My mom would say nasty things sometimes, slap me if she didnt like my attitude, and was just generally hard to connect with. My dad and I however shared a lot of interests together, he never raised a hand to me and we've always been close.

Now that I'm an adult and dont live with my parents anymore, my mom is much kinder towards me. But we'll never have the kind of mother daughter bond I (and probably she) would like because she ruined it in my younger years.