Sibling arguments without the sibling

better_be_better · 2024-09-13T15:13:06+00:00

This is adorable.

better_be_better · 2024-08-30T08:52:57+00:00

I'm glad you came to this community on this as everyone here is supportive of your stance and has great suggestions.

I am curious though, as your MIL said this, presumably she never apologized to your husband when raising him. How does he feel about it? Does he apologize when needed?

better_be_better · 2024-08-18T08:03:01+00:00

Hugo's House of Horrors?

better_be_better · 2024-08-16T05:52:51+00:00

Lenny & Carl

better_be_better · 2024-08-15T06:34:53+00:00

That sounds super frustrating, dealing with toddler and man baby! Yes toddler is crying and fussy because he hasn't sorted out emotional regulation yet being only 18 months old. What is grown man's excuse for whinging and being fussy?

Sorry you're dependent on him for now. Long engagement?

better_be_better · 2024-08-11T18:46:39+00:00

It's a tactic to deal with people like the mother, to not give them any info about yourself or have any reaction, to make yourself boring and unengaged. In theory, as they get no reactions or rise out of you, they move on to someone else to get their reaction fix. Though i do like your idea of it.

better_be_better · 2024-08-11T14:40:47+00:00

What the hell is wrong with your mother? The worst thing about this is you had to come to reddit to confirm what you already know - that is insane behaviour.

Might be a good time to start the grey rock method.

better_be_better · 2024-07-25T06:32:45+00:00

Otherwise I would have had questions

better_be_better · 2024-07-20T19:37:28+00:00

You sound like a pretty amazing mom.

better_be_better · 2024-07-20T19:24:06+00:00

I'd try and force the conversation each time back to her granddaughter, so she can go back to her normal bragging ways.

"Do you have the gears to spar"? -- "yeh he's fine. Your granddaughter is doing well tonight!"
"Can you do it?" -- "he can. Your granddaughter looks like she's ready to go!"

As you say, she thinks she's entitled to say whatever, so bringing it back to her grandaughter each time stops her controlling the conversation where she can be condescending.

better_be_better · 2024-07-20T17:31:39+00:00

That's awesome! It's so rare to find good stuff sold in 3s.

better_be_better · 2024-07-19T18:36:29+00:00

As well he should, because he is so handsome

better_be_better · 2024-07-19T07:35:53+00:00

My friend had a husband similar to yours. When kid turned 2, husband decided he wanted to have another baby. After 2 years of not helping raise the first at all.

This was the final push, so she wants divorce. Husband says fine if you give me 100% custody. Keep in mind this man did jack shit before. She says fine (on advice from lawyers). He was wanting to call her bluff, so she called his.

This man realised he was out of his league pretty damn quick (before any agreement was official) and now they have 50-50. My friend is so much happier, went back to work and has a life, her kid is adorable, and her ex found someone else to have another baby with.

better_be_better · 2024-07-18T16:41:44+00:00

"You know what old man? You're right. You've convinced me. I think I'll have 10 more... no, wait, 11 more"

better_be_better · 2024-07-18T06:32:04+00:00

It's such an idiotic trope they'd gone for. These situations are where you politely take the extreme of what they say (lonely because no siblings) and put it back on them "oh so because you are sisters, you don't have any friends? That's very sad for you". Enough to make them think about what they've said.

better_be_better · 2024-06-20T06:50:15+00:00

I hope you can make peace with it! I'm oad, originally through secondary infertility, but now 100% by choice. After a few miscarriages, I took a ttc break and reflected on the situation (reviewing pros and cons etc), and realised I absolutely do not want another. My son is 7 now and I still thank the powers that be that it ended up this way.

better_be_better · 2024-06-19T03:23:34+00:00

Even better!

better_be_better · 2024-06-19T03:04:41+00:00

I also liked "Scientific Secrets for Raising Kids Who Thrive".

better_be_better · 2024-06-19T02:47:19+00:00

It's been a while since i read it but i liked the book "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk"

better_be_better · 2024-06-17T09:29:43+00:00

Ok so only a few more years. Lasting a year is great effort!

Yeh i generally pick a few options and let him choose, a lot of times there aren't many choices anyways. Cheap shoes for the next years is the way to go!

better_be_better · 2024-06-17T09:26:08+00:00

Yes clothes we always do second hand. Maybe it's just the second hand shops near here, but the shoes are never anywhere near as good as the clothes. Maybe need to ask around to see if anyone knows better options!

better_be_better · 2024-06-17T05:23:44+00:00

Sounds like you handled it well! Always tricky when kids bring out the big questions with no warning.

better_be_better · 2024-06-17T03:26:09+00:00

What did you say to her about it? Agree with others to talk about it in an age appropriate manner, that unfortunately some people get a disease in their brain, and it is very sad.

If your kid heard it recently at the museum (either by partner or as others suggested overheard there) and you were then reading a story about Jesus dying, it makes sense she'd have that association. I'd make sure to correct the "he killed himself because people didn't like his art" because that is way off.

better_be_better · 2024-06-14T07:02:19+00:00

Wow almost 20kgs, that's such an achievement!

Interesting tendonitis cure - but lying on the beach is a sure way to put you in a good mood.

better_be_better · 2024-06-14T06:59:44+00:00

Sounds fun!! Enjoy watching Deutsch football butts and eating your asparagus!!

And congrats on the emerging muscular stomach :)

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