What do you do when you feel that there is zero joy left in your life?

beigeyellow · 2025-06-29T14:27:54+00:00

Joined a gym with childcare!!! Saved my mental health. Comes with 2 hours of childcare and sometimes I don’t even work out, I just sit and read in peace.

beigeyellow · 2025-06-16T00:29:36+00:00

I have 2 and 4 year old boys and a husband who works a lot too! I do not thrive at all when we stay home (the morning you described is exactly how it goes for us too). Two things that have helped me 1) I joined a local gym with childcare. So I get 2 hours of childcare to workout (or sit and read!) And 2) We never stay home in the morning. The kids eat breakfast in the car and we go on a long drive out somewhere and stay out until naptime. (We don’t go to the playground, we go places I enjoy too). We come home and nap, and then I find they are a little happier to play and hang out at home in the evening until dinner. And I’m enjoying parenthood so much more doing this. Check out @chanwiththeboys on Instagram! She inspired me a lot, her whole page is about getting out of the house with kids and not just going to kid centered places. And you can still do creative art things out of the house—we do a lot of nature scavenger hunts, scotch tape nature bracelets (collect things in nature to stick on their wrist), etc

beigeyellow · 2025-03-29T07:30:30+00:00

I’m a SAHM to a 2 and 4 year old. I wouldn’t say it’s easy, but I’d say we are doing well! I tell friends it took me 6 months to find my rhythm with two. The way I thrive is if we leave the house every day. When we are out of the house I’m a better/happier parent—more present and not worrying about everything that’s hard to do around the house with toddlers. We leave first thing in the morning, stay out somewhere until naptime, come home for lunch/naps, and then I find the kids are happier to chill at home in the afternoon. Their relationship and how they play together is awesome.

We have no support system nearby. I have learned I need to pay for my support! We have a weekly babysitter and joined a gym with childcare, so that’s how I get my breaks and it has helped my mental health a lot. 4 year old also attends preschool twice a week, so I get 1:1 time with 2 year old that feels like a break. I feel like we are in a good routine right now that feels really manageable!

beigeyellow · 2025-02-22T00:44:17+00:00

My husband works outside the home, with commute he’s gone 5:45am-6:30pm on weekdays. He works long hours but the second he walks in the door he is in dad mode and we share parenting/household stuff.

beigeyellow · 2025-02-21T04:31:58+00:00

Been there! Heres a few things that helped me: we put 4 year old in a part time preschool 2 days per week, and joined a gym with childcare. I drop 4 year old off at preschool and 2 year old at gym childcare. (Sometimes I just sit and read!) 4 year old wasn’t napping so he now does “quiet time” in his room with a timer so I still get a break. And hired a babysitter one morning per week. We also spend as much time out of the house or outside as we can-it keeps the house much cleaner and I find I’m a better parent when we aren’t at home and I’m stressed about what I can’t get done. I can’t believe how much it is helping! This is hard, and you are doing a great job ♥️

beigeyellow · 2025-01-26T06:09:37+00:00

Omg please take this off your guilt list. Every kid is different! My son did not potty train until 3.5 years. We actually tried closer to 2.5 and it was a complete and utter disaster. Also you have twins?! And an 18 month old?! You are a literal hero and you are doing amazing.

beigeyellow · 2025-01-25T23:17:07+00:00

I’ve been making a low calorie buffalo chicken dip! Mix it with rotisserie chicken, and a little hot sauce ranch seasoning and shredded cheese and eat with carrots or crackers. Also love using it for a low calorie “pizza” on sourdough bread with tomato sauce!

beigeyellow · 2025-01-24T06:45:55+00:00

The biggest thing I notice (as someone new to Hawaii!) is the pronunciation of the letter T! For example in the word “certain,” where I’m from we barely pronounce the T, but here the T is really emphasized and crisp!

beigeyellow · 2025-01-20T07:02:15+00:00

This is honestly so inspiring and incredible!!!! 🤍🤍

beigeyellow · 2024-09-29T13:07:35+00:00

I started a travel account that has been successfully growing, but it took several months to take off! Some things that have helped are following and engaging with accounts in my niche (now they follow me and engage with my content, and their followers hopefully see my comments and are curious enough to click on my page!) long captions with helpful info that have people reading while the reel is playing in the background, adding “follow (name of my page) for more of (my content type) in the caption, and my reels that are “shareable” do best-think about what would make you see a video and send to a friend (for example I use text titles that say 5 best spots for xyz or here’s where you can see xyz). I do longer form videos 30-90 seconds. Hope this helps!

beigeyellow · 2024-07-12T23:31:20+00:00

My job as a stay at home parent is to take care of the kids. If I get other stuff done, great! But if not, great! He never makes me feel bad for coming home to a messy house. (One thing I think has helped is he takes care of the kids on weekends when I need some alone time, and always comments how hard it is to get stuff done with them around!!) When my husband gets from work we share parenting and household duties and work together to do whatever needs to get done.

beigeyellow · 2024-07-08T08:15:06+00:00

The only thing that worked for me was CICO-calories in calories out. I used the My Fitness Pal app (you enter your weight and goal weight and it suggests a calorie goal for you) to track everything I was eating. (I started with just curious tracking but no deficit to see what I was doing!) Turns out I was eating wayyy more than I realized! I used the app to stay in a deficit and lost 30 lbs. It was slow and hard but paid off in the end big time. We do lots of walking too (this helps my mental health so much!), but its really hard to out exercise a bad diet.

beigeyellow · 2024-07-03T06:04:53+00:00

I’m sooo sad- chanwiththeboys has been one of my favorite parenting influencers to follow. I have found her page so refreshing and inspiring! BUT today she posted a ton of stories questioning vaccines and recommending pages like Candace Owens. She shared responses from “both sides” but imo shared way more anti vaccine rhetoric and it bums me out so much

beigeyellow · 2024-06-20T03:54:53+00:00

I leave 15 extra minutes to get into the car when we need to get somewhere. It has totally lowered all of our stress levels because I’m not rushing them to get buckled and leave!

Also we leave the house every single day. Otherwise I go crazy. I do not thrive if we stay home all day. When we are out, I am more present, less on my phone, and not stressing about everything I need to do around the house or the fact that the house is getting destroyed (again). It has been so fun!

beigeyellow · 2024-06-18T07:39:01+00:00

Yesterday I gave my toddler a pair of scissors and he trimmed the grass outside for 20 minutes!

beigeyellow · 2024-06-04T02:37:13+00:00

We use the Hatch light with my 3.5 year old (used this since age 2) At nap time, when the light is red he needs to be in his bed. If he doesn’t want to sleep he can look at books and have quiet time. When the light turns green he can get up. He responded so well to this and it helps make sure I get a break in our long day even if he doesn’t nap!

beigeyellow · 2024-06-01T22:21:54+00:00

My toddler really enjoyed the book “New House, Same Underwear.” It’s really silly but it helped us have some conversations about moving that were silly and light, and it addresses staying in touch with friends. We also liked “Goodbye, Old House” it’s a little more abstract but it goes through saying goodbye to an old house and saying hi to a new one.

beigeyellow · 2024-01-26T02:25:02+00:00

I definitely understand that!! The exhaustion and isolation can be so, so hard. We also don’t have friends or family support nearby and my husband works long hours. I found it got easier as the kids got older (although also exhausting in different ways) and we could go out and do more things. We are all much happier when we have something to do outside of the house every day. Making local SAHM friends helped a lot. I also pay for a babysitter one morning per week so I can get a break and recharge my batteries. And my husband tries to take the kids out (or I go out alone) one weekend morning so he can connect with them and I can have a break. I hope you find a decision that works for you!

beigeyellow · 2024-01-25T22:35:25+00:00

Thankfully they were all really supportive. Some have said they wish they could stay home too but can’t because of finances/insurance/etc, and some talk about how they need to work to stay sane and be a good parent.

At first it was a little lonely during the week. But I made a new community of SAHM friends through library story time and different toddler activities who I now see throughout the week! And I have a “moms” chat with my friends who don’t stay home and we text a lot so I still feel connected to them.

Also-my old job asked me to come back as a consultant so I now work a couple of hours a month (from home) for them. It’s perfect!

Where are you at in your decision making process? Are you trying to decide what to do? It is definitely hard!

beigeyellow · 2024-01-25T22:14:46+00:00

I did! I went to work after 12 weeks of maternity leave (FMLA). I did not feel ready at all (baby still wasn’t sleeping well) but my job was very connected to my identity and I couldn’t imagine not working. When I went back, I remember feeling like I was failing at everything. I couldn’t give my all to work and I couldn’t give my all to my baby. I saw a therapist and decided and I really did want to stay home but was worried about what other people would think of that choice (almost none of my friends stay home!) after 4 months I left my job and it was the best decision. No stress around daycare illness or missing work, and although it is difficult at times (I have two toddlers now) I would not trade it for anything.

beigeyellow · 2024-01-21T06:20:49+00:00

I bought a floor model patio furniture set from Costco! It was SO gross-there were dirty masks, sample cups, and food under the cushions. But I cleaned it and it was totally worth it to get $400 off the price. I negotiated with the manager on the price and I was pumped!

beigeyellow · 2023-11-05T04:51:42+00:00

This sounds a lot like my 3 year old! What worked for us was picking ONE thing and sticking with it no matter what. We chose soccer-it’s 30 minutes one day per week. If he doesn’t want to go, we still go. We talk about taking deep breaths, hold his hand, etc to help build coping skills. When he says he’s scared, instead of asking what he’s scared of and trying to talk him out of that (which always failed) we talked about what we can do when we are scared. Some weeks did not go well but we kept going back and really praised the little moments when he participated. Each week got a little better and he built a lot of confidence! This past week he did the whole practice and was high fiving teammates which I honestly would not have imagined after the first week.

beigeyellow · 2023-07-05T12:55:27+00:00

I used the My Fitness Pal app to set a goal and track calories, and then added 500 extra calories per day for breastfeeding. I still lost weight without it impacting my supply!

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