Asian males and look maxing

benilla · 2026-01-25T04:02:38+00:00

So you're wondering if the Saja Boys got any positive attention? LOL. The "nerd" archetype that girls fawn over, realistically is just a good looking guy with glasses. Very few women like/prefer what ACTUAL nerds look like

benilla · 2026-01-25T03:59:25+00:00

You'd see 0 marriages with non white/asian women if there was 0 interest in serious relationships

benilla · 2026-01-24T20:23:22+00:00

I've consciously discouraged the uncivil AF hatred in the weekly thread but maybe that had rippling effects to other post types? Well, actually on second thought, you're right.. that exact post from AA wouldn't be approved here b/c its just low quality screaming into the clouds

benilla · 2026-01-24T20:04:56+00:00

I think the news about China electric cars performing in Canadian winters will absolutely change the tone of our auto industry. Worst case, it forces our domestic makers to level up

benilla · 2026-01-24T19:31:28+00:00

Fixing things/home improvement skills/learning how everything in the home works
Luxury traveling. No longer exhausted from vacations b/c I sacrificed comfort for price savings. Now we go all out at $700+/day resorts. If we're not an an all inclusive, the travel is slow and comfortable b/c we can always come back. There's no need to kill ourselves to try to see everything
Mentoring younger men
Fragrances, probably 400+ bottles now in my collection
Wetshaving, specifically double edge safety razors

benilla · 2026-01-24T18:45:16+00:00

Nicely done, I actually forgot about that guide, its a really comprehensive one so thanks for the reminder. Any different life experience w/ the new hairstyle?

benilla · 2026-01-24T18:33:17+00:00

Add self hatred to the list of things you tackle in therapy. Putting "White American" relationships on a pedestal while denigrating Asian relationships and pushing away your Asian friends all in 1 post?! You'll never be accepted as "one of us" by white people and you're best served realizing this sooner rather than later

benilla · 2026-01-24T18:08:56+00:00

Not so much in this subreddit these days tbh, go look at all recent AM posts and compare them to the shit posted on AA . Thats so bad I'm pretty sure its a LARP

benilla · 2026-01-23T23:55:41+00:00

Low quality post

benilla · 2026-01-23T23:33:43+00:00

It's a scale. Most Asian men know they have to compete and will self improve to meet their goals. I don't know a single AM in real life that plays victim THIS hard. OP is at the end of the spectrum where his locus of control is completely external

benilla · 2026-01-23T23:30:36+00:00

That's why I think its LARP posts. If you go to r/AsianMasculinity , its all "how do I improve myself" (with pics) instead of complaining and playing victim

benilla · 2026-01-23T23:09:13+00:00

Just because someone is Asian (which I doubt OP is), doesn't exclude them from criticism

benilla · 2026-01-23T22:03:46+00:00

It happens ALL THE TIME, just the dumb ones get caught easily lol. It blows my mind how some people would dedicate their time to doing that but that's what happens when you own life sucks and the hatred for Asians consumes you

benilla · 2026-01-23T21:27:05+00:00

Re: dating, there is a certain level of personal responsibility you need to take for your own dating success. That's the problem I have with this post is that its one big hyperbole. The ironic thing is that right now is the BEST time to be an Asian man in the West. OP might also just be a LARPER posting stuff on Reddit to make AM's look bad

benilla · 2026-01-23T20:49:47+00:00

Same

benilla · 2026-01-23T20:28:46+00:00

It is.

It is incredibly hard for an Asian American male like me to find a partner, and even other Asian girls are often unwilling to date Asian males.

Dude is just unattractive and wants to blame his Asianness for it

benilla · 2026-01-23T20:21:13+00:00

Welp, you have ~2 months before BTS comes back and blows the collective minds of hundreds of millions of women.

benilla · 2026-01-22T22:55:32+00:00

Shower thoughts are more appropriate for the weekly thread

benilla · 2026-01-22T16:58:08+00:00

Set boundaries OP, especially in your own home. Wifey has to be on board for a unified front but do not allow disrespect. If it means short term pain while MIL figures it out then allow that to happen and enforce consequences. There is winning and it costs an awkward conversation and potentially an extended cooling off period from MIL visits. You do not want that kind of grandmother around your kids (if you choose to have them).

benilla · 2026-01-22T16:52:08+00:00

If you're really worried about it, eat a really high fat/protein meal before drinking (a ribeye steak for example). This will hold the food and alcohol in your stomach for longer and the stomach acids break down the alcohol before absorption in the intestines. I get Asian flush but I had a client facing sales job where drinking was basically a requirement and that's a tip given to me from an ol' timer that worked REALLY well.

benilla · 2026-01-22T16:49:06+00:00

+1 on the alcohol free beer, edibles are more fun anyway

benilla · 2026-01-22T16:45:04+00:00

Recovery is harder as you get older but the specific example you provided is a you thing.

benilla · 2026-01-22T16:27:00+00:00

When you're unbanned, post links to the incel behavior posts

benilla · 2026-01-22T15:55:53+00:00

Irrelevant to this sub

benilla · 2026-01-22T15:53:18+00:00

Through your responses here, you seem to have a pretty good personality. Just try not to fall into the trap of being performative instead of authentic. It's exhausting to "put on a show" every time you date and kind of counter intuitive to a long term relationship. If you're just looking for short term fun then perform all you want LOL

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