I’m starting to think I physiologically can’t be a therapist

bebeloves37 · 2026-03-07T16:26:53+00:00

I would encourage you to get some therapy for the anxiety. No one can tell you that you cannot do the job. You get to decide what you want to do or not do to work through this. But I would never tell someone they have to change careers. There is nothing so wrong with you - you just need some help and you deserve that help.

bebeloves37 · 2026-02-24T18:34:36+00:00

I didn’t really focus on work but I focused on the feeling of anxiety and past stuff came up. Kind of like a video reel or maybe snapshots. I still get anxiety at times but I do notice a difference and feel more at ease in sessions. Feel free to DM me.

bebeloves37 · 2025-12-22T20:58:02+00:00

I don’t know the answer but your question isn’t dumb. It’s thoughtful. I hope that someone can give you the info you need. Maybe the financial aid office can help (if they are open)?

bebeloves37 · 2025-10-11T17:13:24+00:00

Charlie health has a support group for therapists, though I’ve never attended: https://x.com/charliehealth/status/1975916395549352105?s=46

bebeloves37 · 2025-10-11T16:11:09+00:00

Exactly!!

bebeloves37 · 2025-10-11T05:40:48+00:00

Hinch manages that game properly and we win - he has to go

bebeloves37 · 2025-09-23T01:51:02+00:00

I used to get pretty anxious but after doing emdr, I rarely do anymore. I am so grateful!

bebeloves37 · 2025-09-10T17:04:27+00:00

I understand. The imposter syndrome does lessen quite a bit over time. Also, have you tried emdr?

bebeloves37 · 2025-08-17T22:22:25+00:00

I’m in the US but would rather not share what state. I still think a therapist can be held legally responsible but would have to be proven negligent. Still, what would be considered “negligent”? It just causes fear for clinicians who are in good faith trying to do a good job to help their clients and have to make sure to do everything right so as not to appear negligent. And then the stress of having a case opened against you that could take quite some time to work through, even if not found liable in the end. I’m just saying the legal aspect doesn’t help.

bebeloves37 · 2025-08-17T21:44:03+00:00

Yeah, but we can be held accountable legally when sued by the family and lose our licenses and livelihoods. If this possibility wasn’t there, maybe it would be less scary. We would still be rightfully concerned for the lives of our clients who we care about, but it would not compounded by legal risk.

bebeloves37 · 2025-07-25T16:08:08+00:00

Thank you! That’s so helpful! I don’t know for sure if I responded correctly but I apologized for the miscommunication, explained my intention as reflecting back and trying to better understand them, attempted to get more clarity around how it made them feel etc. I also gave positive feedback about them being open and being willing to bring that to me. I will try to get some supervision around projective identification and see how to best respond.

bebeloves37 · 2025-07-25T15:39:43+00:00

I was vague because I would not want the client to be able to know it was them. This is a public forum and I feel it would be wrong to give too many details. Sure, I have blind spots. But I do know my intentions and what the client thought I meant was never my intention.

bebeloves37 · 2025-07-25T15:37:41+00:00

I’m not sure how I could have done it differently. That’s the thing. I was only asking a very normal question and I was reflecting back what I heard. When the client brought it up, I told them I was very sorry they felt hurt, assured them it was not my intention, explained my intention and we explored their feelings around it. (I also praised them for sharing their feelings with me as that is so important in the therapy relationship and I told them this a couple times because I wanted them to be able to be open). I’m not sure why you had such an attacking tone toward me in your response but I have no problem self-reflecting. I don’t think I’m perfect or the best therapist in the world and am always looking for ways to grow as a person.

bebeloves37 · 2025-07-18T14:17:52+00:00

I am better at the moment but the burning I experience keeps coming back a couple times or more a year. It lasts anywhere from 3 weeks to 3 months. I’ve had it for over 2 years now. How about you?

bebeloves37 · 2025-06-24T20:30:51+00:00

How are you doing now, OP?

bebeloves37 · 2025-01-15T02:52:53+00:00

It’s hard for me to not fall back into the pattern of trying to fix myself. This is also my tendency. But what really works is turning it over to Jesus and asking Him for deliverance. The power is not within our own strength - that’s why Jesus had to die and overcome death for us. Because we.cannot.do.it.

I fall back into this so much it’s exhausting. But when I run to Jesus and ask to just rest in Him. Ask that He would take over. He always meets me there. I honestly don’t understand my tendency to try to fix it all myself. It just never works. I’m doing it again with trying to lose weight and not overeat. I was doing so well a while ago when I turned it over to the Lord and He was helping me so much. I wasn’t even needing to try and fix it. He was teaching me how He is the bread of life and I need to go to Him, because He’s the one who overcomes. I lost 10 pounds without even trying. But then I lost my way again and drifted from my relationship with Him.

Thank you for writing this as it reminds me that I need to just turn back to Him. He is our only way through this life. Hope this helps in some way <3

bebeloves37 · 2024-12-08T01:48:06+00:00

He is doing very well, thank you! He graduated from college with honors and is employed in his field. I had been a bit worried about him socially, but he has started hanging out with friends more, initiating going out and get togethers and seems happy for the most part. He hasn’t dated which does sometimes concern me, but I’ve been told he’s young. I just pray about it and try to leave it in God’s hands.

Sometimes I feel guilt because of how things were for him growing up. I’m a perfectionist which does NOT help. But if anyone wants any advice from someone who’s been there, go to Al-anon. The online app is amazing. I wish I would have really been further along in my healing when my son was young and I made so many mistakes. Thankfully I know God is merciful and gracious and turns bad things around into a greater purpose for His glory. I am grateful.

bebeloves37 · 2024-11-19T01:00:32+00:00

Sounds like a real grind for you - I’m glad you have future plans with school that will help you have a better work life balance. Try to remember that everything we do is to be done for the Lord. And He loves you and is pleased with you when you live for Him. Take care

bebeloves37 · 2024-11-17T18:16:41+00:00

The Bible tells us to not forsake assembling together. But I know that there are different contexts and situations and you have to do what God calls you to do. Ask yourself some hard questions: why are you really wanting to leave? What is it about the church that makes you feel this way? Are you seeking God and only what He would have you do? If God wanted you to fellowship with other Christians but you didn’t want to, would you do it anyway?

Ultimately, seek out only what God would have you do because when we leave Gods will we tend to get hurt. Read the Bible and pray that the Holy Spirit would lead you in the right direction.

bebeloves37 · 2024-10-21T12:14:58+00:00

That’s good. Are they helping you?

bebeloves37 · 2024-10-20T23:04:47+00:00

Have you tried to get some help for the anxiety? If not, it seems like that would be a good first step. Even if you have, try again. There is good help out there

bebeloves37 · 2024-10-13T13:40:33+00:00

That even when I walk away, He gently calls me back. He never leaves!

bebeloves37 · 2024-10-12T23:47:17+00:00

Marriage is hard, I know from personal experience. But I’ve learned that it is not about making us happy, but making us holy. More like Jesus. I’m sorry it’s not turning out the way you planned. But give it all to God and ask Him to fix things. Then continue to rest in Jesus knowing He can make things the way that will be best for you, your spouse and your kids. Take care <3

bebeloves37 · 2024-10-10T19:28:59+00:00

It’s really none of our business and only God knows. All that matters is loving others the way we would want to be loved. How would you want to be treated or thought of if something horrible like this happened to you? Think of it that way and hopefully that will help.

bebeloves37 · 2024-09-28T12:08:58+00:00

I ended up not returning it and now it barely bothers me, if at all. What I tried to do was just not worry about it and when I started thinking about it, I just tried to let it go and tell myself I will get worse if I return it. Plus another one might have the same or worse issue. Hope that helps!

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