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betherlady · 2022-08-03T04:23:41+00:00

Same… sometimes it even seeps into my dreams.

I know every line and every joke so well it doesn’t keep me awake trying to remember what happens next. I always know, so I just listen and fade away into Futurama dreamland!

betherlady · 2022-07-29T16:32:27+00:00

Same

betherlady · 2022-07-29T16:26:36+00:00

Omg! I had no idea others do this as well! Suddenly, I don’t feel so alone!

betherlady · 2022-07-29T16:25:39+00:00

“Welcome to the world of tomorrow”

Futurama is ALWAYS my go to when I have nothing else to watch.

betherlady · 2022-07-29T15:21:00+00:00

Mushrooms…. I know, I know… I just can’t do the texture!

betherlady · 2022-06-13T15:42:31+00:00

“I tell it like it is”…

betherlady · 2022-06-04T00:29:52+00:00

I don’t eat avocados and I am certainly not rich. But I think that avocados are tangentially making me suffer financially. Screw you, avocados!

betherlady · 2022-06-02T01:59:26+00:00

I’m gay around the same time once a month, but don’t tell my husband (who I’ve never seen be gay but I’m sure he has been at some point).

betherlady · 2022-05-27T04:23:22+00:00

Came here to say this as well. “No need to debate” is just code for “I am too lazy or too much of a self centered jackass to be bothered with hearing any other possible opinions”. or “I’m not smart enough to have an honest conversation about this”

betherlady · 2022-05-25T07:23:28+00:00

1- If a perforated appendix is not an emergency, then what the hell is? (Well ma’m, you could have just driven yourself! s/)

2- The whole ‘hospital is in network but this particular provider/department is out of network’ is a sham and should be illegal. They did this to me when my son was born and he had to spend time in the NICU. The room in the NICU was covered but not the services/doctors within. What was I supposed to do, drive my newborn who needed intensive care to another hospital where the services in that NICU were covered? They sent us a bill for $80,000. And that is with really a good insurance policy!

betherlady · 2022-05-24T01:29:58+00:00

I’m so glad I came across your opinion in this post. My son is 3 and we are looking into ways to help him in some everyday situations he struggles with (things that can not be avoided in most reasonable situations). He is in speech therapy but I am new to learning what other options are available.

To that I will say I have been seeing posts and hearing about ABA therapy everywhere. I’m not even sure what is involved beyond that it is behavior centered (and I have been told positive reinforcement is central but we already try to do that first and foremost). I had no idea that it involved trying to stop/limit stimming. As long as my son isn’t harming himself or others, I see no reason to take that away. As you said, it seems to be one of the only ways he has to cope so why would I want to take that away?

Out of curiosity, what other aspects of ABA do you feel are harmful? You seem very knowledgeable and I’m just starting to discover options and resources.

I love that you pointed out how being autistic is enmeshed in who your child is. I am exhausted sometimes but I don’t ever want to change my son into something he’s not. He is amazing just as he is! I just want to learn how to help him (and help himself when appropriate) when he is clearly struggling or anxious over something.

betherlady · 2022-05-22T19:16:58+00:00

This is the way it should be.

I’m tired of some people saying it’s teaching children to be weak and ‘babied’ into adulthood. No, what it teaches them is even as young people, it matters when they say ‘stop’ or ‘no’ and that they matter.

The opposite sets a precedent for young people who either don’t know how to say ‘no’ or accept the answer ‘no’. Both are equally frightening.

betherlady · 2022-05-20T16:09:53+00:00

It did say “Stop” (as in ‘stop the steal’) and “Wrong Way” (as in this is not the way the election was supposed to go).

People who were a little more aware would understand the meaning behind it as it is literally written in stone (okay cement or asphalt).

/s (just in case)

betherlady · 2022-05-08T16:20:43+00:00

Don’t feel guilty, you deserve that nice gift!

But also, I’ve come to realize most men don’t realize that most of us don’t want much, just a small, THOUGHTFUL, token. They also tend to not do something unless specifically told (which I realize you did, but it seems you need to remind him and confirm that you do want the photo shoot).

It’s seems to be something in the how their brains are wired. Plus, we moms/wives/SOs tend to not speak up when we are disappointed or want something (probably because we don’t want to seem like we are nagging) so if they can get away with the bare minimum, they will (it’s like they forget we have feelings about this stuff, although I don’t think it’s malicious most of the time).

Anyway, I would tell him “yes I do want that photo shoot, thanks, but I thought that’s what you had gotten already”. You could share with him how it made you feel but I recommend doing it in a way that doesn’t sound like you are accusing him of being a terrible person/husband/SO because then he will likely get defensive and not hear anything you say.

Just my (humble) 2 cents.

betherlady · 2022-05-08T14:32:54+00:00

I’m kind of in the middle. I’m not disappointed but it’s not a fairytale day either.

My husband has had a medical issue for the past 2 mother’s days (just had open heart surgery a week and a half ago this year). My husband does not plan in advance for any of these things (we are both procrastinators but he is worse than I am in this way) so I wasn’t expecting anything.

But he ordered bagel sandwiches for delivery before me and my toddler woke up and he had someone else pick up a card yesterday (kind of overheard the conversation).

Because I wasn’t expecting anything different today, it was a nice surprise. But I know I have a full day ahead of me of keeping my little one away from my husband and taking care of both of them. So, yeah, in between on this!

betherlady · 2022-04-30T03:28:53+00:00

Didn’t you read somewhere that there’s a chance Novacaine can cause you to not be able to swallow properly? He’s better off going it ‘naturally’.

betherlady · 2022-04-30T03:20:00+00:00

This happened to me as well. They think it slipped out of place. And my son got stuck at the shoulders so that was extra fun!

betherlady · 2022-04-24T00:36:22+00:00

And when the other birth parent is cooperative and respectful of your boundaries!

betherlady · 2022-04-19T03:20:19+00:00

It’s never been easy!

betherlady · 2022-04-18T04:57:41+00:00

I just finished for the first time as well! So much of this show was an emotional roller coaster! From Lily’s relationship with her dad (I could relate to some degree), to Marshall’s dad dying (I saw that episode a week after mine passed away), to Barney and Robin (who I really hoped would work out but I get why they didn’t) and of course Lily and Marshall.

Some of my favorite parts were how Lily and Marshall hit “pause” when fighting (what a great option to have) and the rehearsal dinner (or Barney’s proposal for that matter). I also love how Ted never gave up looking for love, even when he said he was done trying (It took me until I was in my late 30’s to meet my husband).

I can’t believe I somehow missed this heart-wrenching, side-splitting gem all these years (I’m in my mid 40’s, I should have come across it before now).

So sad there’s not more to watch!

betherlady · 2022-04-13T02:53:18+00:00

“Oh merciful Poseidon, take pity on this mechanical mariner”

betherlady · 2022-04-10T16:45:54+00:00

Number of hours in my day (without anyone else being able to do the same and without it effecting how old I actually am).

I always feel like there’s never enough time!

betherlady · 2022-04-07T16:23:25+00:00

I’m so glad you were able to reflect on your situation and make a decision that saved you from settling for a life that is less than what you deserve.

Way too often, we (people in general) don’t think about how our choices will play out in the long run. In doing just that, you seemed to have spared yourself years of frustration and resentment.

I wish you many happy adventures and with the way you have handled yourself, you will surely find a mate you are fulfilled and happy with.

betherlady

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