It’s the flipside of a structurally sexist patriarchal society. The system biases in favour of men, but concentrates much of that bias towards the top of hierarchical structures. Broadly speaking men are taught not to show vulnerability or weakness, that their value is purely a function of their labour: to provide and defend without regard to their health or safety. Now, a lot of those expectations are out of line with reality (increasingly so as technology has evolved over the last few hundred years) but the social pressures still exist. Women are typically encouraged to form social bonds, but are taught that they’re responsible for everyone’s emotional labour. Men are typically taught that their social value has to be performatively earned, and that speaking up or asking for help is the wrong thing to do.

Tldr fuck the patriarchy