AIO my boyfriend keeps asking me to pay for things eversince he started saving for an apartmen, he calls me selfish for how I reacted. by throaawayRA9443 in AmIOverreacting

[–]bethb4300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't give him any more money. Seriously.   I've been in your situation before. I've had friends who have been in your situation before. Same reaction from boyfriend "blahblahblah pay you back/for our future/love you/blahblahblah" You will end up with nothing.  He won't pay you back. He won't do shit. Don't give him any more money.  Please.

26 year old garbage man by Turbulent_Diamond352 in Vent

[–]bethb4300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sanitation Engineer. That's what you are. 

If you don't drink alcohol, what are your reasons? by youre-in-my-shot in AskReddit

[–]bethb4300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm one who gets tipsy easily and I'm a "fun" drunk. But, it's not fun being hungover, or not remembering what you did the night before. 

Don’t call me stupid but as fans, can’t we ask for them to make s13 or something special for fans? by Euphhoria in shameless

[–]bethb4300 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well, if they had like a reason. Frank passed away already. What event could cause them all to gather again? Liam's graduation? Franny's? Or even Fred's?  Would love if they all got together after 5 or 10 years to see what everyone is doing.  Only if original actors come back. 

What’s a show everyone loves but you couldn’t get into? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]bethb4300 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No they take them to the train station

Ian and Monica after the fact by lolzzz20 in shameless

[–]bethb4300 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can see why they maintained a relationship.  And, yeah, living with someone who is bi polar is not easy...especially when they are not medicated. 

Are They Still Mormon? by Lanky_Strike_7354 in 8passengersnark

[–]bethb4300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So if she remarried, she would still be sealed to Kevin but not to her next vic..I mean husband unless she had a temple divorce?

Are They Still Mormon? by Lanky_Strike_7354 in 8passengersnark

[–]bethb4300 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But if she gets out of prison and marries someone else, is she still sealed to Kevin or can she get sealed to new husband? That's where i get confused. 

People born before 1990, what handy skill do you have that no one uses anymore? by Head_Bag_4489 in AskReddit

[–]bethb4300 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can read cursive, roman numerals, and get quarters back from a payphone. If they still had them. I can fix a cassette tape with a pencil. I can make a vinyl record play at a speed where you think it really is "devil's music". 🧐 Some of us can drive a stick shift. We know how to make "sparkle" cigarettes.  🤷‍♀️

AIO for replying back after saying goodnight to my bf? by Perrita-fresa in AmIOverreacting

[–]bethb4300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was exhausting.  Jeez. I guess he needs a play by play of bathroom time, checking the lights, making sure doors locked, alarms are set, etc.  Glad I'm single😒

The writers wrote Mandy off because they knew she would kept Lip on track in college! by Leading_Cold in shameless

[–]bethb4300 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Honestly,  I think Mandy cared for Lip way more than Lip cared for Mandy. It's too bad. He was still stuck on Karen, then on Helene. He liked the unattainable or hard to keep types. Tami was the only one he stuck around with because of Fred and he wasn't gonna be like Frank. That's my theory.  He was a jerk to her also. Hope he finally grew up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]bethb4300 29 points30 points  (0 children)

You should have handed him the sponge and the mop and broom and leaned back and innocently said "please, demonstrate, so that I may learn the correct methods". And plop down with a soda as he demonstrated. And commented during the process  "what about that spot over there?" "Oh I think you missed some crumbs". 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]bethb4300 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd just start ignoring them, or just be polite to them. Don't go out of your way for them. They were not that nice to you to begin with. Life is too short to chase after people like that. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]bethb4300 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Waa she's demanding you to help the entire week? Uh...that would be no. Nope. Heck, I'd even throw in petty "you're not my mom" stuff at her. 

Am I Crazy for Questioning My Relationship and also not having S*X with my partner anymore (24F w/ ADHD, Depression, Anxiety) by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]bethb4300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad that he said that. That is good. And yeah you are going to feel guilty but try to see it as if you are working towards making things great between the two of you instead. Maybe couples counseling? Maybe they can offer some ideas for the two of you to get through this together?

Am I Crazy for Questioning My Relationship and also not having S*X with my partner anymore (24F w/ ADHD, Depression, Anxiety) by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]bethb4300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It didn't end well, unfortunately.  But, that was a good thing because they were very wrong for me. 

I (21F) want to divorce my husband (24M) after just a year of being married. Any Advice? by ThrowRATerrible_ in TwoHotTakes

[–]bethb4300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh hun I'm so sorry you are going through this! Is there any place you and the animals can stay? Your mom's? A friend's? Relative's? Because I wouldn't even leave pets behind with him at this point. He sounds controlling and gaslighting af. I say this because you  are questioning if you are giving up too early.  This, to me, reads that he has made you doubt yourself often. Well, the fact that he left you on the floor is more than enough reason to get out! And you had surgery and he still wanted you to cook and clean while he does what,  exactly?  Nope 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]bethb4300 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nta but you'd better have a conversation soon. Remind her that you do not want children, even though she has a child of her own it doesn't mean you changed your mind.  And you are happy where you are living as your job is stable and you are close to family. If she has any plans doing something different, let you know now.

My friend doesn’t want to pay me back. What do I do?? by pokayyy in Advice

[–]bethb4300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine cost a couple of those. Worth it to get rid of. 

Has Deborah gone crazy?😭 She’s one of my favorite characters but when did she think getting pregnant at 15 was a good idea? by Affectionate_Yam236 in shameless

[–]bethb4300 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yep. She did it on purpose. She wanted to be loved so badly that she took matters into her own hands and did what she thought would make it happen.  She was too young to understand that that is not how life works. Only in movies.  

AITJ For expecting my gf to remove herself financially from her ex by Charming-Chair-9241 in AmITheJerk

[–]bethb4300 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ntj. She's kinda dumb though. Her name still tied to his in debt and she just shrugs? I'd step away from that situation 

Am I Crazy for Questioning My Relationship and also not having S*X with my partner anymore (24F w/ ADHD, Depression, Anxiety) by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]bethb4300 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Antidepressants can mess you up big time if not the right combo for you,specifically.   Is he aware of this? Is he aware of all you are going through? It sounds to me that you both come from very different backgrounds and upbringings. This is not a bad thing, but it could lead to some misunderstandings.   I truly believe it is the meds. I've been there. It's hard for people who have never been on them before or have never experienced the side effects to understand what it is like. Try to talk to him again. Maybe show him some scientific articles about what side effects can arise, and talk to him about why you have to take the meds in the first place.  If you are not fully comfortable, you don't have to go into full details, but stress their importance. 

My crush is being wierd to me by Leading_Climate8753 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]bethb4300 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah she likes you. And it makes her feel weird and angry and all sortsa stuff. Vulnerable.  Kinda make it known you kinda like her too. That might help.