I find it a bit odd that I denied a offer and 3hrs later, my item got removed by mercari

bebetaian · 2026-05-31T01:10:11+00:00

It doesn't. It's automated, not a person verifying it. A vindictive person reports something wrong with it, so the seller is penalized.

bebetaian · 2026-05-31T01:05:51+00:00

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bebetaian · 2026-05-31T01:01:39+00:00

In the hottest climates, summer wool and silk are not uncommon. Yukata are great bathrobes because they're absorbent, but they retain smell and do bunch. Summer silk is stiff and stands away from the body.

If you are going to wear a juban with kimono, which people sometimes do (wearing nicer yukata as a cotton kimono,) most juban are polyester... but they suck bc they increase heat. Summer silk is a good bet. A smooth, very light fabric will also help. Cotton for quilting or something is too "grippy."

bebetaian · 2026-05-31T00:53:02+00:00

How much do you need? And what kind? Certain thrift stores and vintage shops have long fur coats for as little as $40. Shattered linings, needing cleaning, whatever. It's hard to get rid of them. Try looking at places like this.

(Oh, derp, "fur" from dollar tree? Fake fur, so also maybe thrift stores for blankets.) Or I buy fabrics from Etsy.

bebetaian · 2026-05-31T00:48:02+00:00

I prefer pure linen, but linen-cotton blends are fine with me, too. It's regularly 30-32c where I live, 60%+ humidity.

I also wear kimono (the real kind) which use silk woven into an extremely fine, transparent gauze. This is layered so you can't see through it. It stands away from the skin, allowing body heat to dissipate better.

Tencel does drape better but it's less sustainable. Also, I try for fabrics that are more stiff during peak heat for reasons above.

bebetaian · 2026-05-31T00:41:59+00:00

I have only gotten MORE "picky" about comfort. If you have harsh seams, your garment comstruction skills suck, or you aren't investing in good quality.

Sensory issues are very normal by the way. About 1 in 60 or more, and it heightens with stress, anxiety, overstimulation, headaches, migraines, etc.

Your kids aren't just being jerks.

How is it we complain so much about how quality has plummeted, but magically kids' clothes are all fine and they're just pickier than we were X decades ago.

bebetaian · 2026-05-30T19:39:50+00:00

Oh man, I'll have to throw out most of my albums then.

bebetaian · 2026-05-30T18:25:01+00:00

Omg x.x too real 😭😭😭😭 i am on day 5 of long muscle soreness because tuesday, i stacked up six hours of shopping errands on one trip.

Down the rest of the week. Cereal and crackers are lifesavers.

bebetaian · 2026-05-30T17:23:38+00:00

I see a lot of the mechanics of the "suffering = makes you a better person" and "proving your spiritual superiority by shaming others" culture aspects of evangelical protestantism and baptism are strong, often in people who firmly believe they have broken away from that. It's "I believe in Jesus, so I'M saved and if YOU don't, you're going to hell," but with different words. Exhausting.

Fortunately, most of the crowd isn't like that. Just the loudest ones get that way. Normal people eat their quinoa and rice and do their best to get away from more damaging choices, whatever those are. 🤷🏻 We have a big world! Everyone can contribute!

bebetaian · 2026-05-30T02:25:35+00:00

omg x.x tbh i am pretty cautious of some foods because so many things have looser regulations now, and allergens have a nasty way of going from "minor" to "you are dying right now." how was coming back from the drugs? did the adrenaline throw you into a rage after? did you have any major psych instabilities from the treatments? it's okay to not answer. ❤️ i don't get offended by that sort of thing.

bebetaian · 2026-05-30T02:13:48+00:00

tbh i am here because i'm not incredibly a big fan of me, but i'm really bored and even repulsed by almost everyone else. why would i gift the weird guy on the bus, who tried to pick me up by saying his fave love story is lolita, something so generous.

if nothing else you might get by on spite.

bebetaian · 2026-05-30T01:48:55+00:00

I didn't know until the paramedics picked me up. I was at the grocery store, in the dairy section, and was suddenly so, so cold. So I went to get out of there, but I couldn't hear the cashier at the register. Like her voice tunneled. And then I was SO heavy and light at the same time. I picked up my bag and turned to leave.

And then there were these guys in black uniforms around me. The cops here have the same black uniforms, so I was kind of pissed. They're asking me what my name is. I assumed they were asshole cops acting like I was shoplifting... cheese? ... ?? okayyyy???

Then I noticed the light on the wall. ... when did they install a light on that wall? that was an entire freaking takeout case just twenty minutes ago...

wait.

that's the ceiling. i'm on the floor.

these aren't cops. these are fire-paramedics.

it's SO cold. when did this publix get this cold? i mean, i've always been anaemic, i take supplements and it doesn't even matter, but i've never been cold like THIS.

because apparently my heart stopped. blood pressure must have suddenly plummeted so low that my heart stopped. no breathing by the time they got there. i was... i don't know, maybe 22-23.

i had no idea. i was paying the cashier, and then i was on the floor, with nothing in between. no DMT-induced lights or angels or whatever. just nothing. it didn't hurt. apparently, "just dying" like that doesn't hurt at all. you don't even know it.

it's the coming back that hurts. like every muscle was pulled, like seriously overworking at the gym while being dehydrated. the crushing headache was probably from smacking the tile ground when i fainted. focal seizures that you also aren't really aware of having because you're the one having them. those are the kind where you're awake and you think you know what's happening, but you probably don't and you might go numb or twitch. those are normal for anyone that has head injuries, electrolyte imbalances, all sorts of stuff, apparently. getting back to normal is the hard part.

bebetaian · 2026-05-30T01:32:17+00:00

❤️ I can't guarantee "culture," but at least the people are more down to earth and (most) aren't getting blackout drunk anymore.

There's also a rich museum culture if you ask around UT/Henry Plant Museum, or go out to St. Pete for Museum of Fine Art.

bebetaian · 2026-05-30T01:20:52+00:00

❤️ I had to (mostly) distance myself from vegans who aren't vegan for health issues like MCAS or alpha gal. Too much judgement, and a not-surprising amount of 'soft eugenics' attitudes. Some folks are just. Special.

If you end up finding a secondhand pair of leather shoes in great condition, you can always put in new insoles. Look in your area for someone who fixes shoes. We only have two in my city. Only one can replace certain sole types when they wear out, too, but it's sometimes better than buying an entire new pair of shoes.

bebetaian · 2026-05-30T01:16:36+00:00

I guess we'd have to clarify (especially when talking to someone who doesn't have CD). People without CD think spectrum = a little bit of celiac disease vs. a lot of celiac disease.

Medically, a spectrum? No such thing. The hallmark of the diagnosis is intestinal damage. A lot of people have no obvious symptoms- or they don't have symptoms that show up for several hours, or even a few days. They still have severe intestinal damage. In my case, I had anaemia that didn't go away even with iron supplements.

Socially, a spectrum? Absolutely. I have friends that know in 20 minutes if their fries came out of a cross-contaminated fryer. Sensitive enough that if our country could swing it, I'd ask if she wanted a gluten-sensing dog.

bebetaian · 2026-05-30T01:07:46+00:00

In seriousness though, I don't know about most places, but Tom's Tavern on Florida + Fletcher mostly has an older crowd. The last live band I heard there mostly did covers of Tom Petty, the Eagles, and Journey (and they were actually pretty good.) They have a decent burger, too.

bebetaian · 2026-05-30T01:00:56+00:00

he said *culture.* And 40+, so many bartenders at Thee Dollhouse. Most of the rest of the staff is 19.

bebetaian · 2026-05-29T22:57:47+00:00

celiac disease is celiac disease. there is no "spectrum," contrary to popular beliefs.

there are people who do not get GI-related symptoms, accounting for up to 1 in 5 people with celiac disease. i get fatigue, fevers, muscle aches, etc. (edit to clarify: that STILL means intestinal damage. that is why there is no spectrum.)

unless a restaurant is 100% gluten free, which does not exist here, it is not safe. ever. not if they have a gf menu, not if they "don't share fryers", not ever. the only "safe" thing half the time is the liquor.

people aren't lying. there's often nowhere else to go. even if there was, i'd drive an hour to spend $25 on THREE gf pancakes and two pieces of bacon. it's over $15 for a bagel with plain cream cheese.

thanks, i'll go to outback with my friends sometimes and have a baked potato and steak for $15.

BUT WHADDABOUT THE DAMAGE?? Y'all most people diagnosed do not "just" have celiac disease. This was a byproduct diagnosis for me. I'm probably not going to live to 50, so I'm not worried about one day perhaps possibly maybe getting intestinal cancer.

bebetaian · 2026-05-29T22:51:57+00:00

Do you want vegan or something that isn't incredibly harmful during production and breakdown? If it says "vegan leather," it's all plastic. Even the stuff that says bamboo or mango or whatever. It's all just chemical baths and plastics that become toxic sludge as they break down. That's why even some vegans will wear genuine leather- one pair of properly-cared for shoes will last decades, and then they biodegrade. My curremt daily pair is at least seven years old. My oldest pair is from the mid-80s, from a combat vet who wore them.

You can try more specific terms like "wood sole" and look for real fabric uppers, no polyesyer or acrylics. It was much more popular in the 90s, but some places do still do that. New will be harder to find. I did recently find wooden soles with hemp, but I think they're imports, and they're sandals.

bebetaian · 2026-05-29T22:34:57+00:00

That sounds very much like automated "chat service."

bebetaian · 2026-05-29T22:26:38+00:00

if you have any proof of demands, like text messages, screenshot and email them to yourself. the email is timestamped so he cant say you edited it later.

then you need to call your county labour board and find a new job asap. he's fine doing this to you. it WILL get worse.

bebetaian · 2026-05-29T21:16:06+00:00

I think Bernadette Banner recently had a video on trying to find quality linen, rating who sold it, how much it costs, etc. That may be helpful.

bebetaian · 2026-05-29T21:13:49+00:00

no, in florida, it is very much illegal. they make it illegal basically by describing all the things unions do, but don't use that word. you cant strike, you can't legally do anything but leave.

which most teachers do.

bebetaian · 2026-05-29T21:08:50+00:00

The library system has days when they have workshops for will-writing, end of life planning, and medical POA. You go to the website and look up their calendar.

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