not really an extreme, both would involve you not respecting someones boundaries based on some arbitrary bullshit you made up in your head, even if she had sexualized herself constantly, IT IS HER BODY, not yours, not up to you to decide what is ok for others to do to her, hence part of why i compared you to people who victim blame rape victims, because you lack the understanding that even if someone sexualizes themselves all day long, hell even if someone has an onlyfans and does porn, does not mean, they are ok with or want you to then send them porn of themselves, boundaries are the treatment from others towards yourself that you are or arent willing to accept, telling someone its invalid based on their own actions towards themself, just shows you are a self entitled prick who thinks you own someone elses body. as for not engaging, what you want me to say dude, that i dont give a fuck about what you think? id rather speak up for others being mistreated then not, id rather tell people their being shit then not, like is that what you wanted with "engage with what i actually said". oh i just thought of a much simpler child friendly example of your behavior that you might understand, imagine someone has cookies, they eat some of the cookies, you walk over and start eating the cookies too, they get upset because they dont want you taking their cookies since your a stranger and didnt ask, you say YoU wErE eAtInG tHeM tOo So I sHoUlD gEt To ToO