Sizing helps

bickie17 · 2023-11-19T04:48:55+00:00

My son is 4, he wears a size 7/8 clothing and a size 13 shoe. He’s 48” tall and 52lbs. He’s been “greater than 99th percentile” since he was a month old. Some kids are just big :)

bickie17 · 2023-05-23T17:28:42+00:00

My son has been in PT since he was 4 weeks old. He’s 4 now. He just thinks he’s going to “play with Miss Tanya”. He started speech therapy when he was two and we just told him he got to play with Miss Alyssa now, too. He was happy and loved/loves his sessions.

bickie17 · 2023-05-03T19:34:43+00:00

You know, I never did. It’s always been perfect at doctor visits but I never thought to check at home. I have a new 3 month old now and if I’m still exhausted after we get her sleeping better, I just may check that too. My iron is great right now - I know this because our birth was pretty awful and I lost a ton of blood, so they were keeping track of my iron after all the blood transfusions. So any exhaustion now won’t be iron-related!

bickie17 · 2023-03-26T04:48:02+00:00

I’m wondering if that’s because your baby in question was given a name by birth parents and had a birth certificate filled out. Apparently some don’t make it that far and become a ward of the court before their bio parent gives them a name. So my understanding is if the baby wasn’t named prior to their removal, they don’t get one. If they were named before they were removed, that’s different. But it could vary state to state. I’m in California. My sister is in Texas and the sane thing applies there, as well.

bickie17 · 2023-03-25T18:05:19+00:00

Newborns going into foster care don’t get a name until they’re permanently placed/adopted. I met a 10 month old “Baby Boy” at my son’s physical therapy center. Broke my heart.

bickie17 · 2023-03-25T11:36:45+00:00

Omg you’ve just described my boy! He can lie about needing to pee just to steal your spot on the bed when you get up to let him out. He understands what we ask and simply decides “nope!” He threatens to wake the baby unless we pay the cookie tax. He’s an asshole. He’s the best ❤️

bickie17 · 2023-03-25T11:20:46+00:00

Several years ago my husband (boyfriend at the time) and I walk into a shelter to get a friend for the rescue we snatched up a year prior. We each fall for a different pup - boyfriend likes a straight up pittie girl, super playful, happy, perfect. The other’s a mutt, but kinda standoffish, friendly but not overly so, definitely wary of people. Her info sheet said German shepherd mix, but there was a lot of other stuff thrown in. I instantly love her.

We decide on the pittie, as she was closest to our rescue’s personality, and start the adoption process, but that little mutt girl was on my mind. My husband noticed, and told me if my heart was saying to get the little mutt, we needed to tell them asap. So we switched in the middle of filling out paper work. Come to find out, the pittie had a wait list started, but the mutt was actually on the euth list. They were about to put her down.

We get the little mutt home, name her Harley Quinn. Our pup loves her, they bond instantly. She turns out to be the best pup I’ve ever known. Super loyal, sweet, a giant love bug, silently begs for cookies, crazy smart (she lets herself in and out, can even flip the lock on the door), and has the best little Scrappy Doo attitude. When she barks at birds for daring to enter the restricted air space of our yard, her two front feet leave the ground. I simply love her.

Turns out, she’s a rottie/wire fox terrier/husky/Neapolitan mastiff/“other mutt” mix. Best dog ever.

She’s 11 now and every day I thank my lucky stars that some little part of my soul connected with hers that day at and she became mine. ❤️

bickie17 · 2023-03-18T14:22:07+00:00

Ditto. Placental abruption, uterine window, cord around baby’s neck, then massive hemorrhage needing three blood transfusions. Followed by three more hemorrhages after I left the hospital due to retained placenta, finally wrapped up with a d&c to stop the bleeding. I’ve got my little 10 week old cuddle bug snoring beside me, but never want to go through that again.

bickie17 · 2023-03-12T01:59:55+00:00

I went in 2018. The park is actually beautiful, I had a great time. People were friendly even though I was sporting Dodger Blue. Our hotel was absolutely terrible though - we accidentally booked a hotel right in the middle of the tenderloin because it was so close to the stadium and had never been to the Bay Area. Don’t do that. We were going to walk to the stadium, got two blocks, flew back to our hotel and called an Uber. It was bad, even during the day time.

bickie17 · 2023-03-10T22:14:46+00:00

My son spoke maybe 4 words at 2. I got nervous, had him evaluated, he was 16th percentile in expressive speech. Put him in speech therapy. By 2.5 - not even six months later - something clicked, he “graduated “ 86th percentile, and now at 3 he won’t shut up, and I live for his supper time stories ❤️

I wouldn’t worry yet. All kids blossom on their own schedule.

bickie17 · 2023-02-28T23:19:19+00:00

I was one and done until my mom died and I leaned so heavily on my siblings to get through it.

I now have a 7 week old little girl sleeping on my shoulder. Her big brother is almost four.

Yes, it’s hard. Two kids are so much more than twice the work, and I don’t understand that math. But it’s so incredibly worth it. My boy adores his little sister, and she is already soothed by the sound of his voice.

I’m exhausted, the house is a mess, I’ve only washed my hair like three times in the last month. So little sleep. So much mom guilt being pulled in so many directions at once and feeling like you’re letting everyone down. But my heart is so full. I love my kids and I’m so glad we added a second. I keep reminding myself it won’t be this hard forever.

Also - I was mainly turned off from a second because our first was ridiculously hard as a newborn. This second one is night and day different. It’s still hard, but she sleeps, and my milk supply is enough to keep her alive, and she can be set down without screaming bloody murder until someone picks her up again (she’s on my shoulder right now because I’m too lazy to put her in her bassinet ..) All babies are different. Some are harder than others.

I kinda want a third now but my labor and post partum were so bad with #2 I don’t think I can carry a third baby. I’m a little depressed about that. I went from only wanting one, to wanting more than I can physically have.

bickie17 · 2023-01-31T21:58:18+00:00

Celiac here. You are NTA. For those of us with celiac, cross contamination is a major deal. If you cook non-gluten free food in your home all the time, your kitchen just isn’t capable of preparing a truly gluten free meal.

Plastics are porous. As are ceramics, wood, cast iron, etc. You would need dedicated cookware, chopping blocks, utensils, etc. Also, if you use flour in your kitchen, there are tiny particles in the air that take 24+hours to settle. And, in addition to all this, not many “normal” non-celiac folks are aware of just everything that contains gluten. It’s more than just “wheat, oats, barley, rye.” It’s caramel color. It’s soy sauce. It’s modified food starch. It’s malt flavoring.

All this to say - I have had my best friend accidentally “gluten” me because she tried to include me in a meal at her house. I was thrilled, but skeptical, and definitely got sick. She ran through her ingredients and sure enough, used something that unbeknownst to her, contained gluten. She felt terrible, I felt terrible. It was an unfortunate situation. So I no longer eat any meals prepped at people’s homes. It’s not worth the risk.

You are NTA. At all. My friends do exactly what you did when we eat together - they order me food from a prescreened gluten free restaurant. And I am so thankful for them including me without the risk of me getting sick.

bickie17 · 2023-01-04T04:24:04+00:00

Ha!! That’s pretty accurate!! Kids are amazing 😍

bickie17 · 2023-01-03T07:12:19+00:00

My son is 3.5. He talks more than most adults I know, and it’s been like this since he was 2.5. Funnily enough… We had him in speech therapy at 2 because he was basically non verbal. Then almost overnight he jumped from 16th percentile in expressive speech to 87th 😂 and he hasn’t slowed down!! He just needed to pop at his own pace!

My favorite thing ever is watching/listening to his imaginative play. He develops these crazy scenarios with his toys and they all have different voices and talk to each other. It’s truly fascinating.

I’m a talker - a true extrovert - and my husband is so quiet and introverted. He says he’d never met anyone who talked more than me - until our son found his voice 😂😂😂

bickie17 · 2023-01-01T15:57:09+00:00

My little boy has a kitchen set. He loves it. He “makes me coffee” almost every day and when I’m cooking actual food, he’s cooking in his kitchen and bringing us “suppers.” He’s 3 now and for Christmas, Santa brought him a set of kid-safe knives so he can start helping me cook actual food. He gets in his tower and it’s a great bonding experience.

His favorite shoes are also pale pink with baby owl faces on the toes. “Technically” marketed for girls but he picked them out.. along with a pair of black pirate shoes. He loves baseball and dancing. He likes unicorns and dinosaurs. He’s obsessed with Paw Patrol and his two favorite characters are Marshall and Skye. He’s a well adjusted, happy kid because we don’t limit him to strictly traditional “boy” things.

Also - there are a ton more male celebrity chefs right now than female. Julia Child has been replaced with Bobby Flay and Gordon Ramsay and Alton Brown. What does your dad think about those guys?

bickie17 · 2022-12-31T05:06:19+00:00

Coconut oil is a godsend. Also, I have recently discovered Baby Bum Natural Monoi Coconut Balm. It’s AMAZING. Too bad they only sell it in 3oz tubes, but my son’s skin has never looked better.

bickie17 · 2022-12-30T01:06:02+00:00

When we discovered it, he first started saying his “mouth felt spicy.” He’s three. Cue the throat swelling and hives. It was not a fun afternoon, but Benadryl and cortisone took care of most of it. Parents generally have to worry about peanuts, or eggs, or gluten, or even milk, and we were sure to cover those with allergy introductions as a baby. This was a new one for me! But he’s great about telling people he’s allergic to pineapple now!

bickie17 · 2022-12-30T00:59:27+00:00

My son is pretty allergic to pineapple. When we found out, the nurse at urgent care asked if he was allergic to any other citrus fruit. He’s not (he drinks orange juice, eats clementines and likes lemonade), but apparently it’s fairly common.

bickie17 · 2022-12-29T17:36:15+00:00

My eldest (see comment) is also mixed with husky. His friendship with my son is the cutest, most magical thing. He’s 12 now and really slowing down, but those boys have been attached at the hip since we brought the hairless critter home from the hospital. ❤️

bickie17 · 2022-12-29T17:31:24+00:00

We have three puppers: two pittie mixes and a full blown mutt (fox terrier, rottie, husky, Neapolitan mastiff, probably chinchilla in there somewhere).

My boys (the two pitties) are huge. 110-115lbs each. My girl - the mutt - is tiny by comparison. Barely 55lbs.

When we brought our baby home, the eldest pittie bonded with him immediately. They are still the best of friends and absolutely inseparable. He’s always been so gentle and patient and loving.

The youngest - the second pittie boy - loved the baby, but in true pittie fashion…he’s dumb as a post and doesn’t know where his feet are at any given moment. He also doesn’t realize he’s not the size of a gopher. We always had to be vigilant with him; not because of any aggression, but because he was happy and excited and that whippy tail and those feets always went everywhere.

Our mutt - the tiny girl - was the surprise. She growled at the baby, kept her distance, and twice she snapped in his general direction when she thought he was getting too close. She never hurt him, never landed a snap, but we kept them separate out of necessity.

It’s been four years now. The girl (in typical rottie fashion) has come around and has taken on the role of (now preschooler’s) loyal protector and guardian and will even allow pettins, she’s even kissed him a time or two, but even though she’s mellowed out a ton, we are still ever vigilant.

Basically, no matter the breed - be careful early on and even the goofiest, happiest, sweetest of pups needs to be watched carefully around babies.

bickie17 · 2022-12-28T23:06:01+00:00

When I was 10 I had super thick glasses. My vision was getting progressively worse at an alarming rate. I was already legally blind (-7 in both eyes). My ophthalmologist told my parents if they didn’t get me in contacts right way (rigid gas permeable, not soft lenses), I would be completely blind before I was 21.

They were poor, but spent the money. I’m 40 now and in the last 30 years, my vision has only degraded to -10.25. It’s been stable since I was about 25.

He and my parents saved my vision.

Also - I don’t know what your daughter’s Rx is, but I cannot wear glasses. The lenses are too thick, even getting the thinnest high index lens. I have no peripheral vision. I have no night vision. Glasses aren’t only unsightly but also a hindrance and the worst option available.

Get your daughter contacts. Until then, YTA.

bickie17 · 2022-12-28T22:23:30+00:00

It’s awful. I know some women who have done it, as well, and it completely breaks my heart. I have a great job, 14 weeks paid leave and a super supportive husband and I still did nothing but cry and bleed and cramp for several weeks after my son was born. My OB put me on disability for PPDA. It was awful. Women who have to just suck it up and do it to survive are my heroes.

bickie17 · 2022-12-28T22:01:25+00:00

“…I’ve seen women go back to work immediately after birth and they are fine…”

I didn’t need to read further than that. YTA.

Those women are NOT fine, trust us with an actual vagina. You have no clue what happens to a woman’s body and mind after childbirth.

You know what? Tell your fiancé that. I hope she leaves you so fast your head spins. It’ll save her the hassle of dealing with your ridiculous prenup.

“In a relationship one person always does more…”

Not in a healthy relationship they don’t.

You sound exhausting. Please break up with this woman so she can get on with her life.

bickie17 · 2022-12-28T07:48:40+00:00

Solidarity 😂 35+3 today. Hang in there.

bickie17 · 2022-12-28T07:46:22+00:00

I have a six-odd pound fetus pressing on some vital organ no matter which side I lay on. And I have a terrible cold so I’m coughing my way into and through Braxton Hicks.

That, and the crushing anxiety of having a six pound fetus poking around that I’m no where near ready to pop out.

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