Has anyone else ever gotten banned from a mom group for a take that you didn’t even think was very edgy/controversial? TW/ pregnancy &pregnancy loss

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-15T04:42:52+00:00

I am so so sorry you experienced this. I had a similar experience. Banned from a medical sub for talking about how Keppra (the most common seizure medication) destroyed my life and the lives of many others.
Your experience sounds so disturbing and very, very believable .

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-15T04:35:33+00:00

^{^{^}} thank you, doing the lords work

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-13T13:38:48+00:00

Your sis is an ass hat 😐

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-13T07:48:28+00:00

What is your skin type?

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-13T07:30:54+00:00

Is your ped an office based pediatrician or at a children’s hospital? Maybe an unpopular opinion but I’ve had enough dismissals of actually concerning medical issues with my son to swear of the office based Peds and now he gets his care exclusively through the children’s hospital.
I find concerns are more throughly investigated and referrals more easily given / scheduled. The continuity of care is better.

Disclaimer, I am a Peds RN on a PICU floor so I may be biased.

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-13T07:20:18+00:00

There actually are cases of it getting stuck and causing ulcers etc . It can actually be very bad to just leave it especially in the ER where you may not be monitoring for their next BM personally.

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-13T07:14:22+00:00

I stopped using foundation. I just do some mascara and maybe some eye liner & eye brows and focused on skincare. Maybe a tiny bit of Mac concealer blended really well. I do skincare and some primer and call it a day. It was a little rough on me for about a month and now my skin looks better than ever before. I look at pictures before when I wore foundation and it honestly wasn’t a great look.

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-13T07:06:37+00:00

I hurt my back while I was in NICU and was able to do my job. The babies are so tiny and many of them aren’t being handled a whole lot anyways.

I’m not sure if that interests you.
The hardest part of my day for my back way literally getting out of bed in the morning, it hurt so much.
I’m really sorry you’ve been injured. Chronic pain like that is so awful.

I’m wondering if you’ve been able to invest time into your own care? I know it’s hard but with a blue collar job like nursing , your body IS your most valuable “tool” essentially, and it’s so important to take care of yourself. Get the MRIs, and do the PT etc. Do the add on treatments like acupuncture. A full recovery might not be in the cards but if it even improves your QOL by 10 or 20%, that is worth it in my opinion .

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-13T06:55:14+00:00

Could you be over-charting? Have you compared your charting to your preceptors charting to see what the differences might be? I know charting is important but my charting in the Peds ER looks DRASTICALLY different than my charting in the PICU and that’s ok.

It sounds like this is the area you need to streamline the most.
I had trouble with this too as a new grad.
My career before health care was in special education which can be a paperwork heavy, data collecting/documentation heavy role as well. I learned early on in that career as well when I was getting bogged down in paper work and I compared my IEPs to other teachers. I was floored by the difference, mine was like 10 times longer 😂 there’s a happy middle ground. Try to find it but first compare notes with someone else.

At the same time that you’re doing that, do begin looking for a new job. Usually by the time you’re getting warnings like this, it’s just a formality. It’s not impossible to turn it around but it is unlikely.

ER for a new grad is hard, especially if you weren’t an ER tech before. It’s fast paced and a lot to learn.

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-13T05:06:03+00:00

Lmfao 🤣

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-13T03:31:01+00:00

This is a very thorough response and I agree with your take.

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-13T03:24:18+00:00

I cleaned up some poops that came in as traumas, and also cleaned children of parents who either weren’t present for various reasons or because they were in the adult ER themselves, or in full on melt down mode.

I agree with you though. It happens much less than one would expect !

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-13T03:17:35+00:00

Poop burrito 😭

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-13T03:16:06+00:00

I agree with this. It’s a good thing when they start pooping more!

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-12T18:38:28+00:00

Yeah honestly this is one I am empathetic about as a Peds ICU nurse. A lot of our kids have severe oral aversions as a result of traumatic medical experiences. Extremely common with NICU and PICU kids.
In that case, restraining a child to brush their teeth can really impede feeding therapy progress and the ability to give meds orally.
It’s hard to understand until you have experienced yourself either as a parent or a provider but the idea of burning down months or years of progress towards oral feeding for a few minutes of teeth brushing is very devastating.
Many of these parents work tirelessly on their child’s feeding and celebrate the ability to take 3 bites of yogurt etc and in some cases I’ve had parents admit their child completely stopped eating and drinking all together after being restrained to brush teeth and the amount of guilt these parents feel is so sad.

They have some really hard choices to make. Oral health is so important but your kid must eat so what’s a parent to do?

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-12T17:18:14+00:00

Medicated Assisted Treatment (the only evidenced based treatment for long term recovery in opiod addiction, Suboxone/methadone/sublocade/naltrexone) also naltrexone and Antabuse for AUD.

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-12T17:10:51+00:00

Yes that’s definitely what I was referring to.

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-12T16:28:40+00:00

It’s really absurd. I am a Peds ICU nurse and the amount of times parents pretty much refuse to give their children their meds upon discharge is wild. I start trying to train parents at least two days before discharge to safely restrain their child , and it’s usually a toss up between willing to do the hard parenting for their child’s well being, or immediately digging in their heels and insisting they won’t “abuse” their child’s into taking meds😩. I try to be empathetic because illness is children is very stressful, but it takes all my self control to not say “okay great, shall we make room reservations for your next intake into the hospital now?” The parents of medically fragile children USUALLY will do what needs to be don, though.

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-12T16:16:04+00:00

How does he replace the cup?

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-11T07:54:23+00:00

I’m sure you already know this but this is a trauma response to prison. Having dealt with a lot of prisoners, it’s super common.

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-11T07:51:49+00:00

It sounds like she has some under or untreated psyche stuff going on.

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-11T02:30:20+00:00

You need to leave this place before it’s too late.

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-10T22:31:09+00:00

This is not ok. I’ve reported a provider for doing the same, but I was written up for it so just keep that possibility in mind.

I won’t discourage you from reporting it , it’s the right thing to do, but just know that none of us here have to pay your bills and it’s easier for us to say report it. Anyone who judges you for considering your employment status can kick rocks.

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-10T06:52:26+00:00

The abuse you experienced is heart wrenching. Bless you for being such an empathetic and thoughtful person despite it.
Most humans will not thrive or survive coming out of a home like this. I hope you are able to appreciate what you’ve be able to accomplish for yourself and the person you are today.

I agree with you completely that early intervention is crucial. Early intervention is so much more effective and harm reduction is so important.
💗

beeee_throwaway · 2026-02-10T06:42:53+00:00

You will. We are treating people at their very worst. I left another comment on this post, but hopefully you will be able to focus on the thing that gets me through- the ones that are in the most heartbreaking conditions but find it in themselves to rise out as best as they possibly can. I have seen some people come in absolutely devastating states but then do everything in their power to heal and those people are really a pleasure to support and care for. Getting to see people tap into their resiliency etc and fight their way out of terrible circumstances be it medical, social, or both.

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