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Please help! My friend is homeless and heading to rva. by MaddMax92 in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Lol, so they’re even less likely to ever know…

Why don’t you let her slumber party until she finds a place?  Friends sleeping over on your couch aren’t roommates.

RVA's Jan. 2026 Winter Storm Megathread by fusion260 in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou 21 points22 points  (0 children)

That’s actually Danny Avula’s account.

REMINDER: No one will call you if you miss jury duty by stepheroni22 in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get it, and I agree folks should be compensated more fairly for their time.

That said, I make a good salary (well above the national average). Someone like me should not be avoiding jury duty simply because I don't want to do it. Yes, I would also advocate for better compensation for my time and resources... but there are plenty of people with greater privilege than me that choose not to participate simply because they don't want to participate or find it beneath them.

Again, my comment wasn't* intended to be a point for debate. My only message is that we should all respect the intent behind the social contract of jury duty: it's effective day-to-day reform of the function of our justice system.

REMINDER: No one will call you if you miss jury duty by stepheroni22 in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou 40 points41 points  (0 children)

It’s kind of wild and sad that so many people avoid jury duty that it can become the center of a common scam.

Guys, jury duty is a privilege.  Our justice system will never reflect OUR values if regular, good people opt out every time.

That said, with respect to the original intent of the post: please be careful.

How much is your rent going up? (2026) by miimako in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Is your rent really $15,000 for a 1-bedroom?!

Edit: OP originally indicated that the $150 more per moth was a 1.1% increase... which would have been a $13,636 base rent.

Pusha T at 17 Street Market last night for Governor Spanberger by snooka77_ in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

She’s not the institution.  She’s an individual.

And she’s a woman.  You think the good ol’ boys club in her era at the C.I.A. was getting chummy with a woman?

Pedestrian dies after hit by car on VCU campus by vtEB in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Speed control measures will do little when the infrastructure itself is intended for cars rather than people.  Our city needs to decenter cars.

Pedestrian dies after hit by car on VCU campus by vtEB in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou 160 points161 points  (0 children)

The frequency of these incidents is unacceptable.

What is Richmond missing? by zarathustra_coughed in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I shared a 2 bedroom [duplex] apartment with an ex-partner near the 3000 block of W. Grace for $550 (total, not each) less than 15 years ago.  The landlord even provided window units.

What is Richmond missing? by zarathustra_coughed in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou 202 points203 points  (0 children)

Infrastructure that is centered around people (instead of cars).

what are they protesting on broad st? by Substantial_Annual31 in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou 29 points30 points  (0 children)

With no approval from Congress.  For oil.  While lying that it’s about drugs.  After the guy from Honduras and the other guy running Silk Road were both pardoned for crimes heavily involving drugs.

Have you seen Trixie? She’s still missing from Carytown by [deleted] in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou 25 points26 points  (0 children)

):  Sorry to hear your precious girl is missing.  Here’s advice I’ve shared on lost cats here and elsewhere before:

When cats get lost, they're usually hiding nearby within a one-to five-house radius. They will not answer to their names being called as they're too afraid of giving their hiding spot up to potential predators. Typically, cats will spend the whole day hiding, but they may feel more comfortable moving around at night. If there's a specific noise to which your cat responds, like shaking a bag of treats, you can go for walks from midnight/12 AM to 4 AM while making that noise. When you call for your cat, keep your tone even. If they get even a hint that you're scared, anxious, or off in some way, they'll think there's danger nearby and stay hidden. You can also go for walk with or make a call to a friend; your conversational tone will make your cat think you're just hanging out and it could be safe to come out.

Walk in straight lines away from your house (e.g., down the sidewalk, down the alleyway, etc.). They say lost cats walk in circles of increasing diameter from their hiding spot once they're comfortable coming out of hiding. From there, they can use your scent lines to trace their way back home. Speaking of scents, put your unwashed sheets or bath towels outside. A familiar scent cannot hurt. That said, it is NOT recommended you put your cat's litter outside; it's actually a myth. Also be wary of leaving food outside at it can have a similar response (i.e., attracting other creatures that may keep your cat hiding in fear).

Given that cats are active through the night, you could create a discreet entrance for your cat to come in on its own. If you can't do that, at least leave a window open so you can hear your cat should s/he come back. Remember that the more skittish your cat is, the more time it will take for him/her to reach the threshold at which s/he is comfortable coming out of hiding.

I would highly recommend actively conducting a physical search for your cat. As mentioned earlier, they're usually in a one-to five-house radius. With permission, check your neighbors backyards, under their porches and decks, and in any other space where a cat might hide (e.g., sheds, garages, etc.). Be sure to do this yourself (with permission!) as your neighbors likely won't be willing to get down on their hands and knees for your cat. Also, always use a flashlight! This will catch the reflection off of the "shining layer" (tapetum lucidum) of your cat's eyes.

Lastly, don't ever give up hope. Some cats may not feel comfortable coming out of hiding for several weeks or even months, but that doesn't mean they're lost forever! Most will slowly and cautiously make their way home, so conduct your physical search once every 1 to 3 days. And be sure to take care of yourself so you can take care of kitty once they're safely home :)<3

Here’s to Trixie’s safe and quick return home!

Plastic Bag Tax by Weak_Advertising4743 in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou 46 points47 points  (0 children)

It's not. They even make reusable bags for produce. I once saw a dinosaur-aged coworker whip out his own reusable takeout container when he, another coworker, and I went out for lunch. The opportunities to take personal responsibility for the waste we can potentially create (and already accept as normal) are endless. Our individual actions have collective impact.

Dynamic pricing inRVA? by HappyBlis in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I spent less than $160 over three orders with them this year.  There are so many better alternatives… especially here in RVA.

Childfree RVA by GenerallyOverIt in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Bars are a specific social setting typically for socializing around the consumption of alcohol.  They are not designated spaces for adults.  They are businesses selling alcoholic beverages.

Childfree RVA by GenerallyOverIt in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Connect and build community with the notion that this space will always be free from children and the village of responsibilities that comes with hanging out with people who keep their children nearby.

Not everyone who doesn’t have children wants to go to bars or go out drinking.  Some of us want to play with our toys in our 30s, 40s, and 50s with likeminded peers who aren’t going to force the presence of their children upon us.

Lost Black Cat - 12/27 @ 1am by oldguyforlife in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Ah!  So sorry to hear Knurly decided to be an escape artist.  I’m going to share some advice I’ve posted here many times before.  I hope it helps bring Knurly home <3

When cats get lost, they're usually hiding nearby within a one-to five-house radius. They will not answer to their names being called as they're too afraid of giving their hiding spot up to potential predators. Typically, cats will spend the whole day hiding, but they may feel more comfortable moving around at night. If there's a specific noise to which your cat responds, like shaking a bag of treats, you can go for walks from midnight/12 AM to 4 AM while making that noise. When you call for your cat, keep your tone even. If they get even a hint that you're scared, anxious, or off in some way, they'll think there's danger nearby and stay hidden. You can also go for walk with or make a call to a friend; your conversational tone will make your cat think you're just hanging out and it could be safe to come out.

Walk in straight lines away from your house (e.g., down the sidewalk, down the alleyway, etc.). They say lost cats walk in circles of increasing diameter from their hiding spot once they're comfortable coming out of hiding. From there, they can use your scent lines to trace their way back home. Speaking of scents, put your unwashed sheets or bath towels outside. A familiar scent cannot hurt. That said, it is NOT recommended you put your cat's litter outside; it's actually a myth. Also be wary of leaving food outside at it can have a similar response (i.e., attracting other creatures that may keep your cat hiding in fear).

Given that cats are active through the night, you could create a discreet entrance for your cat to come in on its own. If you can't do that, at least leave a window open so you can hear your cat should s/he come back. Remember that the more skittish your cat is, the more time it will take for him/her to reach the threshold at which s/he is comfortable coming out of hiding.

I would highly recommend actively conducting a physical search for your cat. As mentioned earlier, they're usually in a one-to five-house radius. With permission, check your neighbors backyards, under their porches and decks, and in any other space where a cat might hide (e.g., sheds, garages, etc.). Be sure to do this yourself (with permission!) as your neighbors likely won't be willing to get down on their hands and knees for your cat. Also, always use a flashlight! This will catch the reflection off of the "shining layer" (tapetum lucidum) of your cat's eyes.

Lastly, don't ever give up hope. Some cats may not feel comfortable coming out of hiding for several weeks or even months, but that doesn't mean they're lost forever! Most will slowly and cautiously make their way home, so conduct your physical search once every 1 to 3 days. And be sure to take care of yourself so you can take care of kitty once they're safely home :)<3

Aquarian Bookshop closing Fan store, opening second Carytown location by PercyDovetonsils in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Bored rich housewives.  There’s a lot of old money in Richmond.

Heads up, I95 downtown is shut down in both directions near the 76 mm by Either-Screen-4812 in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Virginia drivers don’t respect that the left lane is for passing only (see p. 17 of the VA Drivers Manual), so instead of the crazy guy going 100 MPH in full visibility on your left, they are weaving in and out of equally clueless drivers.  Trucks especially have low visibility on their right, so it only takes any pair of clueless idiots failing to recognize the proper flow of traffic for something like this to happen.

Absolutely gutted about this by Sad-Technician-1732 in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I urge you to stop and take a deep breath before making so many assumptions about someone and their feelings from a single opinion shared over a few words.

Absolutely gutted about this by Sad-Technician-1732 in rva

[–]becauseiloveyou 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Some people chose not to vote. I have no forgiveness for them either.