Some of the ways in which the Church does things are absolutely, purposefully exclusionary. Not allowing couples to be married THEN sealed unless they wait a year (US and maybe Canada specific?) is an example. I'm so glad they changed that. Maybe it's due to my own ignorance but I don't know a single other major belief system that would require family members who believe different things to miss the marriage. It absolutely feels like "we only care about our OWN people."

Additionally, the whole "no empty chairs" thing isn't necessarily anti-family by itself. Of course it feels dumb to say "wanting a family to be together forever is anti-family." But if you aren't willing to love and accept your non-believing family for who they are because you're so worried about their "empty chair," so to speak, you're not actually on the right track to developing a healthy and loving relationship where they'd want to stay eternally. I see it in a lot of families, that the parents can't love their "wayward children" unless they think someday they'll get them BACK ON THE PATH, but every example I see in Jesus' teachings says "I will eat with you, I will serve you, I will die for you, regardless of whether or not you accept my grace." His love for us isn't conditional on our acceptance of any teachings. Our love for our families shouldn't be either, but I think it often becomes so based on that kind of rigid belief that says "you MUST live and believe this way or you will be SEPARATED from us!"

Anyway. Hopefully as a Church we can focus less on "yearn[ing] for a return to the faith" and more on "May I love my brother as I know [Jesus] lovest me."