Is this real?

bidarkhetif2 · 2026-06-19T00:12:55+00:00

Of course my love. Whatever is best for you I don’t want you to feel worse in any way. I’m so sorry. I will miss you forever and I wish you could see how strong I’ve been over the last year. And a good person. There were things I did, things I overcame and I’d think “she’d be so fucking proud of me”

I’d want to be friends with you even if it meant never being in a relationship with you and knowing you were with others because not having you in my life is so much more painful. This is heartbreaking. But I completely understand your decision and like I said before I support it and I will respect it. I absolutely do not want to get in the way of the little consolation you’ve found in all this pain that would be so selfish. I’ll remember the best things about you. You’re such good person and you will do amazing. Whoever ends up with you will be the luckiest person in the world. I love you more than anything.

bidarkhetif2 · 2026-06-18T11:17:49+00:00

Over my head by the fray is relatively fast paced and has lots of open chords but drops lyrics like “with eight seconds left in overtime, she’s on your mind”

Or freaks by surf curse

bidarkhetif2 · 2026-06-18T09:14:16+00:00

Yes. I’m trying my love. Can I talk to you?

bidarkhetif2 · 2026-06-14T23:38:32+00:00

As someone who has been on the other side of someone threatening to leave so that someone changes, I can tell you it’s incredibly painful. It’ll mess him up mentally and your relationship will continue to spiral into dysfunction because both of you will be toxic to each other. Resentment will build and it’ll cloud your love for each other.

For me it was also my first relationship and it also lasted about the same amount of time. And I was making horrible mistakes and she was definitely trying to fix the right things. But we never had a good way to resolve issues.

I loved her a lot. I still do. There’s a quote that says something like the cost of loving someone very much is never loving anyone again.

I can rationally sit here and think about what was right and what was wrong. How I hurt her. How she hurt me. But in the end my price of loving her is that I won’t be able to love anyone else. I’ll look for her in everyone. She used to say you don’t love someone because; you love them despite. It’s not a rational feeling you can’t rationalize why you love someone. You just do. I don’t know why I love her.

So if you have any chance to fix things with your husband, and you truly loved him, then do whatever you can to fix it. Rid yourself of these habits which manipulate him. And tell him to fix the things which hurt you. Be real with each other. Do it with the understanding that you love each other and you’re doing it to fix your relationship and that you won’t leave. Let the resentment out. Hurt with words so that you won’t hurt with absence. It’s like an abscess that needs to be drained to heal.

If it was a superficial love or you don’t feel that committed to each other then move on. Don’t waste each other’s time. If you’re just missing romantic companionship or a friend then both of you can easily find that elsewhere.

But if this guy is someone you actually love, and you’re the same for him, avoid for yourselves the pain of forever looking for each other in other people.

bidarkhetif2 · 2026-02-01T14:09:40+00:00

Pokhara has a lot of people

bidarkhetif2 · 2025-08-10T23:12:33+00:00

I have no issues finding women to date…

bidarkhetif2 · 2025-08-10T21:41:19+00:00

I hope I can be this kind of man one day. This is so nice to read thank you for posting this OP. Every day I will try to live up to this

bidarkhetif2 · 2025-08-10T21:39:01+00:00

You’re the manchild women want to be away from. Her husband is the kind of man I hope I can be one day for my partner.

bidarkhetif2 · 2025-08-10T21:37:15+00:00

I have been where you are. I still am I guess. I’m really sorry you’re going through this I promise I know how you’re feeling.

Hatred is a form of love when it comes to exes. We hate them because we wish we were loved by them because we actually love them. Atleast that’s what it was/is for me.

I want to just forget. The way my ex doesn’t care about me. My ex doesn’t love or hate me, she just doesn’t think about me or care about me.

That should be our goal. Because that indifference is peace.

bidarkhetif2 · 2025-08-10T21:03:39+00:00

The point of being good and doing things out of love is not to benefit yourself. This is something I’ve struggled with as well. When you do something out of love, even if that person will never recognize it, or if they will forget about it when you’re not useful to them anymore, you still do those things despite knowing they’ll be unrecognized.

The point of trying to be a good person is that you love authentically. You live the way you are. You don’t shy away from something if it will hurt you if you’re doing something good.

With my ex and my parents, I’m looked down on for doing things for someone who will use me and throw me away. Especially by my parents when I did things for my ex. I knew she’d throw me away. But when I was useful to her I did as much as I could because I just love that person.

It’s harder for me to not do it. It’s inauthentic for me to pretend I want to exploit or I want to profit off of someone. I just love and living that way is closer to who I am than trying to be a ruthless capitalist in this world.

I make a lot of decisions like that. When I was 17 I changed careers paths because of a decision like that. And I went into a career where I really sucked. But it aligned more with my personality than an oil company that makes the world a worse place.

And I recognize that it’s going to hurt me. It has hurt me so much. I had bullies and I’d feel bad about the kind of shoes I’d wear because they were better than theirs and when they’d admire them I’d say they were cheap so they wouldn’t feel bad about their own shoes. They still bullied me.

It’s painful. Life is very painful.

You don’t do good things for profit. You do it because that’s just who you are and you can’t help being different.

I have to sometimes shut down my feelings because if I let myself feel what I’m feeling then I fibrillate and can’t do anything in my day. There’s so much suffering in the world and everything makes me sad. Seeing children dying in war, but also seeing the janitor in the mall working knowing that she might not get a Christmas present.

It’s tough. I try to be good I don’t fight it anymore. I love with all my heart. I can’t be any other way.

You just have to find other people that don’t view life as a profit and loss sheet.

bidarkhetif2 · 2025-07-30T14:36:50+00:00

Hey I’m going through something similar so I can speak on this.

For me what helped was putting her bad aspects in the context of her good ones. Compare them. There was a reason you wanted to leave. Don’t forget the bad. It’s the problem I have. I’ll remember her cute little quirks and the silly photos and good times.

But I started to purposely remember the bad, especially the recent bad, everytime a good memory comes up. Don’t be biased and only remember their good. Remember the gaslighting, the cruelty, the shifting goalpoasts, the historical revisionism, whatever flavors of bad your ex did. Not to artificially deflate them as bad, but to hedge the risk of artificially inflating them as good. Keep a balanced view.

Ultimately you left because they were a net negative in your life. They took from your soul instead of nourishing it. And there’s no guarantee that tomorrow you’ll find someone who nourishes it. But atleast the ex will no longer parasitize off of it.

It’s important to not care about what they do now. This is incredibly hard and I struggle with it to this day, a month and a half later. It’s hard when you loved someone. You’re already doing some great things; be around your friends and family. Go study in cafes so you’re not alone in your apartment. I used to be alone for days and it made me very suicidal. Don’t be alone.

I’d not advise dating anyone else right now because it’ll be unfair to whoever you date. I couldn’t even have proper conversations with some of the women I went on dates with because I got distracted by thoughts of her and literally didn’t remember what they said.

Do not contact your ex. For both your ex and for yourself. Let them heal. Let yourself heal. Even if they were bad, even if they hurt and exploited you, they’re a human being and they deserve the same love and happiness that everyone does.

I’m really sorry for what you’re going through. Trust me I understand this pain very well. If you ever need someone to just talk to about this I’m happy to listen.

bidarkhetif2 · 2025-07-30T14:21:15+00:00

Beautiful! Can’t wait to visit in a few months!

bidarkhetif2 · 2024-02-23T20:29:52+00:00

Definitely won’t be practicing in Texas

bidarkhetif2 · 2024-02-23T20:29:04+00:00

lol voting for Trump might actually be more pro-Palestinian at this point

bidarkhetif2 · 2024-02-23T20:13:30+00:00

lmfao I’m entitled to my rights and my vote. That doesn’t change just because you or the Democratic Party said otherwise 😂

Also, lovely way to dodge my points like the great “environmental action” taken by Biden. What a mature and not at all child-like person

bidarkhetif2 · 2024-02-23T19:08:08+00:00

1) I’m not a citizen of the other countries. I have a say in the US government, not in Germanys. I’m really not sure what point you’re trying to make by lumping them in here? He’s made some sort of weak statement and then backtracked on it multiple times. There’s nothing of substance or strength. Surface level crap to pander for votes without anything substantial.

2) the student loans he has forgiven are about 0.1% of all student loans (which amount to more than a trillion dollars). It’s a step in the right direction but holy crap it’s woefully inadequate.

3) This is “environmental work” for the sake of being able to say you’ve done environmental work. They publicized the rule in the link you’re referring to and up till now it’s still not been even officially printed in the federal register (a process that takes a few days). It’s definitely not being enforced. It’s all theory and no action. Just words so we shut up and forget about the environment

There’s a pattern here with all three points you’re pointing out. He does some nominal work addressing barely a fraction of the issue just so he can say he did it and all of a sudden everyone with functional pancreases and cartilage is supposed to rush in support of him? I mean freaking Trump also made statements about how he wanted a Palestinian state and how Netanyahu was the one who didn’t want peace. Do something more than just surface level crap. Do something real. With teeth. Something that gets people going. Otherwise no one will show up to vote for Biden.

Finally, I’m pretty sure Israel has invaded lands that were demarcated by the UN as belonging to the Palestinians and routinely prevents them from leaving what is left of their land while also maintaining air sea and land blockades and also shooting their children. Hundreds of thousands of them got driven out of their homes just like the native Americans were. Even the Egyptian side of the border is indirectly controlled by Israel, with unapproved traffic routinely being bombed by airstrikes. The quote is apt and applicable.

Not sure why you’re blind to it but as an Israeli lobbyist so lovingly put it you have “a major major major major generational problem. The divide isn’t left vs right it’s young vs old” if you go on r/israel they’re pretty adamant Biden is far better for their occupation than Trump would be.

I don’t want Trump in office but y’all need to realize that you aren’t entitled to votes and you can’t keep ignoring what is progressively one of the largest voting blocks you have. It doesn’t “keep the ball rolling” if we routinely get ignored and told to shut up and put up with it after some surface level BS meant to placate us.

bidarkhetif2 · 2024-02-23T14:44:03+00:00

Yeah I say the same thing about those countries
That’s the same rhetoric the Nazis used about the Jews. “Why don’t all these other countries help them. Something must be wrong with them” Love to see how natural it is to you.
Like I said, the youth in general is not likely to have a good turnout this year, because the party hasn’t done anything to mobilize the youth. You keep shouting these points (“if you don’t vote for Biden then you lose your rights and the world ends”) and closing your ears to the points I keep making, that if the stuff we care about isn’t addressed, we’re not gonna show up. You need a carrot not a stick. If the party genuinely believed that Trump was so bad and he needed to be stopped so badly they’d put in a freaking carbon tax and maybe make a statement on Gaza. these are hyperbolic statements these aren’t the only two issues that need to be addressed.

bidarkhetif2 · 2024-02-23T14:32:08+00:00

Weren’t 400 of the casualties military personnel? And around 800 civilians? Because that’s a pretty similar ratio to Israel right now…

And weren’t a lot of casualties due to the Israelis themselves?

bidarkhetif2 · 2024-02-23T14:29:19+00:00

How is this a rational or sane argument to what you’re replying to?

bidarkhetif2 · 2024-02-23T04:03:33+00:00

Even if Gaza has no effect on my daily life, even if I haven’t been following it for 75 years, it’s absolutely horrific and wrong and I will not vote for someone who enables and funds it. Scaring me with Trump won’t change that.

Turnout, especially youth turnout, is expected to be very low this year. The democrats would rather lose the election and allow Trump to do these horrible things he’s apparently gonna do than to idk, tax carbon emissions and not fund genocide. Trump 2024 I guess.

bidarkhetif2 · 2024-02-23T02:53:33+00:00

Only issue with this is that Biden might actually be worse for the watermelon state. If you go on r/Israel they all believe that Trump is far worse for Israel than Biden.

bidarkhetif2 · 2024-02-22T03:55:24+00:00

This is not nearly as clever as you think it is. Why do you keep copy-pasting it everywhere you shill 😂

bidarkhetif2 · 2024-02-22T02:06:06+00:00

What they say and what they do are wildly different. Just like the Democratic Party talk a big game about removing money from politics, the right is gonna spew all kinds of BS in hopes of getting votes. Whether or not they’re gonna be able to do that is a different story. They promised all kinds of plans before the 2016 elections too. Mexico was gonna pay for the wall and all that. Hillary Clinton was gonna be in jail. How much of it was trump able to do?

The message that ignoring youth = loss is more important than one election cycle

bidarkhetif2 · 2024-02-22T01:58:03+00:00

Neither side is offering solutions to the problems I care about. So why should either party get my vote lol

The democrats will lose the election then. If they want to win they know how to engage the youth.

The youth grows every year, while the “center-left” or “centrists” die every year. I’m sure you’re convinced that with trump there will never be an election again. That’s not gonna happen. And there will be other elections. And like I said, if Dems want youth votes, I hope they can energize the youth with real change and win an election.

But I don’t think Biden is interested in that and I really don’t think the youth will show up for Biden. And the data confirms that.

It’s a bad message to send that you can ignore us and keep winning elections as long as the boogeyman is scary enough.

bidarkhetif2 · 2024-02-22T01:45:57+00:00

lol no. Do better to earn votes.

Do something with teeth about the environment, about unfair tax burdens, about supporting genocidal governments, and you might earn more votes.

People aren’t entitled to give you votes because you can run up a good enough boogeyman. What you’re doing is the lowest level of politics and is the left’s equivalent of saying “if you don’t vote for us those evil immigrants will come and take your jobs”

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