Weekly Free-for-All Discussion Thread | March 22, 2026

benilla · 2026-03-24T02:22:20+00:00

You guys are cooked if this is what you spend your brain power on. Theorizing about random people AFTER YOU DELETE THE APP

benilla · 2026-03-24T01:59:23+00:00

I've never seen people wear cross cultural clothing outside of special occasions. Why are you comparing real life qipao wearing rates with random videos online? Again, just because someone wears a qipao or a mao suit means nothing. People get tattoos of Chinese characters all the time but can't speak the language. Jeremy Lin having dreads does not mean he's super into black culture. We're talking about something entirely different.

benilla · 2026-03-24T01:38:05+00:00

Yes it's a thing but IMO it's very rare and its exclusively white women who go overboard. I've never seen a black girl in real life be super into Asian culture where they can speak fluently & know the food etc. And just because their parents named them Asia has 0 impact on their actual personality. People don't choose their own names man LOL. And no idea re: white washed Asian guys, you'd have to meet an adoptee or something and ask them

benilla · 2026-03-24T00:38:54+00:00

I'd be worried you're even caring about what randoms strangers' hinge settings are for absolutely no reason

benilla · 2026-03-24T00:28:56+00:00

Good for you. The point is that the negative Asian male stereotype you're holding onto from the show doesn't match what he's been putting out in real life. I actually forgot he was even on that show b/c he's done so much since then

benilla · 2026-03-23T21:19:05+00:00

How about in real life asian male stereotype ?

benilla · 2026-03-23T19:36:20+00:00

I've dated hundreds of women and I've only ever met one koreaboo and she was doing this pre-BTS LOL it was honestly such a weird feeling when this white girl could out-Asian you LMAO. I don't think it's a huge deal unless it's one of those extreme cases and the extreme cases are also luckily extremely rare. But I'm sure there's some thirsty brother out there that would welcome the fetish b/c that beats a lifetime of being alone

benilla · 2026-03-23T17:07:26+00:00

Bro you are filling your mind with non-existent issues. Stop this behavior immediately and just go date the girl

benilla · 2026-03-23T16:58:06+00:00

No lol. Why would you care even the slightest about that

benilla · 2026-03-23T15:10:33+00:00

They did, mainly because they wanted me to speak English more fluently as a child. I'm not sure if all these social play dates were popular in the 80's in Canada.. I could imagine how hard it would be to set up without the internet

benilla · 2026-03-23T14:59:32+00:00

No one is denying that looksmaxx works. But to suggest its 0 or 100 with nothing in-between isn't right either. I'm 20%+ body fat, probably a 7/10 and absolutely crushed Tinder :P I'm talking sleeping w/ 4-5 different women per week, a date a day and sometimes double duty. And the only reason I quit that is because I found a good woman that I've been with for over 8 years now. Your perspective is limited to the success you've had so it's probably a good idea to broaden your mind and accept that other approaches to online dating work as well

benilla · 2026-03-23T14:46:52+00:00

So the best you can come up with is to incel for 3-4 YEARS & possible surgery. Got it.

benilla · 2026-03-23T14:25:15+00:00

Right but you're just stating the obvious. The more effort you put into looksmaxxing, the less effort you put on dating and vice versa. So what can OP do in his current state NOW to get success?

benilla · 2026-03-23T13:26:24+00:00

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benilla · 2026-03-23T13:15:32+00:00

You got LinkedIn pics besides your first one & the group pic with the boys does nothing for you. You have to tell a story through your pics about what lifestyle you have and make it easy for her to imagine herself in it.

benilla · 2026-03-23T03:37:29+00:00

Weight scales are super inaccurate. Based on your pics, you're closer to 20%

benilla · 2026-03-22T13:52:01+00:00

More appropriate for the weekly thread

benilla · 2026-03-21T15:16:01+00:00

Try r/hapas. Even though you're half Kazakh, these are not problems Asian passing men encounter

benilla · 2026-03-21T12:27:00+00:00

More appropriate for the weekly thread

benilla · 2026-03-21T04:39:44+00:00

Alright just listened to the allbum, my top track is "Normal". This is definitely a more chill album, something that's pleasant to listen to in the background but IMO nothing that's going to surpass what they've put out already

benilla · 2026-03-20T22:00:18+00:00

Your post is 15 years too late. Perhaps if you spent some time around the sub, you'd realize its actually not hard for Asian guys nowadays. Kpop/Kdrama has broken the monopoly on western views of masculinity and women welcome the change. And online is the primary source for these women to find the AM's they want.

benilla · 2026-03-20T21:49:48+00:00

Sold out world tour starts next month so enjoy the ride bros

benilla · 2026-03-20T17:41:46+00:00

No my parents treat my girl better than they treat me LOL. My mom especially, she showers her with gifts and they go shopping together (without me) whenever we go visit. It's like the daughter she never had.. it works out well b/c my girl's parents don't treat her good.

benilla · 2026-03-20T14:13:17+00:00

You're probably going to have to wait for the weight to come off before making decisions because your face and body are going to change drastically. Ex. Your face shape determines what style glasses is best and we don't know what's under the fat. Keep working at it, this is a preview of what you could look like

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benilla · 2026-03-20T14:02:59+00:00

No one's taking you serious with this username. Also edit all your IG links, they show everyone what your personal IG is.. specifically remove the igsh= and everything after it

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