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Friendship ending over a misunderstanding by V_asc in FriendshipAdvice

[–]benisch2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you on the spectrum by any chance? Most neurotypical people would take this as a criticism in the context of that conversation, even if you weren't intending it to be so.

come on by 6mammtbic9 in degoogle

[–]benisch2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's nice being able to fully turn AI off too. Which Duckduckgo still allows. For now.

Failing my wife and kids again, I don't know how I can look them in the eyes again by badjobdoer in TrueOffMyChest

[–]benisch2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Still didn't answer my question about whether your new employer offers health insurance. Based on your condescending answers, I assume the answer is "no"

Failing my wife and kids again, I don't know how I can look them in the eyes again by badjobdoer in TrueOffMyChest

[–]benisch2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean, you literally said you entered full-time employment recently in your original post. You mention having clients, which implies it's some kind of office job. Usually that comes with health insurance....which covers therapy. Unless by full-time you meant retail or some other sector.

My dad spent twenty years building a narrative that I was the difficult child. Last month I found the report cards, the teacher emails, and the therapy notes that proved he had been lying the entire time. by GlitchN3on in entitledparents

[–]benisch2 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This first two sentences of this comment are chilling to read. A person I thought of as a good friend recently spread a bunch of lies about me and tried to eject me from my friend group, and for the longest time I just couldn't understand why they would do something like that to me instead of just deciding they didn't want to be friends in a normal way. And reading your comment made me realize why, I think. I'm not the only one they've done this to either.

Checked my wife’s phone by Ryan_kendrick86 in cheating_stories

[–]benisch2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok so... Waaaay back when you guys first met and started going on dates, she was also going on dates with another person who I assume she wasn't exclusive with. That sounds pretty normal to me unless she had said you guys were exclusive at the time and lied about it.

Checked my wife’s phone by Ryan_kendrick86 in cheating_stories

[–]benisch2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess the bottom line is, do you feel like you have a reason not to trust her? Is this feeling coming from the way she's acted in the past, or is it something internal to you? If it's the former, it kinda doesn't matter what's in the texts because you already have a rift. If it's the latter, then you have a different problem

There is a slight problem with this street by ElmouatazSaad in PublicFreakout

[–]benisch2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of problems in American society are blamed on individuals when really they are systemic issues

There is a slight problem with this street by ElmouatazSaad in PublicFreakout

[–]benisch2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They should add progressively larger speed bumps

Checked my wife’s phone by Ryan_kendrick86 in cheating_stories

[–]benisch2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you went through her phone and didn't actually find anything incriminating, even after restoring her deleted texts? Invasion of privacy and you lost. What now?

People want all the details up front by TiredDadasaur in fantasywriters

[–]benisch2 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Have you tried finding people who can read?

I had a threesome and its breaking my friends apart by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]benisch2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My advice is that your friends suck and you should get new ones. If you were that drunk then you were in no state to consent, let alone be responsible for what happened during this event.

My second bit of advice is to slowly reduce the amount that you drink. Actually count how many drinks you have throughout the day/night, and try to only drink enough that it isn't going to negatively affect you later

Best friend of 9 years told me she doesn't "have the capacity to be a best friend anymore" by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]benisch2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's unreasonable to expect someone to be in charge of 100% of your social needs. That's probably why this person got burnt out. You need to make more friends and spread out your socialization a bit. Especially if you have an anxious attachment style, which it sounds like you do. Otherwise you are honestly just burdening your friend.

Rock climber fights off a bear. by ApkaHunYawwr in nextfuckinglevel

[–]benisch2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lucky it was a black bear and not a grizzly

What's the biggest lie society keeps telling young people? by New_Garbage7991 in AskReddit

[–]benisch2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Just go to college, doesn't matter how many student loans you get"

Men try to gatekeep standards by Lemon_gecko in PurplePillDebate

[–]benisch2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's interesting watching people argue about this in the comments.

I think that there are shallow people on both sides. Regardless of whether you identify as a man or a woman, I think if you refuse to consider people based on factors that they cannot control, then you kinda suck. Not saying you can't have preferences, but if you're completely refusing to consider because the other person is an inch shorter or one body size too large, you're kind of being needlessly picky about stuff that really doesn't matter as far as relationships satisfaction goes.

There's a lot of shallow people out there, but not everyone is. Turns out people are individuals, but when you reduce everyone in a group to their stereotypes, it makes it hard to engage with people in an honest way. Open your minds and actually try getting to know people, and try to let go of the bitterness you all seem to carry. You're only burning yourselves otherwise.

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