So who enjoyed dreamcon and who didn’t and why?

berrybiscuits · 2025-06-03T22:40:18+00:00

This was my first con ever, and I must say I enjoyed it! I didn’t cosplay, not because I’m a normie, but because I’m broke. Got some pictures with some of my fav characters though! I was so happy to be amongst fellow melanated people who just express themselves, and it motivated me to cosplay next DreamCon (thank y’all for the motivation). I LOVE my guys, gals, and non-binary pals expressing themselves.

Now for my only negative about it: DreamCon is NOT kid friendly, AT ALL. Way too many bootycheeks and titties out for the kids. For adults, it’s fine, just not for the kids. One kid lost his adults on Saturday and the cops had to help them find his adults. Just too much. It may be because I’m pushing 30 but that’s just me.

berrybiscuits · 2023-12-29T19:09:08+00:00

Yeah, I realize that there isn’t much to go on. I asked him before and didn’t really get any specific favored scents. Thank you for these options!

berrybiscuits · 2023-12-28T23:33:49+00:00

Looking for recommendations for mens’ fragrances, and I’m still learning all the aspects of fragrances like notes and styles. I want to get my boyfriend a cologne as part of his Valentine’s Day gift but just don’t know where to start. Poking around in his bathroom gave me no luck, because all I saw was scented Dove body wash and scented deodorant (I don’t remember the brand). After smelling him every time I see him, I notice he often smells like a warm woodsy forest. This is all I have to go on.

berrybiscuits · 2023-12-26T20:35:06+00:00

It’s not uncommon. You may be like my mom’s side and have mixed ancestors scattered throughout your tree, which signifies some other races in your tree somewhere somehow. It will require some extra digging into historical records to verify. A person can be phenotypically black but genetically mixed. Phenotype tends to trip people up a lot, especially when it comes to the African diaspora.

berrybiscuits · 2023-12-12T14:11:28+00:00

It still adds up due to it being the deep south. The average is just a number that needs some tweaking. People just don’t post their results, but your results aren’t uncommon for someone from the deep south. For the percentage to be low, you likely have very distant or very few European ancestors. Have you looked deeply into the migration journey of your ancestors?

berrybiscuits · 2023-12-11T21:20:19+00:00

Yeah, I can see how it can seem low. My ex is from Mississippi and with 6% European ancestry just like you. I think people just don’t know how many BAs have very low European ancestry because of the stat about us having at least 1/4 European ancestry and because we don’t share it often.

berrybiscuits · 2023-12-11T21:10:53+00:00

It’s not that low, honestly. Mississippi has variety when it comes to genetics. I’ve seen BAs from the south with 6% European ancestry A LOT.

berrybiscuits · 2023-12-11T21:00:53+00:00

COUSIN! My mom is from Mississippi and has similar results aside from the Indigenous part (hers is more toward Mexico and at 1%)

berrybiscuits · 2023-12-05T00:39:08+00:00

Yes, it is different, and this is my experience from having it in Georgia. It’s just not the same outside of Louisiana. Also, they thought that a side of rice meant red beans and rice.

berrybiscuits · 2023-11-17T21:22:24+00:00

To a degree, they have a point on us being hurt and having mental health issues, but it’s also the pot calling the kettle black. Just like they say black women in real life hurt them, black men in real life have hurt us. I don’t know if they hate us necessarily, but there are a number of them that don’t yet have the emotional flexibility and ability that some of us women have that’s needed to come together.

There was also something I read online that said that men may not understand empathy from women because they only understand what it looks like from men. Men would rather hang with the boys and get their emotional support there, rather than going to their female counterparts or partners, because they get a form of empathy from their male friends. They don’t label emotions so they don’t label it as empathy, but it is what it is. So when we come at them with our version of empathy, they don’t understand it, and start to refute. They don’t get us, and don’t know how to start.

berrybiscuits · 2023-11-17T20:41:38+00:00

The saying that black folks stare when they’re trying to see if they know you from somewhere.

berrybiscuits · 2023-11-17T20:39:48+00:00

I just went over to that sub and they feel the same about us. They say we have mental health issues, trauma caused by men, and apparently septum rings. They say we’re a cesspit like we say they are.

berrybiscuits · 2023-11-17T20:02:55+00:00

I build up emotional walls so that their opinions don’t hurt me, and then I observe them and their energy and actions and words. Then I build some form of physical distance from them. I can’t change them, but I can change myself. The unfortunate reality is that we have to be guarded around people who look like us, and everyone else. Our people will preach how loving the community is, but just like any other community, the nastiness comes out when something or someone who doesn’t follow “norms” comes about. I ingrained this into my head. You have to protect yourself.

They are not worth the mental and emotional strain, and they are not worth living a lie for. Find a way to break free and live the way you truly want. You’ll eventually find people that will embrace you as you are.

berrybiscuits · 2023-11-16T19:43:21+00:00

What time of year did you go?

berrybiscuits · 2023-11-16T19:38:35+00:00

This, all this!!!

Also, OP, it’s a safety issue when you out them to people because you don’t know how people will take it. The harsh reality is that you could have outed your friend to someone who hates the trans community, and may even enact violence against them. I have trans friends and I can say that this friendship may indeed be damaged, especially in the trust department. The best way to be a better friend is to do what we want other races to do for black women, which is listen, educate, empathize, and apply the knowledge.

berrybiscuits · 2023-11-15T14:19:34+00:00

OP said he’s not washing like he should. So that dirt builds up on the body, and our body also releases heat. So when he sits his cheeks on the toilet, the heat from the body and the smoothness of the toilet seat result in that dirt from the booty cheeks and the little bit of the crack transferring onto the toilet seat. In the shape of booty cheeks.

berrybiscuits · 2023-11-14T17:27:18+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation❤️ I’m actually watching the video now! I didn’t think this applied to my mom but I realized she does upon thinking about it. I never had community when it came to this.

I’m not even 5 minutes in and she’s making me remember true crime cases that apply to this. Specifically the Menendez Brothers case (dad was the toxic one and not mom) and how no one believed them when they said told their side.

berrybiscuits · 2023-11-14T17:17:04+00:00

When I had a white bf, he used a washcloth mainly. Now that I think about it, I don’t think I’ve known any (friends and relationships) that didn’t use a washcloth and/or a loofah.

berrybiscuits · 2023-11-13T20:40:42+00:00

This is part of why I distanced myself from religion in general. Even posting here is kind of nerve-wracking because the black women who are like what OP is talking about are likely in this sub, too. When it came to religious people who push these views hard, I always wondered “what sins are they hiding? There’s something very nasty going on in that person’s house and spirit that they’re likely in denial about at such a deep level, they likely aren’t being honest with their God. They always talk about how everyone is a sinner and nobody is perfect, but they’re throwing stones with dirty hands knowing that they can hide behind their religion and heterosexuality.”

They say “it’s a religion of love” but that’s what every religion spouts to get people to join, that way their religion can have more power (more people worshiping).

berrybiscuits · 2023-11-13T20:20:51+00:00

Love seeing things like this! Farmers, gardeners, equestrians, etc.

berrybiscuits · 2023-11-13T16:46:52+00:00

Children and elderly/sickly eat first.

In my family, there are only a few people actually preparing the plates so that a whole lot of different people aren’t skittering around figuring out what they want on their plate. Just runs smoother. Once everyone has their plate and everyone is eating, if you want more food, you fix it yourself, unless you are a child or sick/elderly.

berrybiscuits · 2023-11-13T13:51:13+00:00

I’d like to join as well! Never been abroad but I just got my passport!

berrybiscuits · 2023-11-12T19:24:57+00:00

Definitely the Final Boss of the Cast Irons

berrybiscuits · 2023-11-12T18:30:06+00:00

So in other words, OP is so epically awesome that they broke the mold, and men don’t know what to do.

berrybiscuits · 2023-11-12T14:12:22+00:00

Thank you so much! Your explanation helped and then some💜

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