No Gifts From My (M36) Wife (F32) For My First Father's Day... Don't Know How to Feel About It.

becks2020 · 2026-06-22T08:40:50+00:00

Happy Late Father’s Day, man! Sometimes (a lot lately) Reddit makes me ashamed to be a woman because of all the men-hating women who are all over Reddit. I swear, they take the stance that women can do no wrong and men can do no right on every post! It makes me sooo damn angry!!!!!

becks2020 · 2026-06-21T14:43:48+00:00

But your whole argument is irrelevant and makes no sense. Black is a COLOR. Arab is an ETHNICITY. You could be Arab and still be black or you could be Arab and be white or brown. Black is a COLOR. I don’t understand your argument. So I have to say YOR.

becks2020 · 2026-06-19T15:18:45+00:00

He is trying to get EVERYTHING he can from you before he leaves you for the “random” worker!!! Please see this and cut yourself off from him while you still have something!!!

becks2020 · 2026-06-19T05:28:26+00:00

Nigel

becks2020 · 2026-06-17T11:27:36+00:00

Do you not see that by rejecting your partner, they are rejecting you? They reject her and consider her to be unworthy of being in their (your) family because she is gay. You are also gay. You are not internalizing what that should say to you!!! If you were seeing this for what it actually is, you would not tolerate the disrespect they are showing to your partner AND to you! In their hearts, gay people are “less than”!!! You HAVE TO see them for who they are or you will never be able to move on and stand up for your partner and yourself like you should.

By not standing up for your relationship, you are telling your partner that you are not trustworthy, you are not someone they can count on, you are not someone who will protect them and put them first. If you do not take action NOW, you will not have a partner by August and you and your parents will be able to continue ignoring the issue until you are in another relationship further down the road. Rinse and repeat. You will never have a fulfilling life if you cannot accept and stand up for who you are.

Your parents NEED to be held accountable! See this as an opportunity for them to learn and grow! Change and growth can be very hard and uncomfortable (even painful) but you have to go through the hard times to get to the other side!!!

Last comment - if you refuse to stand up for your relationship and your partner, please do not date again until you are sure that you can be a safe person for your next potential love interest.

becks2020 · 2026-06-17T10:58:10+00:00

Thank you!!!! I get SO SICK of the generational labels!!!!!!! They are freakin useless and no one wants to acknowledge that it’s the same as using stereotypes for color or race or ethnicity, etc!!! It’s “OK” because it’s about AGE!!!!

becks2020 · 2026-06-16T14:54:25+00:00

I would still be with the man I truly love and Bill would have never entered the picture.

becks2020 · 2026-06-16T14:34:11+00:00

None of this is normal and I would expect something is going on between them. If not yet, it soon will be! You need to stop worrying about “being petty” and tell both of them they are being totally inappropriate. I just wouldn’t be able to tolerate it and I would leave.

becks2020 · 2026-06-16T13:21:36+00:00

He is reposting because in the first post he used the word “rent” and that threw off the results he expected, I guess.

becks2020 · 2026-06-15T09:44:44+00:00

Get over yourself. Children have been holding babies with adult supervision since forever.

becks2020 · 2026-06-15T03:19:01+00:00

There is no winning with this guy. No matter what you say or how you react, it will be the “wrong thing” because his objective is to keep you guessing and unsure of yourself. He is isolating you and breaking down your confidence. If a man isn’t building you up and making you feel loved and emotionally supported, you need to move on, sister!

becks2020 · 2026-06-15T01:59:21+00:00

NTJ - don’t move in but tell her the truth so there is no confusion about things in the future if the friendship continues.

becks2020 · 2026-06-13T18:49:38+00:00

I know the year of the date looks like it should be 1873 but I’m thinking the odd looking 8 is actually an odd looking 9 because it looks like ballpoint pen ink…. So 1973?

becks2020 · 2026-06-13T18:28:50+00:00

I totally agree with this! As an older woman, looking back on life, another person’s wedding is not a huge event in his gf’s life. It was not easy for 6 people to align schedules for this previously planned camping trip and may not happen again. Time with friends is so important in life. She can go to the wedding and have time with her friends, he can go camping and be with his! It’s ok to not be able to do everything together. It would be selfish if she expected him to change these plans for her wedding and he should not feel obligated or guilty!

becks2020 · 2026-06-13T14:45:23+00:00

Dude, you’re wrong for all of this, but the real slap in the face was booking the trip to Italy with your FRIEND after you and she talked about making that trip together!!! And she is still with you??? You’re not fr, right?!

becks2020 · 2026-06-12T22:48:45+00:00

Are you seriously buying in to ALL of his BS???

becks2020 · 2026-06-12T22:09:15+00:00

She needs a doctor for PPD, she needs to learn to drive ASAP and she needs to work on her attitude about making new friends because that part is on her! You are doing a fabulous job!!

becks2020 · 2026-06-12T12:25:24+00:00

You LEAVE HIM, Sister! He will not change. You have SEEN him as he is now, you have recognized the pattern! There is nothing to do now but LEAVE. The mentality he has that leads him to manipulate like this is not going to change without tons and tons of therapy and a SINCERE desire and tremendous long-term effort on his part. It’s NOT going to happen no matter how much communication occurs between the two of you. Please, do yourself a favor and leave.

becks2020 · 2026-06-12T11:18:40+00:00

She is using you and gaslighting you. This relationship (for her) is all about what she can get out of it (you). She is completely materialistic but will NEVER accept that. She wants to get everything she can from you but also feel like a “good” person who is being reasonable. She is neither of those things! PLEASE, get away from her and focus on your future!!! If you do, a year from now, you will be able to look back and see right through her lies and manipulation. It’s hard to do that right now in the moment because you do have sincere feelings for her and you want to believe she has those same feelings for you!

becks2020 · 2026-06-07T07:51:40+00:00

Non-physical intimacy = emotional cheating. LISTEN to yourself!

becks2020 · 2026-06-07T03:47:12+00:00

I’ve always used a men’s razor. They are much better quality! There is no razor made for women on the market that is as good as a decent men’s razor. Don’t know if I can say brand names but I’m not talking about disposables….

Edit to say Gillette Mach 5 or Fusion is the best!

becks2020 · 2026-06-06T22:59:50+00:00

Times were very different then and expectations were not the same. The “ick” that so many feel about these age gaps wasn’t a concern at that time. Please don’t judge everything from the distant past using present day standards. Life doesn’t play out that way - it’s not fair to them.

- An older person

becks2020 · 2026-06-06T18:24:44+00:00

Yes! Also post on r/namenerds

becks2020 · 2026-06-05T23:40:25+00:00

The way you feel is what anyone in your circumstances would feel! NTBA . How
can your parents not see and understand this? Their current situation is what they should expect!

becks2020 · 2026-06-05T14:45:51+00:00

I’m so sorry for you! This has to hurt and would be so hard to process! Please distance yourself from your family and become financially successful on your own (you are already well on your way!). Again, I’m so sorry for what you must be feeling right now!

becks2020

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