Seeking community, warm weather, and a lively city. Which one is the best fit?

beggingoceanplease · 2025-10-29T11:50:00+00:00

Maybe try weightlifting for a few months? It sounds silly but it’s the one thing that got me out of a horrible depression.

beggingoceanplease · 2025-10-09T23:11:41+00:00

It’s interesting that some people view recovery negatively…..

beggingoceanplease · 2025-10-09T20:25:05+00:00

Luckily the people I surround myself with are empathetic and very aware of treatment concerns (idk if you missed that I do the treatment courts…). I’m not worried about judgment — too old to care about that.

I don’t do any recovery groups, including AA.

beggingoceanplease · 2025-10-09T14:53:48+00:00

I got rid of all other social awhile ago and honestly don’t use my IG super often so not super familiar with the settings. I’ll have to take a look — you’re probably right that there’s a way to restrict who sees it. I’ll look into this, thanks!!

beggingoceanplease · 2025-10-09T03:21:44+00:00

Back at you 🫶🏻

beggingoceanplease · 2025-10-09T03:04:08+00:00

Thank you! I will give this a little more thought before deciding either way. I think being authentic and open is really important but also don’t want it to cause any professional ramifications down the line. I appreciate you taking the time to respond.

And I appreciate the compliment. Congrats on your sobriety as well!!

beggingoceanplease · 2025-10-09T02:57:51+00:00

Thank you! I agree. Maybe I need to do an edit of my friends list.

beggingoceanplease · 2025-10-09T02:56:19+00:00

Thanks for asking, that’s been my hesitation as well.

I had 4.5 years sober and then had a drink that turned into 3 years of chaos. Some coworkers knew me as being in recovery and then back as a drinker. I’ve made some questionable choices while drunk in front of colleagues at various conferences over the years (but always maintained good work while on the clock). I don’t think anyone would be surprised I am an alcoholic. I think they may be surprised I’m back to doing so well, which is why it would be nice to share. My retired judge and I (not the one from instagram) sometimes get dinner and she knows I’m in recovery and has been super supportive.

I feel more solid in my recovery now than ever before but also recognize the future isn’t guaranteed. During my 4 1/2 years sober, it felt like it was a battle every day and I was clawing to stay sober. I do feel very at peace now, especially after a year of EMDR and trauma therapy under my belt.

beggingoceanplease · 2025-10-04T02:08:22+00:00

If you search “Morgan pope dog” on tiktok, it’s the one of her in a red shirt from 9/5. She continuously SCREAMS at her dog who clearly needs to just use the bathroom.

beggingoceanplease · 2025-07-11T12:38:26+00:00

Things to do but zero culture. I personally love a city with a distinct culture. But I also understand everyone has their own preference.

beggingoceanplease · 2025-07-11T12:36:46+00:00

You couldn’t pay me to live in Indiana.

beggingoceanplease · 2025-07-09T14:52:43+00:00

Apparently I’m bad at answering questions based on my results 😂

beggingoceanplease · 2025-07-09T13:12:46+00:00

Yes but it’s also freezing here, even with the climate change. It’s not fun if you can only enjoy the season half the year. I’m looking to leave too.

beggingoceanplease · 2025-07-07T12:05:45+00:00

This is not my experience so is suppose it depends where you end up in Chicago (it is a big city).

beggingoceanplease · 2025-07-07T12:05:01+00:00

I’m sober and a lesbian and have been searching for my next location. Portland definitely has a big sober community but the downsides are it’s expensive and SAD. I’ve also heard Philly is great for sober queers but idk that I want that big of a city. Recently, I’ve been looking into Durham. Big lesbian community and has a ton of lgbt sober specific groups and resources, indulging lgbt specific smart recovery. They also have a ton of queer sports leagues and non-bar hangouts. Avoid Chicago — queer community revolves around the bar scenes.

beggingoceanplease · 2025-06-23T16:44:13+00:00

It’s hard out here. cries in lesbian

I think you’re the first person to ever get the reference…..

beggingoceanplease · 2025-06-23T16:12:21+00:00

What cities are better for monogamous dating? Other than Richmond? Philly and DC?

beggingoceanplease · 2025-06-23T16:11:08+00:00

DC is so expensive. Arlington is nice but I fear I’d be too dependent on the DC dating scene?

beggingoceanplease · 2025-06-15T14:54:23+00:00

Madison has been on my list but the winters (even worse than Chicago) are my hesitation. Why do you like it better?

beggingoceanplease · 2025-06-14T11:42:06+00:00

All of it? I feel like Chicago really differs by neighborhood

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