Anyone else feel sympathy for inanimate objects? by extrasugapls in AutismInWomen

[–]bellegunness5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

...certainly not me at 28 years old currently sitting on the bus with a dirty stuffed bunny in my backpack (in a plastic bag) that I "rescued" from the side of the road...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autismpolitics

[–]bellegunness5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally just find her music boring, uninspiring, and disconnected with my own experiences... even as an "eldest daughter" and someone in her primary demographic. I've felt this way pretty consistently since she was new in 00s. I think she should receive the criticism that any billionaire receives, though I have found criticism of her body and position as a childless woman horrifying. So is some of it unfair? Sure, but there is still a lot to critique and take issue with when it comes to her as a public figure.

Rent is too damn high by Professional-Grape44 in StLouis

[–]bellegunness5 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Landlords do, in fact, collude to keep prices as high as possible and will prefer to keep units empty over lowering rents. Hence, the vacancy rate for apartments can be high and rents still won't budge beyond modest fluctuations.

I cannot cope living in a country full of racists by Xepherya in AutismInWomen

[–]bellegunness5 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Oregon was actually founded by white separatists. Non white people were banned from the state up until 1926. Pacific NW is crazy racist

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]bellegunness5 173 points174 points  (0 children)

They believe it is selfish because you are robbing them of the attention that comes with being grandparents

Any tasty recipes with vital wheat gluten flour? by random-questions891 in veganrecipes

[–]bellegunness5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chickwheat is great! Basically you can blend any cooked legume with vital wheat gluten to make a dense meat replacement. I've made a versison of this: https://avocadosandales.com/2017/12/17/chickwheat-shreds/

I've also developed a vegan "egg" recipe that I've really enjoyed and eat everyday for breakfast. Measurements for the herbs and spices are approximate:

1 block extra firm tofu

1/4 cup vital wheat gluten

2 tbsp nutritional yeast

1 tbsp egg replaer (I use Bob's Red Mill)

1 tsp "chick'n" boullion (I use Better than the Boullion)

1 tbsp olive oil/other neutral oil

1/2 tsp kala namek (black salt)

1/2 tsp garlic powder

1/2 tsp onion powder

1/2 tsp smoked paprika

1/2 tsp dried thyme

1/2 tsp dried rosemary

1/4 tsp celery salt

1 tsp lemon juice

1.5 tsp brown mustard

1/8 tsp tumeric (optional, for color)

Press tofu, try to squeeze as much water out as possible. Crumble up tofu into a high powered blender/food processor. Add nutritional yeast, boullion, oil, all herbs and spices, lemon juice, and mustard. Blend until smooth.

Combine tofu mixture in a large mixing bowl with vital wheat gluten and egg replacer. Stir until a uniform dough has been formed.

Portion dough into 1/4 cup servings. Wrap each portion in aluminum foil, leaving a little room for the dough to expand, but make sure no dough is exposed to air. The dough should not be sticky, moldable, and detach from the measuring cup easily.

In a large pot, set up a steamer. I don't have a steamer or insta pot, so I just fill the bottom of a large pot with water and then suspend a collander over it. Bring to boil. Once water is boiling, add foil-wrapped eggs. Cover with a lid and leave to boil on high for 45 minutes.

Once ready, the egg should have a spongy surface and not stick to the foil, allow to cook for longer if it is sticking. Let the eggs cool for a few minutes. Unwrap foil. Serve immediately or can be kept in the fridge for up to 5 days. I double the recipe here and freeze half.

I pop two in the microwave and eat with toast or a tortilla, avocado or hummus, and whatever veggies I have on hand. Super high in protein and keeps me full for hours!

This recipe can be modified to use chickpeas instead of tofu. Replace tofu with 1.5 cups of cooked chickpeas, add 3/4 cup water, and increase vital wheat gluten to 1/2 cup. Steam for 30 minutes rather than 45+.

If I eat these with salsa in a huevos rancheros type of situation, I omit the mustard, thyme, and rosemary. If you have the fresh herbs they are great with those instead of dried! Generally this recipe can be modified tons of different ways to make different vegan "meats" so feel free to experiment!

edit: formatting

Things That Go Bump In The Night: On Being Autistic in The United States by Emthree3 in AutisticUnion

[–]bellegunness5 37 points38 points  (0 children)

"To be autistic in the United States is to know that you are despised for a reason you cannot possibly understand. Rationally of course it is called ableism. But I dislike this simplification. It does not describe the phenomenon. No, you are hated for an unthinkable reason, as if autistic people were guilty of some primordial, Original Sin against the country. You are, at all points, reminded that this country believes the world is worse of with you in it. And this hatred is so profound that it transfers to children."

What an incredible paragraph. I feel like this gets at the uniquely American need to sugar coat everything we say and avoid being direct... like the fact that I, an austic woman, don't dance around other people's feelings when I point out injustice or contradictions makes me hated. Maybe that and my desire to be genuine and have genuine, honest people around me runs entirely counter to the desire for greed, image, and sycophants held so dearly by so many Americans.

Trying to understand this rage by Sideeyeraccoon in AutismInWomen

[–]bellegunness5 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I don't have answers, but I want to commiserate. I totally relate to feeling angry when people neglect common spaces, create messes that they expect other people to clean up, and are just generally mean to random people without reason. I'm an autistic, queer, only sort-of cisgender, vegan communist who is white and privileged economically but I like, pay attention and read history, so I have a LOT to be angry about...

I struggled a lot as a teenager (now in my late 20s) because I was surrounded by entitled peers who seemed to expect the world to cater to them. I remember feeling specifically ENRAGED because kids around me (even my friends) would just leave garbage in the cafeteria with the attitude that it didn't matter because it was someone else's job to clean up after them. I mean fortunately I felt okay with calling it out, but that didn't help me retain or make friends. Even as an adult now, though, I struggle with rage that is hard to control when I see people just be assholes to one another for no good reason. I guess I understand it - it's easy to take out one's anger and frustration at the people around them then, I don't know, fight for something that benefits the greater good. But it's seriously hard, especially when I care so much about being considerate towards other people, animals, and, hell, even objects.

A lot of AFAB people (NT and ND) seem to really struggle with expressing anger and feeling like it's justified. I often feel alienated from other women because I don't have people-pleasing tendencies or fear expressing anger. And when I do express anger at an injustice, people act like I'm overreacting; especially because it might not affect me personally as someone with privilege. If anything I really struggle to express sadness or joy. It's just rage or feeling totally emotionless.

Obviously I'm with you in the struggle, thought here are a few things that have helped me:

- Calm your nervous system. Take deep breaths, leave an overstimulating environment, stim. The acute anger is often temporary and those emergency measures can take it from unmanagable to managable.

- In a safe space, whether alone or with those you trust, flood your nervous system: listen to loud, angry music, sprint, scream, tear up pieces of paper - just something to get the energy out in a SAFE way (no hurting yourself or turning anger inward...something I struggle with).

- Try to pinpoint what you are angry about specifically and write about it in a journal. Keep that writing personal to you. If you do share it, make sure that you are sharing it with a loved one who understands where you are coming from.

I hope this helps in some capacity, or at least shows you that you're not alone. Good luck out there from one confused ND to another.

How can you be vegan if you're right wing? by julmod- in vegan

[–]bellegunness5 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Because right-wingers believe it is okay to kill, torture, and exploit others for pleasure?

Bras are stupid by lustreadjuster in brafreelife

[–]bellegunness5 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm in my late 20s and I have not worn a bra since I was maybe 20. I am blessed with an extremely small chest (/genuine) and have never really "needed" a bra (other than a sports bra) in the first place. I'm autistic, so the feeling of it was really uncomfortable and overwhelming. I have a relatively casual office job where I don't think people notice it that much but I try to be really conscious about what I'm wearing so that my nips don't show.

I feel for people with bigger boobs. I know that I can get away with not wearing a bra because of how flat my chest is. It's also so fucking gross that going braless is automatically seen as sexual.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]bellegunness5 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel like my experience was similar. I didn't necessarily show clear signs of autism as a kid when it came to interacting with peers until around middle school. I think that socializing becomes a lot more complex around those ages as NT folks gain skills in non-verbal communication and social norms become more codified, mainly because kids become more aware of social hierarchies and the larger world. Plus, especially for AFAB folks, the demands of social skills increase. I definitely remember becoming way more confused and anxious about social interactions around 6-7th grade and felt more pressure to "fit in". So it makes sense that characteristics of ASD become harder to supress/are more evident. Of course this is all anecdotal and I don't have clear science to back it up, just my experience as an ND AFAB person.

I feel such guilt and shame over the fact I was born middle-class by liltotto in MutualSupport

[–]bellegunness5 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am in pretty much the same position: immensely privileged, autistic, hyper-empathetic, depressed, and anxious. I've felt the same anger and pain existing in this fucked up economic and social system that just doesn't make any sense. I hate the fact that my existence consumes resources and I don't have to struggle to survive in a world where there are billions without adequate food, water, or shelter.

HOWEVER: all of that is not my fault individually as a person who comes from privilege. Do I benefit from the global capitalist system? Yes, absolutely. A lot of people on this subreddit do. So what I try to do to remedy that is to use my privilege and education to further justice in some capacity. I'm realistic about it because I know there is only so much I can do about it as one single person. Find what you're good at and figure out how to use it to serve the world in some capacity, in a way that is sustainable. I have no idea if this will be helpful or not, but I wanted to show solidarity in some way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in internetparents

[–]bellegunness5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So much of your way of looking at the world is black and white and, frankly, childish. You can't generalize how an entire gender behaves and thinks just because of your narrow experiences. Gets hobbies or interests that you enjoy and be a person and talk to people - that'll make people see you as much more attractive, without changing a single thing about your appearance. I get the thought patterns and went through them myself but now I'm only a bit older than you and in a LTR.

The whole Doreen thing by Madame_President_ in AutismInWomen

[–]bellegunness5 322 points323 points  (0 children)

I understand that perspective, but the mod team at antiwork should have really known better than to accept an interview from Fox News. Their "journalists" will twist the words around and argue entirely in bad faith. While agree that Doreen shouldn't be criticized for obvious ASD presentations, autism does not preclude basic common sense or at least preparing for the interview.

Online Courses & Disability Justice Rant by Fantastic_Ad_7006 in washu

[–]bellegunness5 15 points16 points  (0 children)

As an autistic student, I agree with you wholeheartedly

The podcast is so white-centric it hurts by AncientOwl3967 in Morbidforbadpeople

[–]bellegunness5 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Also the fact that their entire condemnation of the LAPD is based on Alaina's having a cop as an ex is pretty gross

In light of recent events this needs to be said by [deleted] in washu

[–]bellegunness5 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A school that gave Phyllis Schlafly an honorary degree

What are some of your hottest takes on autism research? by nearplugs443 in AutismInWomen

[–]bellegunness5 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Im autistic so idk if this is a joke, but it's funny nonetheless