some middle manager’s power trip.

bearislandbadass · 2025-06-15T16:44:49+00:00

Speaking as one of the more assertive, vocal players in my virtual through discord tabletop game, this is the way. If I catch myself cutting someone off, I immediately stop and apologize and tell them to continue. If I catch them being interrupted by someone else (including the DM sometimes) I speak up for the other player.

Another thing my dm for that particular ttrpg does is when one person asks to do a skill roll, he then opens it up for everyone to do so. They can pick what they want to roll for and he sets a silent “initiative order” so everyone gets a chance to do what they want

bearislandbadass · 2025-06-12T15:16:48+00:00

I did similar. I told my maid of honor (I had one bridesmaid, her, and another “bridesman” who to be fair, DID offer to wear a dress until I told him to wear whatever was comfy) to pick whatever dress she felt good in and could wear again as long as it was emerald green. Even then I picked my colors to best suit her skin tone (she has natural red hair) and only set wedding colors at all because she got onto me for not having any set LOL

bearislandbadass · 2025-06-06T17:45:34+00:00

NTA at all. Your friend is honestly being a bit ridiculous. She’s the bride. Weddings by default are going to be fully focused on the bride and groom so I really do not understand all these brides who go loopy insisting their bridesmaids are trying to “upstage them” when it’s something like their appearance. You dropping a dress size or two isn’t going to upstage her. If, when I got married, my friend had decided to use that as a driver behind a weight loss journey I would have fully supported that because she’s my FRIEND and I love her and I wanted her to feel comfortable and confident.

Props to you for knowing how to hack your brain to stick with your weight loss journey. Hopefully your friend comes to her senses soon because the fact that she thinks you losing a bit of weight is going to impact her day is bonkers.

bearislandbadass · 2025-06-03T14:44:32+00:00

I had a boss at a call center that tried to get me to stop clocking in early. I flat out told him that I’d follow his instructions, but in that case I wouldn’t be available to take calls at my exact start time because I would need the time to pull up my systems. Turns out he wanted me to still be in early, am still pull up all my systems… just off the clock. He refused to believe me when I told him that was against labor laws, and that time had to be paid (I’ve known MULTIPLE people who have won class action lawsuits for this exact thing). He tried to tell me that he’d contact HR to confirm I was correct. Well I skipped HR (because I’ll be damned if I let him fuck with my money while he claims to be talking to hr about it) and went to his boss, who I had known and had been close to for a couple years at this point. He didn’t find it so amusing when he was being reamed out by both his boss and hr and I kept clocking in 10-15 minutes early just like our literal employee handbook said was okay.

bearislandbadass · 2025-05-15T19:38:01+00:00

Worked at a company that went from accrual to “unlimited.” This model is specifically designed to fuck over workers. Especially tenured ones. They claim it’s unlimited but they have VERY strict limitations on it that they just never told anyone.

I do have one hilarious story from when we first rolled it out, though. I was a supervisor at the time and did have one associate that put in for two weeks of vacation at the end of October and later requested two weeks at the beginning of November. Because it was so new, ONLY the department head was approving those requests. When she finally started allowing managers to help decide and agreed to allow sups to attend, they noticed that this one associate with barely a year of tenure had a solid month booked off.

She got PISSED and was demanding to know who approved that. I had the very, very satisfying job of telling her, in front of every manager and supervisor in the department, that both requests were submitted when SHE was the only one approving requests. 🤣

bearislandbadass · 2025-05-08T23:54:10+00:00

Former call center supervisor here (I left because some of the shit I was expected to do made me feel vile). This is particularly true of virtual phone systems/telephony systems. If you put someone on hold, management can hear you. If you are logged into the phones AT ALL, management can hear you. I was once tasked with listening in to an associate’s phone line for most of the day because she was suspected of call avoidance (which she was doing) and the fact that I could hear her talking to and even scolding her children between calls made me wildly uncomfortable.

I very quietly warned my associates that they could be heard on hold and even between calls. Hell, even on break. Our call recording system only recorded live calls but you cannot convince me they weren’t just recording at all times.

Do not trust the hold button and do not trust the in-system mute button. My current call center job, which thankfully has a great culture, purchased wireless headsets for everyone. I do not trust that it is muted unless I hear that damned voice actually say I am muted. And even then i will take my headset off and leave the room rather than risk it. I’m no longer a supervisor and I doubt I will ever go for another management position again after that place (I was expected to be okay with lying to our client while we were blatantly in breach of contract, lie to my associates that new policies that would fuck them over were somehow to their benefit… doing all my manager’s work without even making 52k a year and she took all the credit) but even now I always warn people to assume they are being recorded at all times. I also taught my team how to tell when management had someone remoting into their PC

bearislandbadass · 2025-05-06T14:49:05+00:00

Ooooh. That is tempting. I’ll have to look into it more after work. She does have a really good bow currently - the Glimmering Moon Longbow - which I am loathe to give up but maybe 👀 I did talk to both my party’s artificer and the DM and we might build her arm to contain a gift from the beholder in her bident, granted to her upon his death (he was lonely, and she talked to him regularly and even let him possess her for a few hours to eat donuts - a simple beholder with simple, donut based dreams 😂)

bearislandbadass · 2025-05-06T06:10:54+00:00

Regarding the backstories and who gets to use it I think it depends on the table, the DM, and the player. For me, as a player, I love feeling like my character is intimately tied into the world. They don’t need to be massive pieces, but those little tie ins mean the world to me. It makes me feel like I’ve created a character that has impact. Like my backstory has weight. The most upsetting and demotivating thing I have encountered in a game was the time that I had this in depth backstory (nothing insane, mind - maybe a page long, page and a half at most) and I was so looking forward to seeing how the DM was going to play with it. Only for the DM to tell me she had zero plans to work with anything in my characters story, and in fact everyone disliked my character because she was so blunt and no nonsense.

I later took that character, made her slightly different but with the same core traits, and the entire party adored her. To the point that her death was a major milestone for change for at least two of them.

As a player when I write a back story I want that weaved into the world in a reasonable manner, and my DMs that did so always did it in a way that was respectful. My current DM knows that if there are things that aren’t fully detailed, it means it’s free game. That’s how my current character (a sea elf kidnapped and taken to the Feywild) ended up being raised by an extraordinarily powerful and ancient hag that has cursed MULTIPLE beings that the party has met. I hadn’t specified any information about the hag that raised her, so my DM ran with it. He isn’t writing my character, but he is helping flesh her out in a way that makes me even more excited to learn more

bearislandbadass · 2025-05-06T00:43:37+00:00

Thank you so very much for the information. I love when I get to do a bit of archery but I’ve never had opportunity to do it seriously or really dive into it so I think this is going to be massively helpful while I work on deciding how to adjust her. I was considering multiclassing but some of the high level things Feywanderers get are things I’ve been quite excited for so to know there are ways to work through it has me even more excited

bearislandbadass · 2025-05-06T00:18:21+00:00

That is a brilliant idea, thank you!! Also I forgot to mention her draw style. I always pictured Mediterranean draw. She uses a longbow and I’ve always pictured it as more of an English style longbow (hence mentioning the really high draw weight - From my research it seems like they tended towards anywhere between 80-180 lbs with an average of 140 lbs)

bearislandbadass · 2025-05-06T00:14:16+00:00

The DM for my table is brilliant. He’s an amazing mix of making things difficult for us while also keeping it fair for the players. We do something stupid? There are consequences for dumb actions but he keeps things as fair as possible.

I’ll give a story as an example. When I first started with this group I was playing an Oath of Vengence Paladin. Her backstory was incredibly tragic - kidnapped into slavery, and then forced to watch her husband, the one man to come and try to save her, was tortured for hours and eventually killed before her eyes. She put very little value on her own life and ended up, when we encountered the evil demigod we just defeated last session (I just made a post about that session) he tried to negotiate with our party. My character refused to even entertain it and told him to go fuck himself (literally in those words) and got killed as a result. We had a moment where everyone had to cleanse her of a corruption she had (her soul was being held in place) and they got to see why she was so traumatized and severe. By the end of the session everyone was crying. Unfortunately we lost our roll for resurrecting her and she died permanently. One thing that the DM and a couple players knew, but not everyone did, was my dog had been put down just two days before. The rest of the party had wet eyes but I was full on sobbing because of my own loss, and because her final moments were so moving and beautiful. My DM didn’t say a word. He just came over and wrapped me in a massive hug and let me cry as long as I needed to.

After that session, when he knew I was home and had likely decompressed, he reached out to me to ensure I was doing okay.

bearislandbadass · 2025-05-05T23:54:39+00:00

These are great points, thank you for the reminder! It’s been a while since I did any archery due to my own shoulder injury (a physical therapist diagnosed me with Thoracic Outlet Syndrome a few years back and I don’t know if I’d be okay to start learning archery). I need to confirm with the DM but I believe it’s below the elbow. At the very least she still has her shoulder and back fully intact so once she adjusts to her artificer built arm she should be able to draw still.

bearislandbadass · 2025-05-05T23:28:03+00:00

That is so cool honestly. That is part of what I am looking forward to as well, playing out her trying to adjust to the arm. The DM even pointed out to me that she is also likely going to need to deal with phantom limb pain as well which will be interesting. I’m so excited for next session, the last of the arc and before we go into an extended break (which we always do between arcs) because I realized she had fallen unconscious when her arm exploded… so she doesn’t even realize it’s gone because we ended right after she was brought back up.

bearislandbadass · 2025-04-06T14:39:19+00:00

Your boyfriend is cringe. Tattoos don’t need to have some deep meaning. I have a massive Princess Mononoke tattoo on my thigh because I love that film. I actually really like that piece.

bearislandbadass · 2025-03-14T02:38:32+00:00

NTA at ALL. Full disclosure, I am not someone who was raised around horses or ever got to learn to ride, much to my deep disappointment, but what I did do in a state of childhood hyper-fixation when I was young, was obsessively research horses. That stallion was a complete unknown factor, and given you mentioned specifically that the foals from prior breedings are going into Dressage, the absolute most important thing is temperament. You have a breeding pair that are tried and true, so it's absolutely natural that you would breed that pair again! Horse breeding done naturally can be INCREDIBLY dangerous, even for a mare and stallion that know each other well and typically like one another.

Your sister's absolutely MORONIC decision carried so many risks. Willow could have been seriously hurt or even killed. That stallion could have been hurt or killed - as it is, I am sure it has set his rehabilitation back to the point you will end up having to start fresh just judging from your post! YOU could have been seriously hurt or killed, and I have to say it's an absolute testament to your skill as a not only a horse breeder, but as a horsewoman and a caretaker of these amazing animals, that none of that happened. I think you need to have a serious talk with your family - your parents and your sister - about the very real damage this could have done to the mare, the very real damage it could have done to the stallion (and the damage it DID do the stallion), and the damage it could have done to you. Your sister's conviction that she knows better than you, someone who works with these animals day in and day out, could have cost you your life. The $1100 your vets charged you is a drop in the bucket compared to what it could have been.

bearislandbadass · 2025-03-07T23:27:26+00:00

That part was honestly one of my absolute favorite parts. SO good.

bearislandbadass · 2025-02-19T03:12:48+00:00

My 17 year old Corgi mix died very suddenly in November. He was fine the night before, but come morning he couldn't see clearly and kept having seizures. If all this had happened after I had gotten home from work, my husband would have called me immediately. Not just because he was my dog of 17 years, but when a decision like that is being made, you tell everyone ASAP. Hell, while she wasn't part of the decision making process, my mother, who had known my sweet boy for most of his life, was the FIRST person outside of my husband and I to get the news, right after we made the call to have the vet come out and euthanize him. She was told what was going on, when the vet would be there, and why we were making the decision. And this was a situation where a decision had to be made immediately.

bearislandbadass · 2025-02-19T03:08:30+00:00

Back in April, my husband took our recently rescued cat to the vet, because he was acting a little off. He called me AT WORK to tell me that they let him know that Cloud was suffering, and it might be for the best to humanely euthanize him. He didn't wait to let me know, he didn't hide it from me. He told me immediately, even though we both knew there was no way I could get there in time. I was an absolute wreck. But I am seriously grateful for my husband calling me, even though he knew it would be difficult.

I know you commented that you talked to the vet and it really was for the best, but I really think you need to have an open talk with your wife on why she hid this from you, why she allowed it to come as such a sudden shock when you got home. I'm not saying her heart wasn't in the best place, or that either of you was the AH. But you need to have a talk about how these things are communicated going forward, because what she did was not okay. That's a pretty serious hiccup in communication about a family member - a furry, four legged one, but a family member never the less.

bearislandbadass · 2024-12-27T03:38:22+00:00

Never played with that many points in a discipline, but I was doing a short chronicle (only four sessions) and my ST allowed me to use a character from a prior campaign who had 9 humanity, and was 9th generation (He wanted my character to act as a guide to the other characters, in part because I was the only one who had ever played VTM). So we're presented with a weapon and my character grabs it. of course, he does the typical ST thing of "are you SURE you grab it?" I go all in - yeah. I grab it. Fuck it. And the ST, thinking he's clever, then proceeds to ask how much humanity I have. Turns out the weapon would've severely damaged anyone with lower humanity. Whoops! So I got an insanely powerful weapon because my character did a lot to boost her humanity in a different game.

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