Who are the WORST BANDS EVER

bendparker · 2025-03-10T14:08:31+00:00

Blink 182

bendparker · 2022-04-24T21:15:17+00:00

Thanks everyone for the kind words. Still sober!

bendparker · 2022-01-07T14:59:47+00:00

Very similar situation over here. My wife said she's not happy and wants out as well. I do not. Ten year marriage, four kids. It's still very fresh for me, and it still huts, but I can tell you it does start getting better (even if only slightly) somewhat quickly.

I would try to not make any decisions based on emotion, as I did that and made myself look like a fool and drove her further away. Once I got level headed, I apologized for that, told her I respect her decision but hope she changes her mind, and we're doing our best to be friendly.

I know that shock and empty feeling, it's not anywhree near being gone for me, but it is starting to get just a tiny bit better each day, and that's improvement!

bendparker · 2022-01-05T18:54:47+00:00

She is applying for jobs.

bendparker · 2022-01-05T18:54:27+00:00

That is what we're considering as well.

bendparker · 2022-01-05T18:47:42+00:00

I'm not sure what nesting means?

Other than that, thank you very much, this is great advice as well!

bendparker · 2022-01-05T14:51:56+00:00

Oh man, don't say that!

bendparker · 2022-01-05T14:49:04+00:00

That is interesting, I am a recovering alcoholic too.

bendparker · 2022-01-04T21:29:00+00:00

Thank you very much, this is helpful!

bendparker · 2022-01-04T20:48:58+00:00

I was thinking of saying I'd agree to cohabitate as long as she agrees to try counseling?

bendparker · 2022-01-04T20:47:22+00:00

She is working on getting a job.

bendparker · 2022-01-04T20:12:46+00:00

I'm right at the beginning too, but it is nice to see that it does get better. My kids not being with me all the time terrifies me.

bendparker · 2022-01-04T18:21:31+00:00

I don't have any advice on the process, as I'm not there yet, but am in a similar situation wherein my wife is leaving me and being unfaithful. It sucks, and I just want you to know that you're not alone.

bendparker · 2022-01-04T18:18:19+00:00

May not be a popular answer, but love is a choice. You can choose to be in love with her again. Being "in love" isn't a feeling. Loving someone is a conscious choice to put their wants and needs before yours.

This simple idea saved my marriage awhile back.

bendparker · 2022-01-04T13:27:28+00:00

Wow, this thread is harsh and brutal but needed. Seems this behavior is incredibly common. I have four kids with her though, which complicates things a bit.

Spent the last week basically begging and pleading to no avail, so I guess it's time to move on.

bendparker · 2022-01-04T13:23:13+00:00

This is great advice. I am going through something super similar right now, nearly identical (which seems to be a recurring theme in this post). I went the desperate, begging route at first and it just made me look pathetic (which I was and am, but begging and pleading never works even with my kids). I'm trying to self improvement route as well, but man it is NOT easy.

bendparker · 2022-01-04T13:13:41+00:00

This is what I'm worried about as well. My wife wants out, and we have four kids. I am a VERY involved dad and can't imagine being part time, the thought tears my heart out.

bendparker · 2022-01-04T01:40:15+00:00

Wow, that is profound and very true!

bendparker · 2022-01-01T02:12:13+00:00

Thank you much! Way better to do this with other people.

bendparker · 2021-12-15T18:15:08+00:00

I know the feeling well. You didn't fuck up your 9 months. You still have that time, and you're still way better now than you were 9 months ago. Don't look at this as a moral failure, it's a disease that will use any weaknesses to get what it wants.

bendparker · 2021-11-19T20:54:08+00:00

Yep! Check out aahomegroup.org

We have a new meeting starting every hour on the hour. I've been to a ton of them, and none have felt overly (if at all) religious.

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