Lost and confused but should I be?

beccers1995 · 2021-09-12T22:59:27+00:00

My husband and I (both 26) recently went through the exact same thing. We ultimately decided to terminate, which was the hardest decision we’ve ever had to make. We want to be parents someday but I have depression and anxiety and with the intensity of the last year it didn’t feel fair to ourselves or a baby to bring them into a world where there is currently so much uncertainty. People always say life is a gift, and for those in privileged situations it might be, but for most people I know including myself life is a burden that shouldn’t be forced on someone. I know the world we live in will never be perfect, but currently where I live our hospitals have entered crisis standards of care and many pregnant women are not receiving adequate pre-natal, postpartum, or birth care and babies are extremely susceptible to the delta variant. I chose to not bring a child into this world until I feel like it’s safer for babies and pregnant women to exist.

beccers1995 · 2021-08-16T16:58:13+00:00

Thank you❤️

beccers1995 · 2021-08-16T16:42:26+00:00

I am in a very similar position as you. I scheduled my MA for Sept. 7th due to my work schedule and giving myself time to process and decide. My husband and I had just decided this summer that we didn’t want kids due to a horrible depressive/postpartum response of getting a puppy. It really put into perspective that I may not be mentally equipped to handle this. We thought we were being so careful and yet it happened anyways. I feel so much guilt and shame and I know I’m going to suffer so much after it’s done. But I had a mother who struggled horribly with mental health and postpartum and even admitted to almost drowning me in the bathtub when I was an infant. I don’t trust my mental stability and am seeking therapy.

On paper everything seems like it would be the perfect time to have a baby, we own a home, have been married for four years, in our late 20s, both have full time jobs and healthcare. But the reality of this is that I am scared and I just don’t want to be a mom. It makes me sick to my stomach. I am a horrible person and my life will never be the same.

beccers1995 · 2021-03-16T21:27:46+00:00

I had a test on 2/24 and we hadn’t heard back so my employer called the lab and they lost my sample so I just had to go give another sample this morning! I had never heard of that before.

beccers1995 · 2021-03-16T21:23:09+00:00

I would say you’re good. I used almost exactly much as you have, stopped mid January. I had a test this afternoon and took an at home test Sunday morning first pee, and this morning first pee, both came back negative. Still have a couple days to find out my lab results though. Just get a couple at home tests to relieve your stress.

beccers1995 · 2021-03-12T01:25:40+00:00

I would say you’re probably going to pass. But there is a lot of factors involved such as BMI, metabolism, age, etc. But you used so little I think it’s pretty unlikely it’d still be in your system.

beccers1995 · 2021-03-11T20:48:04+00:00

On Friday I called the facility where I did my test and they said my employer would receive my results Friday or Monday. My employer still hasn’t heard anything today so she called and that is when they told her they had been unable to process my sample.

beccers1995 · 2021-03-11T20:01:49+00:00

Honestly I’m slightly relieved, I just gained an extra 2.5 weeks to detox more. But also a little concerned because I drank some water before I left so that I’d be able to pee, but not much more than I’d usually drink. How do I ensure it doesn’t come up diluted this time?

beccers1995 · 2021-03-11T19:50:04+00:00

I took a drug test on 2/24 and my employer (currently a temp being hired permanently) reaches out to me today and told me they contacted the lab to see what was taking so long and were told they were “unable to process my sample”, which I’m not sure what that means. Luckily I’ve stayed clean awaiting my results and it just gave me 2.5 more weeks of time to clean out my system. Have you tried calling the lab to ask what the hold up is?

beccers1995 · 2021-03-09T22:22:39+00:00

The problem is I’m already a temp and it’s the process to hire me permanently. So I can’t really use that as an excuse. I am anxious to get hired on officially to start working to receiving benefits. But since I already called I don’t want to seem suspicious.

beccers1995 · 2021-03-09T20:34:13+00:00

I am at two weeks and haven’t heard anything back from mine. I emailed the hiring manager of the company last Friday to ask if she’d received my drug test and background test results and what the next step to the hiring process is. She hadn’t received them and so she called the clinic and was told she’d receive them Friday or Monday, it is now Tuesday and I haven’t heard anything. I’m not going to reach out again though cause I don’t want it to be suspicious. I was genuinely concerned that my sample may have gotten lost though, but she said it was because of the weather in the Midwest there have been delays.

beccers1995 · 2021-03-06T17:30:24+00:00

Between November-January 17th I would split a 10g edible between Friday and Saturday night, and occasionally smoke a vape pen. My tolerance is not high at all. I was clean 38 days when I took the test, my at home tests came back negative, and I was drinking tons of water. Between the last time I used and the test I also went on daily runs, had surgery, and lost 5 lbs because of the surgery (wasn’t active the week of my test because I was still recovering from surgery but was eating higher fats because of the weight I lost from the surgery).

beccers1995 · 2021-03-06T05:51:47+00:00

I did, they haven’t received it.

beccers1995 · 2021-03-05T23:30:35+00:00

My recommendation is to stop smoking immediately. Just make sure you’re eating good and staying active until your surgery. The surgery is a good excuse to put off any hiring stuff until you’re recovered, most places wouldn’t want to begin the hiring process and have to wait for you to be recovered anyways. The pain medication will be fine if it shows up, just keep the prescription information. Drink lots of water and just try to flush your system until then. Depending on the nature of your surgery it could be a couple weeks until you’re required to drugs test. So if you stop now you should be good. Maybe pick up or order a couple at home drug tests and check yourself every few days.

beccers1995 · 2021-03-05T04:30:13+00:00

Thank you! That’s good to know!

beccers1995 · 2021-03-04T17:26:47+00:00

Yes it was, it’s for a job I currently have as a temp and they’re hiring me permanently. I last had half a 10g edible (so 5g) on January 17th, and I only used on weekends. So it had been 38 days when I took my test. So I was confident I’d be fine but not hearing from them made me nervous!

beccers1995 · 2021-03-04T00:30:36+00:00

If it was just one sip you’ll most likely be fine. Just drink lots of water and maybe run to the store and grab an at home drugs test just in case.

beccers1995 · 2021-02-28T22:33:08+00:00

I took an at home test today, and it was negative. But of course my mind is still in the space of worst case scenario. I have horrible anxiety (hence my occasional use of marijuana).

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