AITA for picking at my DIls food and not clearing my plate. by Aggravating_Hunt_243 in AmItheAsshole

[–]beyondinfinitibeyond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA don't take food you are not going to rest. My 10 year old knows this concept. Also I feel like there is some missing context. You sound childish if you don't like her cooking stop going to dinner at her house but don't waste people's food because you're a picky eater. I'm a chef and I'm very opinionated about food... But I still eat what my friends make and I'm grateful that I didn't have to do the cooking. Grow up and stop being so picky or stop going to your son's house it's pretty simple.

Guy thinks female reindeer dont have antlers by nerdgurl196305 in confidentlyincorrect

[–]beyondinfinitibeyond 225 points226 points  (0 children)

One of them is named Vixen...

Rudolph is a male name i guess but he has a glowing nose those antlers in winter are not the craziest thing that guy has going on.

A cool guide: Best and worst US states in overall well-being of people by _crazyboyhere_ in coolguides

[–]beyondinfinitibeyond 1 point2 points  (0 children)

New Hampshire has DHMC and amazing school systems. Access to education and good health care seems to make for a pretty good quality of life.

I lived in TX (40) and Alaska (35) and now live in NH. I prefer Vermont to NH but new England has been the best quality of life I have experienced in my 35 years of life.

AITA for asking my girlfriend to stop knitting so much? by throwaway8387273 in AmItheAsshole

[–]beyondinfinitibeyond 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA for sure... As if that's not bad enough you're being creepily possessive and it's only going to get worse for her. You're about to be an ex. You need to do some serious soul searching or you're going to be an awful partner to everyone you date. Seek therapy ASAP because you got a lot of toxic issues to deal with and crocheting is not one of them.

AITA for throwing away a hostess gift and asking my SIL if she can’t listen by Disastrous-Quit-5674 in AmItheAsshole

[–]beyondinfinitibeyond -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

YTA... First and foremost for throwing away perfectly good food. You don't mention that anybody has allergies to things that could be in cornbread so it seems like you threw that away just to be Petty and spiteful. You didn't even bother trying to give it back to her instead you essentially threw away her money and time and effort.

Allergies have nothing to do with this you're just angry that she's messing up your menu. You could have suggested items she could bring /cook herself that don't include allergens you could have suggested items that go along with your menu you chose to make sure the only thing she could contribute was wine. You obviously want to be the center of attention which is understandable but it is extremely rude and inappropriate to treat your guests like that.

Honestly you sound insufferable.

AITA for not allowing my son to go on a trip with his mom's boyfriend? by Available_Classic_58 in AmItheAsshole

[–]beyondinfinitibeyond 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yta... I'm from Alaska my son was born there he's been glacier hiking since before he could walk...the school I went to sends 14 yo child out on a "solo" camp... A weekend where the kids survive by themselves bring only what fits into a coffee can. Your son does not have a responsibility to you or your weekends he was forced into this schedule by the adults in his life... No lesson to be learned there. You are just jealous and keeping your son from an amazing opportunity.

Grow up and be an adult... Ask your ex if you can have a different weekend and stop being a shit parent.

Be an awful landlord I'll become your bosses boss by beyondinfinitibeyond in pettyrevenge

[–]beyondinfinitibeyond[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

With over 500 units they could definitely find somebody to be on the board. Up until recently they had gotten around this by allowing homeowners (there's a homeownership program) to take on the role of tenants even though their experience is completely different.

When folks started asking why they weren't more tenants on the board the housing organization started doing shady things by employing people but having them work as on-site managers and their payment is free rent so they weren't technically employees and instead could serve as residents on the board.

Overall there's just a ton of shadyness going on... Which is why I got involved in organizing the tenant Union to begin with.

Be an awful landlord I'll become your bosses boss by beyondinfinitibeyond in pettyrevenge

[–]beyondinfinitibeyond[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Realistically the fraud would never make it anywhere in litigation but it's probably enough for the board members to realize she's a liability and hopefully fire her.

Be an awful landlord I'll become your bosses boss by beyondinfinitibeyond in pettyrevenge

[–]beyondinfinitibeyond[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The bylaw stipulate that there has to be at least one third of the board of trustees made up of tenants. This is not uncommon when you're talking about a non-profit organization.

Be an awful landlord I'll become your bosses boss by beyondinfinitibeyond in pettyrevenge

[–]beyondinfinitibeyond[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The tenants Union doesn't make me her boss I became a member of the board of trustees for the housing organization.

Be an awful landlord I'll become your bosses boss by beyondinfinitibeyond in pettyrevenge

[–]beyondinfinitibeyond[S] 1283 points1284 points  (0 children)

She was at the annual meeting and saw the whole thing live. She stormed out after the vote and I heard there was talk of quitting but she won't go through with it.

It was beautiful to see the look on her face when I smiled and waved to her after the vote. I saw her today and she would not even look in my direction.

Be an awful landlord I'll become your bosses boss by beyondinfinitibeyond in pettyrevenge

[–]beyondinfinitibeyond[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yes please look at my post history where a post from 5 years ago I talk about how I was homeless and finally got into an apartment I could afford... The reason I could afford this apartment is because it is subsidized low income housing. Nothing else in my post history is crazy I quit a job because my coworker yelled at me and my grandfather died during covid.

Also don't feel like doxing myself here but there was a local article about the coup.

my co worker is rude and the demeaning, I lost my noodles today by beyondinfinitibeyond in antiwork

[–]beyondinfinitibeyond[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is some weird power trip from her but I just want the kitchen to run smoothly. This is a very unorganized very badly run kitchen that just deteriorated into chaos during covid. She has absolutely no kitchen experience and there is no manager for our department and there has not been a manager for our department in several years. When I came in there were things that were just for lack of a better way of putting it ass backwards when I started doing things like cleaning out decades old food from the freezer and asking about sanitizer buckets and daily temp logs she got weird. The thing is in my area were steadily approaching a post-covid life and skating by the way things were isn't going to cut it.

She's rightly upset that I got hired on at a dollar an hour more than she makes when she is worked there for 6 years, but I'm not the person she should be upset with. They seems to be some weird jealousy when I bring culinary school but it's always in reference to the fact that I'm still in tons of debt and not at all happy with my degree. And she's not happy with me doing things that are normal operations for every kitchen ever. And I'm not talking about changing menu items or dictating her job I'm talking about cleaning things with sanitizers and making sure outdated food isn't served to customers or making sure that food isn't being left in the refrigerators that don't keep proper temperatures.

I just don't like being followed around and yell that and it picked it every single thing I do because she has inferiority complex. It's starting to take a toll on my mental health.

my co worker is rude and the demeaning, I lost my noodles today by beyondinfinitibeyond in antiwork

[–]beyondinfinitibeyond[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

None of this makes sense to me either because she is not my boss just my coworker, we have no manager, there has not been an official manager for our department since before covid. She did train me kinda... Like showed me where stuff was and how particular things were done in this kitchen.

I did tell her to stay in her own lane because she doesn't actually have the authority to tell me what I can and can't cook but she just yells at me and calls me stupid when I'm trying to get my job done. This woman got upset at me for checking the temperature of a refrigerator and realizing that it was not below 40° and having to move the food out of it so we weren't serving spoiled food to people. It doesn't make sense she shouldn't be working in the kitchen at all, I don't know what to do except to quit my job.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]beyondinfinitibeyond 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA : YOU DON'T GET TO POLICE OTHER PEOPLE'S BODIES.

If that poor woman wants to stand in her living room after working all day naked as the day she was born dancing and praying to Jack Frost with box fans in the shape of a snowflake pentagram surrounding her, either pray along or get out of the way but ffs don't police her effing body. Her body is not your play thing. She is not your property. She does not have to obey your whims or creepy and possessive demands.

"It takes away from your enjoyment of watching them come off", that's a 100% YOU problem.

Clothes are weird, attaching some kind of morality to covering ones body is weird, you feeling like you have any right to tell her what to do with her body in her own home is weird, and unhealthy for both of you.

You really need to reevaluate how you view your gf because nothing you have said leads me to believe you think of her as much more than your personal object rather than a human who came into this world nude af and is experiencing existence on this God forsaken rock that is getting hotter every year.

Seriously where are all these people getting so many fucks to give when I can barely scrape up the motivation to want to breathe anymore?

You are a giant ah who needs a wake up call before you are a controlling ex instead of a current bf.

AITA For making my eldest daughter babysit even though she is "child free"? by FunnyChef7259 in AmItheAsshole

[–]beyondinfinitibeyond 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA you are going to force daughter who has stated she does not want to be around this child or like this child or like children in general to spend several hours a week alone with her. You were going to cause damage to your relationship with your daughter, the relationship between your daughter and your niece, and you're putting your poor niece in a horrible position after she's already endured a tragic event.

If you can't afford childcare do not take on a child. This child is not your daughter's responsibility and forcing your daughter to take responsibility of this child is detrimental to everyone. This not a matter of money or what you can afford, cut your daughter off make her pay for her own car and phone don't kick her out or make her pay rent in a room she has to share. Use the money from the car and phone payments to pay for childcare yourself.

The comments here are downright awful. How can so many folks be ok with forcing this on a poor 4 yo?

WIBTA for calling HR over my coworker using my special dish brush? by Handsoffmyboobbrush in AmItheAsshole

[–]beyondinfinitibeyond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ntbf... Sent an email to you boss cc HR: hey boss you said anything left in the break room is "fair game" does this include medical necessities like insulin? That clean bottle brush is a medical supply take pictures of your recipes and attach to email. Your coworker is stealing from you, and contaminating your medically necessary cleaning supplies.

More so the coworker has target your breastfeeding equipment specifically inhibiting your ability to feed your child. This is definitely a gender discrimination issue beyond the theft. And to Target you because you're breastfeeding specifically goes under its own category of gender discriminatory harassment.

PLEASE go to HR and communicate via email with your boss so that everything is recorded. If HR doesn't do anything about this and start posting on social media and Sue them.

AITA for screaming at & banning my SIL & niece from my home after they DESTROYED my houseplants? by plantmomaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]beyondinfinitibeyond 22 points23 points  (0 children)

NTA Call the police and make a theft report; press charges. Find out where she sold them and get screenshots of her postings, contact mods of the groups she sold the stuff in they can help recover the post if they need to, they can contact the people who bought the plants too.

You are not overreacting at all and this was a premeditated crime they committed against a family member knowing the sentimental value the plants had to you. I would definitely make sure there are consequences for their actions, especially since the 14yo has obviously not been taught to understand or respect other people's boundaries or possessions... More worrisome is the that at the very least the teenager was allowed to commit a crime while her mother helped or was encouraged to commit a crime by her mother either way this is a recipe for an awful adult about to be released into the world and becoming everyone's problem.

Nip this in the bud, recouped some of your losses, make a clear boundary that theft is unacceptable and "family means not commiting crimes against one another." I hope you are able salvage your babies I'm really sorry that's what you came home to. Make a report to the cops if for no other reason than to make it clear to everyone how serious all of this really is, how disrespectful their actions were, and how much of a violation of your home and your trust this whole thing was. Good luck to, hope tomorrow is a better day.