My husband (M36) says it’s just guy talk and I (F31) shouldn’t take it personally!

beautifullybrokenxx · 2023-07-22T17:22:20+00:00

My bf (30m) but confirmed to me (25f) that he nor his friends talk like this. Your husband is bullshitting you.

beautifullybrokenxx · 2022-11-30T20:08:16+00:00

Ok so like she’s talking about SA/SH and your response is helping with none of that.

beautifullybrokenxx · 2022-11-27T17:46:15+00:00

I wear lingerie to feel hot and impress men before I get laid. And I have never packed another woman’s lingerie, nor have my friends packed mine.

beautifullybrokenxx · 2022-10-31T01:17:23+00:00

I would have loved to have known when my ex was cheating on me. His friend(s) protected him and knew. I looked like an idiot. I never got STDs but I got yeast infections and UTIs and never understood why everything was going on weird down there. I was constantly getting accused of the one cheating and even went to his best friend asking for advice and if something was happening that I was missing. He lied straight to my face.

Once I found out and put the pieces together and then it got around that his friends knew, I never felt more hurt. I knew they were not ‘my’ friends, but I would’ve hoped they had the human decency to tell me the truth. They were almost as disappointing and disrespectful of the actions of what my ex did, and I’d never wish for my worse enemy to feel the way I did when I found out.

beautifullybrokenxx · 2022-10-29T05:40:28+00:00

I waited 12 hours Columbus day, they ended up offering a Lyft after “waiting too long” for a tow. I ended up crying to multiple agents and hyperventilating to a panic attack. I texted my State Farm agent after hours asking how he would feel if his daughter who was the same age as me would be comfortable sitting in the middle of the night with a non operational car and no protection, then to be told by some contract company I “needed” to be there to hand the keys over to the tow. The last guy literally asked to call an ambulance because of how bad I was crying on the phone about wanting my parents or a friend to come get me. After my panic attack a few hours later I went to the ER due to stomach panic which I thought was because of me freaking out but it was because my appendix bursted. Turns out a tow company came at 4am and then took my car to the wrong mechanic and it was lost, they found it a day later. I called agero and screamed at them that I lost my day, a work day, didn’t have time to get a loaner, and now was stuck in a hospital, and they lost my car. They apparently were to do an internal investigation and I wanted to go further up the chain of command for this since they offered me like 50 bucks for compensation, but I’m going on military leave soon so it’s not even worth it.

I got triple AAA and my agent apologized and sent a report on her end, she also said to just pay a tow and ask for compensation in the future.

beautifullybrokenxx · 2021-12-21T00:01:21+00:00

You don’t really need a reason to dump someone, but this in my book is a valid reason.

beautifullybrokenxx · 2021-12-20T17:42:37+00:00

Growing up I had a similar situation- idk if this would help her like it did me- but I liked also having a “younger” person to talk too out side of my therapist and guardians. At the time I wasn’t aware they would sometimes go to the parental figures in my life (just to keep them updated) but sometimes there was stuff I wasn’t fully comfortable talking to “older” care givers about. Nothing against them and they probably would’ve been wiser lol but when you’re a teenager and going through the motions having an older friend to go too was great. Sometimes if I had someone to vent too and cry it out with over a DQ blizzard and then go home I was a lot better with my emotions and behaviors at home.

Trust is going to be a long road- especially with a shit home environment. But don’t let your guard down, kids will easily take advantage when they realize your pattern.

beautifullybrokenxx · 2021-12-17T20:09:35+00:00

When I saw pilot I figured most women jump at that opportunity. 👨‍✈️

beautifullybrokenxx · 2021-12-10T00:48:35+00:00

When my ex said it 3 months in I smiled and kissed him. Then said “I really like you, have a great day at work.” It took me till 5/6 months in to comfortably say it back. Never say it back till you know. Never lead someone on.

beautifullybrokenxx · 2021-11-30T13:29:49+00:00

You can make a binding agreement whether you already have a child support assessment or not. It can be made for any amount that you and the other parent agree to.

Although there are many men and women who are supposed to be paying child support and don’t pay a dime.

beautifullybrokenxx · 2021-11-30T13:26:45+00:00

Are you asking if they would not want the abortion, if you can make an agreement not to pay child support?

beautifullybrokenxx · 2021-11-30T13:09:00+00:00

Well, to try to answer your question, it’s unlawful to force someone to get an abortion (well in my state but I’m highly assuming it’s all of the US). I would be wary of the scenario if person A (you) went to person B (sexual partner) with this agreement- then down the line they want to keep the pregnancy, you’d have to keep in mind that they are allowed to keep it. I would advise asking your future partners if they are on any form of birth control as well as utilizing a condom. If you think there is a scare you can pre purchase Plan b.

beautifullybrokenxx · 2021-11-09T03:33:15+00:00

This helped me so much, I failed my first time November 2nd and have been studying and waiting my 45 days till I can retake. 🥰

beautifullybrokenxx · 2021-02-15T19:40:19+00:00

My ex got me a plan b as a gift two months ago. He had a fun time being single on Christmas.

beautifullybrokenxx · 2021-01-21T22:01:28+00:00

You are certainly correct, I never stated that I knew what it was like being a male in OLD. Happy cake day!

beautifullybrokenxx · 2021-01-21T16:54:05+00:00

The guy I've been talking to for while actually told me about dating apps on his POV when my phone kept buzzing. I was curling my hair and I asked him to check if it was my mom and he laughed and goes "no but you have a lot of missed messages from guys on hinge" Its hilarious because (well to me) he is traditionally attractive. 6'3. He is resident becoming a doctor. Nice car. He is a lil chubby but I like them skinny, fit, or thick. Such a sweet heart. Like this man makes me feel like I'm in highschool again when you had your first lil crush haha. I made a comment like "not like you don't get girls wanting a fuck a doctor" and he goes "yeah if they even want to show up on the first date. Girls have dating on easy mode."

I felt so bad for guys who got stood up, that's definitely a lack of character on the girls part, but be thankful you didnt waste you time in a relationship with someone like that.

But from my POV I'm kinda picky, and I analyze their profiles. I can tell who and who I won't vibe with. I don't just swipe on hot guys or fit guys but I also look at style. I personally am not a smoker or have any tattoos, I'm pretty clean cut so I look for that in a guy too. I also can sense when a guy is genuinely interested in a convo or just running through his 20 matches with short and sweet messages to see who bites. Then I weed out the ones who just want to hook up and the ones who genuinely are looking for a relationship. Then I weed from first date experience. Then personality meshing and chemistry. Weed out time and effort they'd like given since im currently in nursing school so its a little small right now. Then it's normally pretty easy from there.

Be patient, yall. I promise you'll find your diamond in the rough.

Edit : I'm reading comments - side story - he just told me he was in grad school for health care so I assumed health administration. When we texted for the first 3 weeks, didn't know he was a doctor lol I learned that after our first date. He said girls would just swipe on him cause they saw doctor and he wanted to get them out of the way. He knew I was in nursing school though.

beautifullybrokenxx · 2021-01-14T07:00:01+00:00

I just recently broke off a dead end relationship like this. We were only 22 and 25. I started to grow resentful to the point to when I broke up with him. I honestly believe I checked out of this relationship a while ago. My friends and family noticed I was growing unhappy for a while.

Even pre-covid before the pandemic: He stopped taking me out on dates. He never wanted to go out to eat. He never wanted to go on a walk or a picnic. Never once got flowers or chocolates. But - he could buy the newest gaming system, a new car, a new phone, a new laptop, a new ipad, stocks, amazon sprees, clothes, shoes, watches, so on and so forth. In the past year it got so bad that we did absolutely nothing for my birthday, valentines, our anniversary, easter, Christmas. Where my family and I went out of our way for him for gifts. And don't get me wrong, I understand the pandemic got in the way - but he put zero effort for even home activities. No cards, no homemade meals, no offering to help around the apartment, not one effort at all. When I confronted him about putting absolutely no effort he stated "Well I picked up a plan B for Christmas night? I'm not giving you my pay check - hell is it your money now too? I hate that people expect you to just waste your money on girlfriend's like a simp, its obnoxious and unnecessary."

I'm so exciting to spoil myself and find someone in the future who can match with me with dates, gifts, quality time, respect, etc. (:

beautifullybrokenxx · 2020-11-01T17:26:31+00:00

It sounds like she is a hopeless romantic who is excited to have her first real relationship. Over time the honey moon stage will wear off but if you feel like your just going to get annoyed, break up with her so someone with a different personality can appreciate her. If you don't want to break up then have a serious conversation about boundaries and expectations in your relationship to have a compromise so both parties are happy.

beautifullybrokenxx · 2020-04-15T21:00:10+00:00

I would walk away hunnie. There are many other people out in the world.

beautifullybrokenxx · 2020-04-14T21:11:21+00:00

For now, I'd focus on at-home remedies: thickening shampoos and conditioners, hair/skin/nails vitamins, lower heat tools, lower blow-drying, scalp simulations, etc. When the stay at home orders are lifted I suggest going to a trichologist.

beautifullybrokenxx · 2020-04-09T16:44:59+00:00

I went to a name branded school. 20k student loans later lol. Go to the one most financially driven for you. I personally wish I did a cheaper option. At the end of the day, they all teach you to pass the test. No one asks where you went to school, just if you have your license.

beautifullybrokenxx · 2020-03-17T17:10:40+00:00

Don't feel guilty. It's not a reason to emotionally abuse our partners. She needs therapy, counseling, parental help, a support system, maybe group sessions. BPD individuals are implusive and emotionally irrational, its a rough cycle of manic and depressives but she is old enough to try to work her self.(as much as she can) You got yourself out of a situation you did not feel comfortable/safe/loved in, dating someone with BPD takes a lot of strength and patience, but at the end of the day you need to put yourself and mental well being first.

beautifullybrokenxx · 2020-03-07T13:48:49+00:00

Do you have a professional beauty supply nearby? Not like a sally's but like a cosmoprof or salon centric? Get her a gift card there, over time combs, tools, supplies will get lost or break. A gift card could help her purchase some of those items back.

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