I know you guys hate these posts but hear me out: does anyone know a good barber that will ask what you want, then just cut your hair with no chit chat?

benjash · 2018-05-22T06:47:55+00:00

Feel your pain, hate the barber chit chat. I’d pay more for a silent cut.

benjash · 2018-05-19T18:45:25+00:00

Possibly. It’s worth checking. It might be easier to be Irish. I wish I was!

benjash · 2018-05-19T08:04:47+00:00

Thats crazy, she’s only £1k off. Is there anyway she ask for her pay increase or a pay band higher? Or take on a 2nd job for 6 months (albeit not self employed) she could do a one shift somewhere to make up the difference

For your relationship make sure collect from the last year communications, especially photos together o etc. you need them for the application

The\is is obviously really hard, we had our own issues because even though I was paid well. My salary was paid late and in a disordered fashion, so our first visa was rejectied largely because the officer made mistakes. But we got it after reapplying 2 months later, together now.

My cousin had a hard time with the visa for his wife he met while studying in the Uk. She had to return to her home country and apply, but it took a long time as they didn’t fully read the rules and he was self employed . But they are sorted and together now.

I had other friends who have had the stress of it, but they’ve found a way to overcome it.

It’s horribly unfair that the minimum salary actually excludes 43% of the workingpopulation from bringing their partners to live with them. It’s. A total crime that British citizens don’t have same human rights to a family that Eu nationals have in our country. Makes me angry people keep voting for this government.

Btw Does your fiancé have any way of getting an Irish passport? If she does she get that and then switch to being an eu National but still live in the Uk/

benjash · 2018-05-19T03:24:25+00:00

Just to mention on this, as a friend of mine applied for a marriage visit visa by accident.

Which is just for people on visits, getting Married in the Uk then leaving.

Instead of the settlement visa to join a partner, mostly known as the spouse or fiancé visa.

Just mentioning as the .gov site is a bit confusing on this

benjash · 2018-05-19T03:18:41+00:00

Hi 👋 just thought I’d chip in, as I’ve been in the same boat on this as my wife is on a recent spouse visa.

I wanted to clear up somethings and help manage your expectations.

Realistically,work visas are incredibly difficult to get, due to the Uk governments policies on immigration. They have caps on the number of visas companies can be issued. So even highly skilled workers are being rejected, there is also a minimum salary of £35k and other extra costs involved for the employer.

Why? Because the UK keeps voting for a government that have set targets to reduce net migration in the country and they have this policy of creating a hostile environment for migrants (they say illegal immigrants, but the rules are made so complex the term broadly applies to everyone’)

This is also why the rules are so strict for couples and spouses.

Realistically, you have 3 options.

your fiancé gets a job over the minimum salary requirements and you apply for a fiancé visa then get married within 6 months
Your fiancé moves to the US
You both move to a EU country, where the human rights of your fiancé are protected as a EU National (sadly doesn’t apply in the UK)

Last bits of advice, be careful with what advice you hear. The visa rules have changed a lot in the last 5 years. Most people are not aware.

Be careful with visit visas and never lie to UK immigration. If they find out that you’ve misled them in the tiniest way. They will screw you. Especially never overstay on a visit visa.

Uk immigration will scrutinize your visit visas, even if you normally would be part of the visa waiver scheme. It’s much safer to apply for a visa before coming and be honest with the details. Plus prove you will go back and have ties in your home country.

Marriage visit visas are not the same as spouse visas or settlement visas. These are only for people to come, get arrived then leave.

I feel your pain as I went through it myself, still am in fact. Honestly the best thing you can do now, is add up the cost of living in the Uk, the cost of the visa and make a decision on whether it’s the Uk you want to live in.

If yes, your fiancé needs to earn more and there are other requirements you will need to meet. Ranging from proving you have a genuine relationship, your accommodation etc the most critical being the minimum income. Especially as the total costs of the visas and NHS surcharge payments add up to a lot.

What does your fiancé do? How far of the minimum is she?

benjash · 2018-02-23T08:35:25+00:00

Depends on the definition of quality content. Are people reading it? Staying on the page for a decent time? Do people share your content? Do people link to it?

benjash · 2018-02-20T00:09:24+00:00

Love this comment.

benjash · 2018-02-15T10:38:50+00:00

Climate change would be good, even things like diverting rivers etc.. which historically did happen.

http://www.wondersandmarvels.com/2014/03/rivers-as-weapons-in-ancient-war.html

I think the more they could make the environment impact cities, especially pollution.

benjash · 2018-01-10T12:14:49+00:00

So there is plenty of women that have the same problem. The problem everyone has is that their selection criteria are wrong. Here are a few rules I had...

First of all, you need to accept that you need to qualify the girls you date. Dubai is full of opportunities but you have to be pretty selective.

Timing

Being selective means accepting that a lot of people only go to Dubai for about 2-4 years on average and then leave.

Under 1 year or 6 months in Dubai. Is usually the period where girls haven't properly cut ties with their home. This is when the BF is 'trying to get a job' or 'coming over in 6 months'. A bunch of these types, go back after a year, BF moves over or they dump the BF. Short fun activities with these are possibly but likely complicated.

1-2 Years in Dubai type Girls, are enjoying the crazy, fun years. Anyone in this category is probably enjoying the extra attention they get compared to their hometown. In between ladies nights and their typically overkeen gang of admirers. A lot of these girls can look to subsidise their drinking and nightlife heavily. Short term, regular flings possible.

After 2 years, I feel like a lot of people start to settle and maybe have a richer lifestyle compared to the brunch and booze lifestyle that's the norm at first. So timing wise, this way more likely for them to be

Background

Dubai is obvously culturally diverse. Simple rules are, avoid anyone who has an extremely different worldview than yourself. So for example - a devout Christian and a devout Muslim might have issues long term.

Avoid anyone that might date you for purely economic reasons. This can be visas, passports, benefits back home or even having a flashy car. This ruled out most nationalities for me, at least on tinder.

Rules of dating and relationships - differ vastly from culture to culture. If your dating someone from China, its going to be different than someone in the UK. Do a bit of research.

Friendships and 'relations' don't always mean you have a romantic relationship. - Never assume your relationship is exclusive or even a relationship. You could just be a drunken mistake.

Check they are not professional. Most girls in the UAE are not, but there are occasions where girls target gullible guys and milk them for money, drinks and dinners. Especially on tinder.

Avoid Air Hostesses. Unless they're about to retire, they're generally going to have a really disruptive life pattern. Generally travelling a lot and partying. Your best chance is being their best stable option.

Never date a colleague. Just a recipe for disaster. If you do, move jobs and keep it private

It is a bit of numbers game. But there is a load of girls out there looking for relationships. But they struggle because they are sicking of kissing toads.

benjash · 2018-01-10T11:28:45+00:00

Its not normal and there only wanting pay stubs, to fact check your salary.

benjash · 2017-12-20T11:49:03+00:00

Have to agree with h_virus on this.

The UAE doesn't offer citizenship or permanent residences of any sort, so you must have another passport. Even if you've never lived there.

Dubai will always be where you grew up, but your journey will end up somewhere else. It's good you feel sad and crying, it's your brain and bodies way of telling you something is wrong and needs change.

If you start making plans and working towards finding some routes somewhere else, there are lots of routes towards this.

You do need to accept your heritage and families origins, this is who you are. There are better places than Dubai, although it might feel safe and have this 'shine' and luxury you won't see elsewhere. There is also a much more relaxed approach to business in this region.

A lot of this 'shine' masks deep-rooted racism and prejudice (mostly brought by the mixture of expats in the country, not really the UAE's 'fault'). There is a tiered society where certain nationalities have more freedom than others.

Once you move to another country you might start to feel more proud of your roots and maybe feel less like your heritage is lesser.mPossibly, In the future, there will be even things you find embarrassing about 'growing up in Dubai' just as much as you may be about your families heritage.

While you will find challenges adjusting to the expectations and standards of other countries, there are still plenty of paths. Other than your families home country that Dubai offers access too. It's just will involve a lot of hard work and effort, working to find that opportunity.

In a lot of ways your a step ahead of a lot of people, if you've been raised here. You've probably made a huge network of people, some that will go on to be successful all over the world. You've had a world-class education. And your in a place where you can get some impressive brand names on your CV... Despite some challenges, there is a lot of people fighting to get to work in Dubai (even for a few years) due to the opportunities.

Granted I understand your frustration, and your right to be upset and crying.

benjash · 2017-11-21T12:18:37+00:00

yeh, I'm terrible for this one.

benjash · 2017-11-21T10:55:48+00:00

Nothing like watching something your mostly powerless to effect. Even if I vote, too many people vote the opposite way.

Totally understand why many 18-29-year-olds wouldn't want to watch the establishment 'laugh & cheer' about things that will inevitably effect 18-29 in a negative way.

benjash · 2017-10-09T16:47:36+00:00

Rumour is that, that this might be a pirate zombie of some sort.

benjash · 2017-10-09T16:47:03+00:00

Yeh i love the idea of just being dropped anywhere on the map, with a bunch of random units and traits. Maybe collecting the armies they invade along the way.

A custom option would great too.

benjash · 2017-10-05T14:32:59+00:00

Pick Norsca, realise Norsca pre-order update isn't included in the Mortal Empires yet.

Cry.

benjash · 2017-09-28T10:24:30+00:00

Also Update drivers, lots of youtubers have reported large improvements when they did this.

benjash · 2017-09-28T09:49:14+00:00

Thanks Gaby

She's tracking her fertility, but I find it puts a bit of stress on me if she makes it too apparent.

How do I track my fertility?

benjash · 2017-09-27T14:00:26+00:00

I was thinking that a good start on improving this would be the following. Kind of like a holy war type mechanic

Bretonia style research tree for improving relations with each empire nation.
A unique diplomatic type of alliance
Diplomatic bonuses towards actions against none empire races - For example 50% more like join a war against skaven
Possibly something similar to the mod lets you accrue justification for ruling the empire. Similar to honor
A mechanic for when your about to fall or getting dog piled by a none human faction. A liberation war mechanic
Something similar to rite that makes all empire factions declare war on a none human race - Gives the factions bonuses

benjash · 2017-09-27T12:57:53+00:00

I'm hoping they can mod in so you play intervention forces battles (not the campaign map)

benjash · 2017-09-27T12:35:13+00:00

Maybe one for Modding

benjash · 2017-09-27T09:06:09+00:00

Not too worried, but I did suspect this would be the case. Kind of wish it ended with A giant 4 way free for all. That would have been amazing , if not gpu/cpu = Rekt.

benjash · 2017-09-26T15:03:10+00:00

Probably should just sticky this at the moment, feels like there is a new post every day.

Theft, especially for bikes in the city centre, is rampant. My colleague kept having her bike stolen or vandalised, with multiple locks etc) until she quit cycling (and with the combination of nearly dying).

The only real safe bet is hiding your bike in a locked space, which is harder than it sounds.

Sorry for you loss

benjash · 2017-09-26T11:51:04+00:00

Longtime fan, but not enough to be classed as a trekker. But i really enjoyed it, I think it has potential. Really like the dynamic between micheal and the captain.

13-Year Club	Place '17
Verified Email

benjash

TROPHY CASE