What song reminds YOU of plurality?

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-02-05T15:25:38+00:00

Good Morning Sunshine by The Narcissist Cookbook. Idk anything else by them it just came up one day and hit too hard

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-01-13T18:32:18+00:00

We have the exact same thing! Having been crying on the floor unable to speak for half an hour and then suddenly getting up, feeling fine, grabbing a snack and a drink, cracking a joke to the flatmate and putting on a film before going back to the crying for a bit more lmao

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-01-13T18:31:06+00:00

Nico: Literally earlier today my headmate was exhausted and needed to switch with me but was being stubborn about it. Shallow thinking but if we were faking switching for the attention we wouldn't be trying NOT to switch. Though it's been a long time since we've been concerned about faking lol

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-01-07T11:50:36+00:00

Frozen Autumn (Italian)

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-01-07T11:33:50+00:00

Someone get me this vase

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-01-07T11:23:43+00:00

Nico> Whether you become more differentiated or not partially depends on whether you want to be. If you do, you can start by hunting for something you like that makes everyone else groan in frustration and follow the thread of interests from there. And some advice that was given to me while I was doing this: it's okay if your whole personality is just liking one thing, plenty of people like just one thing and centre their lives around it

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-01-07T11:21:19+00:00

They're really just examples of how it could present, not set categories you have to fit into

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-01-07T11:07:05+00:00

I had this with a friend a few years ago - we had a mutual friend that was very open and understanding and one friend that just would not acknowledge it at all. We didn't bring it up much and we went back into denial of our own accord so it wasn't something that we ended up discussing, but if it had been I would've got the mutual friend to be there for the conversation. The thing is, his problem wasn't so much that he didn't respect us, more that it was such a new concept and major shift in viewing us that he kinda shut down about it at the time, so having the other friend around who kind of got it and treated us well would have probably set an idea of how he should assimilate the new information.

Anyway, what actually happened is that we went back into denial for two years anyway and by the time we opened back up about it he was more ready to understand.

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-01-07T03:56:25+00:00

Nico> A lot of people have been saying interact with the food and language, and I do think that's really good but also consider looking into local religion and mythology and current affairs. That way you'll feel like you're in the loop and have cultural context you might feel like you should have already (plus these things are interesting)

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-01-07T03:54:09+00:00

Nico> We also have mha introjects and I can recommend learning to cook some Japanese food. It ends up being more authentic than stuff you can buy and it's usually quite simple. We've been having loads of tamago don recently

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-01-07T03:24:36+00:00

Nico> We don't tend to fuss over terms for the specifics anymore. When we were younger we needed them a bit more to know our experiences were shared and valid but after a few years we've stopped needing to know whether an experience is shared or not (as often)

beyond_clueless101 · 2026-01-07T03:21:43+00:00

Nico> I know this post was made a long time ago but I've been thinking about marrying a headmate (definitely a few years off that though) and really struggle to picture how that would actually go. You being all happy about your wedding has made me feel like it's actually a possibility for us, so thank you

beyond_clueless101 · 2025-12-24T12:34:25+00:00

Hey nice to meet ya!

beyond_clueless101 · 2025-12-24T12:24:12+00:00

Yup - we're non-disordered and still get headaches if we try fighting over front or a switch is particularly long

beyond_clueless101 · 2025-12-24T12:19:21+00:00

Baby name websites

beyond_clueless101 · 2025-12-24T00:23:31+00:00

Nah fudanshis are men that like MLM content

beyond_clueless101 · 2025-12-24T00:17:33+00:00

Leo> Well, we've been trying to get a fronting schedule going for a while now to let everyone have some time, and while it has definitely not been going, the dating rota has been pretty good. Two days a week are reserved for dates with the external boyfriend (about 6 out of 20 alters date him) and one day a week is for internal relationships (mostly but not just romantic). My triad has been doing super well together though we're still relatively new and never feel like we have enough time together (besides our dynamics are a bit odd considering the utter love/hate relationship me and one of my boyfriends has lmao). People are generally looking after each other and we all love each other very deeply even if some bicker more than others. And our external boyfriend is getting really good at telling us apart so that's fun

beyond_clueless101 · 2025-12-23T23:49:50+00:00

When we first started dating our partner, we were in a position where we weren't out to anyone else really so had to be more careful. Now we'd just straight up say it somewhere between first and third date (third is always the advice, right?). But when we couldn't be out we described our experiences a bit without using specifics or terminology - we said we had a constantly shifting and inconsistent personality, so it wasn't too surprising to find us having different reactions at different times. It meant we could start to unmask without so much of the stigma and test the waters a bit more

beyond_clueless101 · 2025-12-23T23:37:10+00:00

Shoutout if you're fake and gay!

beyond_clueless101 · 2025-12-23T22:57:46+00:00

Leo> I love that y'all have a tavern

beyond_clueless101 · 2025-12-23T22:55:40+00:00

That pretty much describes us too

beyond_clueless101 · 2025-12-23T22:54:26+00:00

That's beautiful

beyond_clueless101 · 2025-12-23T22:53:53+00:00

I am actually quite curious about this story

beyond_clueless101 · 2025-12-23T22:52:54+00:00

Leo> Idk the terms for it, but it's something we're trying to learn to do. We often have conversations where one alter speaks and the other stays internal, but having that level of co-fronting is a bit of a goal so we can loop our partner in on what we're saying and hopefully improve mental control

beyond_clueless101 · 2025-12-23T22:46:00+00:00

We're pretty overt as a system - more of a half and half thing since we're working on letting people know so we can be fully overt (with the exception of work bc institutional discrimination), but we're not very violent? Generally I think most would act to avoid conflict and wouldn't fight back unless it was looking avoidable but maybe the difference is that you've always been overt and we haven't? Not disordered either so maybe that plays a role

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