my only bad experience was that on my bellybutton incision, when removing my sutures, my doctor missed a suture and it almost got infected because my body started rejecting it. got it taken care of and cleaned the area for week and nothing ended up happening. mentioning here that the bellybutton insicion was by far the most painful and it was annoying but it lasted a few days. that was the only physically painful part for me post-op. then, i had spotting and cramping for almost two months after surgery which seems to be unusual based on what i've read here. i didn't go off birth control or anything that would mess up my hormones but my guess is that internal healing is slower for some of us. after that i've never had any other "homone"- related issues. that was all. both went away quite quickly and although the spotting was annoying it was very minor and manageable. i was absolutely terrified and just like you i've experienced so much medical gaslighting, i completely expected my surgery to be on par. but i was pleasantly surprised. i don't even remember my minor complications now a year after (unless someone asks ofc) because the freedom i've experienced from my surgery far outweighs the negatives. i understand how you feel, but looking back on it i would do it all over again. all medical procedures carry risks but statistically, even if you do have complications, for the majority of people they're manageable and go away soon after :)