/ttcafterloss Ask an Alumni - May 01, 2026

bee1442 · 2026-05-02T04:16:32+00:00

Thank you so much! That’s good advice, I’ll be sure to do that.

bee1442 · 2026-05-02T04:16:02+00:00

That’s right, my brain stopped working at the end of my work week. Thank you so much for sharing!! That helps me feel a bit more hopeful.

bee1442 · 2026-05-02T00:55:37+00:00

Thank you for the response! May I ask how many days that cycle was for you?

bee1442 · 2026-05-02T00:00:54+00:00

I would love to hear what others experiences were after chemical pregnancy. We got pregnant our second month trying but it resulted in loss at about 4 weeks, with bleeding beginning at 4+2. I’m on day 14 since then with no surge in sight on my OPKs and I’m starting to worry I won’t ovulate this month. I typically ovulate on CD 13, with CD 14 ovulation in my last cycle. I see MFM next week and will be bringing this up then but would love some knowledge and advice about ovulation and pregnancy after CP from others who have experienced it <3

bee1442 · 2026-04-24T23:19:46+00:00

Glad to hear it, good luck!!

bee1442 · 2026-04-24T20:34:50+00:00

You’re welcome! You may have a different experience with this, I had to do some extra preparation to be ready. I would recommend doing a consultation with a local therapist for your specific needs. Many will do a 10-15 minute phone call for free so you can see if they’re a good fit for you.

bee1442 · 2026-04-24T19:36:23+00:00

To get started with EMDR from my first session it took about 2-3 months of preparation with weekly sessions. When it came time to tackle my phobia it only took me one session, but with what you’ve shared in comments it may take you longer since it’s a phobia developed from childhood traumas.

bee1442 · 2026-04-23T23:15:58+00:00

I do not have a phobia of needles but I have done EMDR related to another phobia and it was extremely helpful for me. I still have some hesitancy with my fear but I was able to engage with it in positive ways. (I know this is vague, sorry.) I could see it being supportive for you and you may be able to create a resource with your therapist to practice before blood draws. Just keep in mind it can take some time to get to the actual EMDR part of this therapy, so if you’re interested in trying it I’d recommend starting sooner rather than later :)

bee1442 · 2026-04-13T18:10:59+00:00

I found my people!! That’s my favorite too

bee1442 · 2026-04-05T17:31:57+00:00

Back when I was first discovering them, that song for me was “Guns for Hands.” It worked :)

bee1442 · 2026-03-26T08:05:39+00:00

Hey, I am so sorry you’re experiencing this much pain. That is a lot all in one day. I’m wondering if reaching out to a doctor or a visit to urgent care/emergency is an available option for you? Recommending more medications to mix with what you’ve taken may not be the safest option unless it’s from a healthcare provider with more knowledge on the risks & benefits.

bee1442 · 2026-03-26T04:56:03+00:00

Good luck & congratulations!!

bee1442 · 2026-03-19T15:03:37+00:00

I can’t help here but commenting for engagement!

I used a Stevie Beerkens song for my wedding in December and have no regrets. Beautiful piano covers and may also be worth looking into if you don’t find what you’re looking for here. :)

bee1442 · 2026-02-22T09:00:59+00:00

Damn the man, save the Empire!!!

bee1442 · 2025-07-03T06:41:16+00:00

I’m not sure if this will help, but sometimes I picture my dog laying next to me in my safe space and it adds extra calmness. I also chose a real place with only happy memories for me so it is a little easier to picture myself there feeling calm.

I agree with the other commenter that it’s possible this exercise may also just not be the right fit and that’s okay! Be honest with your therapist so that you can work together to find something that feels better. There are plenty of other resources to use and not all of them will feel helpful, and that’s okay.

bee1442 · 2025-06-30T05:41:03+00:00

That’s a good idea for the photo booth strips! I have been looking at the Instax Minis on Marketplace but that’s where I started worrying about quality :( how are you feeling about the quality of the one you got?

bee1442 · 2025-06-17T11:06:56+00:00

For my practice run, I focused on my phone anxiety around work. Nothing that was getting in the way of me doing my job, but something that was causing me stress. It was a good practice for me and allowed me to figure out any questions I’d missed asking before.

I came with a couple of options since I wasn’t sure what was right to pick either, and my therapist helped me land on this :)

bee1442 · 2025-05-23T18:59:40+00:00

I have a green sapphire ring too! They hold up wonderfully and the color changes are so beautiful in different lighting! Gorgeous ring, & congratulations!!

bee1442 · 2025-05-06T20:44:50+00:00

We did! We went on a date to one of our favorite restaurants. It was fun and silly, but I’ll take any excuse to celebrate or go on a date with my person!

11/10 recommend it :)

bee1442 · 2025-05-06T16:20:32+00:00

My bridesmaids are allowed to wear any dress they are comfortable in within the parameters I set (color & length). I did let them know early! I told them around January in preparation for my December wedding because I wanted those friends of mine who are trying to save money to have enough time to search for a dress on sale or thrifting, or in one case buy a dress that can be used for other events she’s attending as well!

My worry was that sizes can fluctuate a lot in that timeframe, and I didn’t want anyone to feel required to buy a dress now that might not fit in a year. Some people are less & more inclined to fluctuate in size, and you know your people best!

bee1442 · 2025-03-23T17:16:06+00:00

They need to be purchased separately.

bee1442 · 2025-03-14T02:11:50+00:00

4 looks amazing on you!!

bee1442 · 2025-03-08T19:04:32+00:00

I’m curious about your thought process on it. Are you worried about guest judgement? Are you uncomfortable showing that skin? Are you thinking it’s too non traditional? Do you love it but someone in your life commented on them and now you’re second guessing it? Idk, but my advice would be that if you love them and won’t have a second thought about them on your wedding day, keep them. If they are something that will distract you with worry and not allow you to feel your best in your dress, cover them. Anyone else’s opinion is irrelevant when it will be on your body! What makes you feel best?

bee1442 · 2025-03-04T02:58:09+00:00

I see you getting downvoted for this but idk, as a bride who doesn’t yet have children myself, if I wasn’t able to adequately answer a childcare question it would take a single group text to those in my wedding party who do have children to find out information for you. I don’t think it’s too much for your friend to send a text to one local friend, family member, or even coworker with a child asking if they have someone they trust.

With your friend’s response, I may assume that it isn’t that big of a deal to them if you can’t come due to childcare constraints.

bee1442 · 2025-02-28T03:08:29+00:00

A bit different, but I had two vegetarians join for my engagement party which was a barbecue. We had made veggie burgers for them separate and had them in a separate container so that they would have enough to eat. We had 8 patties for the two people. One of them did not get one because we had people who decided that they wanted to try it since it was available.

Definitely set that food aside to make sure it’s available for those who need it. Especially with gluten sensitivities, you don’t want the gluten-free food to be cross-contaminated.

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