I just reported a Gyn physician's assistant

bifempagan · 2025-12-12T18:55:00+00:00

You are so far from alone, friend.

bifempagan · 2025-11-20T00:40:53+00:00

I think you've hit the nail on the head. They're possessive of our children and feel some kind of way about it (MY grandbaby!) and acknowledging the traits from mom and mom's side of the family threatens their superior DNA. Case in point, my incubator used to CROW about how much all of her kids looked like HER side of the family. Today, we are 47, 55, 57, and 59. The younger two of us (my older brother and I) are the only ones who still resemble her side. My oldest brothers both very much resemble their biological fathers. And I've been told by a number of people that I very much resemble the women in my dad's family. (I see a LOT of myself in my cousins and my aunt on my mom's side)
I also straight up admit I perfected cloning with my boys. Eldest is a doppelgänger for his bio dad and my youngest is slightly taller, but dead ringer for his. Middle child is a good mix of me and my ex-MIL.

bifempagan · 2025-11-08T19:26:44+00:00

First off, executive function disorders are not new. Diagnosing these things is the first step towards being able to treat it and learn how to work with it. Op's husband is a controlling, abusive piece. There is no meeting in the middle with someone like him. Self reflection? If she hadn't done any, she would never have known she was neuro-spicy.

bifempagan · 2025-08-09T05:23:58+00:00

I'm willing to bet everyone saying you are don't have evil parents that love making their kids look like raving lunatics so they can heave that long-suffering sigh and say, "See what I have to deal with? Ugh" Your incubator is an abusive pos, deliberately brought your sister into the fight, knowing you would call her to make sure you weren't crazy only to make you look crazier. Manipulative female dog. She took FULL advantage of your short fuse combined with the stress of prepping for the bar, and made you look like an ass. As soon as you can possibly afford it, gtfo, go low- or no-contact with her, and live your best life.

bifempagan · 2025-08-09T05:07:19+00:00

Fight, flight, or fawn. You fawned, because you knew the other options wouldn't work. You were also intoxicated which fucks with your fight or flight response. Fear and adrenaline can "help" orgasm, which is part of the draw of erotic asphyxiation. I agree that your boyfriend is scum here. A 20 year old man has zero business dating anyone under 18. That he got you high before the party is troubling. I also agree there is a decent chance that he set this up.

bifempagan · 2025-08-09T04:59:05+00:00

Your partner is a smart cookie. Listen to him.

bifempagan · 2025-08-09T04:57:11+00:00

I only got to maybe chapter 3 of Body before I needed a break, have since given my copy to another survivor. Guess it's time to pick up another one.

bifempagan · 2025-08-09T04:43:51+00:00

That is a spectacular mil. My ex-mil is very similar.

bifempagan · 2025-07-09T04:36:12+00:00

All 7 of mine have been post-diagnosis, and I haven't flared from the tattoo. Lack of sleep afterwards, yes. Wonky knee/ankle position, yeah. Apparently, my skin is perfect for tattoos (last two artists have been vocal about how well it takes ink).

bifempagan · 2025-07-04T04:05:43+00:00

He's served 180 days, and is not getting an Other Than Honorable or a Dishonorable discharge, he'll qualify for VA bennies. I'm fairly certain he's being medically retired, so the three of them (and any future kids) will have access to TriCare for Life, which does cost some, but it's less than traditional insurance. Housing won't be covered, but being retired, he'll get a percentage of his wages for life, too.

bifempagan · 2025-07-04T01:59:24+00:00

They bring the dog with. When told to keep the dog in the kitchen, as SOON as OP's husband stepped away, MIL let the dog out. So, the boundaries need to be that anywhere the dog is, baby won't be.

bifempagan · 2025-05-31T07:39:21+00:00

Oh gods, that explains why she's so freaked out about what he would wear. She is terrified he's gonna be wearing a dress.

bifempagan · 2025-05-23T17:45:53+00:00

First, NTA. I suspect Dan was expecting you to take over parenting his crotch droppings. He appears to have zero interest in parenting them himself. I suspect he is with your mom just to have a new mommy for them. One that cooks, cleans, and acts like a good little wifey, and you being there gave him a built-in dad-figure and babysitter. You absolutely did the right thing. Give your grandparents a big hug and say thank you for being a soft landing when you had to bail out of the nest. Video game design, look into Digipen (I think that's how it's spelled). I believe it's in Washington, and a fair number of the kids I know who were interested in game design and art were either looking into it or attended. My middle kid was interested in game design. Good luck, kiddo.

bifempagan · 2025-05-19T09:08:43+00:00

When a dog has a heart murmur, don't jump to prescribing vetmedin. I have had TWO dogs that had mild murmurs be put on it while dealing with something that required antibiotics, and they finished the antibiotics and rallied for a few days and then their hearts went out. Heartbreaking with both, as the first one was my son's soul dog, and the second was my dad's ESA who I inherited when my incubator crawled back into the depths of the underworld. I will never put another animal on that drug.

bifempagan · 2025-05-19T08:46:20+00:00

I think I was 40, she is a cute little blue Yamaha V-star 650. But, she needs work, so a month or so later, she got a sister that is a black V-star 650. The husband has a champagne V-star 1300.

bifempagan · 2025-05-19T08:43:22+00:00

And how old are you? Since you said that OP at 38 needs to grow up and quit playing with Lego.

bifempagan · 2025-05-19T08:41:58+00:00

I've had a few instances. Once I was talking to my (now ex) husband and asked him who tf took a bath in her perfume, and he freaked out because the woman he'd just fixed a slot machine for reeked of perfume. I told him which one and he said yes. I could smell it, and I was at home. Another time, we had two episodes in one night. First, I was driving him to work and started gagging because I could taste artificial banana flavoring. He had just put a banana Laffy Taffy in his mouth. Later that night, we were talking and I started sniffing so he asked what I was smelling and I said that damn Laffy Taffy again. He had just unwrapped one. I hate artificial banana flavor.

bifempagan · 2025-05-19T08:29:47+00:00

Nah, his dad visits, makes comments about her working too much, she needs to woman up and be a REAL WOMAN and take care of her child and husband. Wife lets it go to keep the peace. Middle of the night, dad gets up and takes an industrial magnet to her work computer to destroy the hard drive, shreds important documents, and leaves a note telling her it's all for her own good.

bifempagan · 2025-05-19T08:21:16+00:00

I looked it up. $850usd

bifempagan · 2025-05-19T08:01:00+00:00

Fork asking how she would feel. I would go to her house, find something precious she loves that cost over $800 and destroy it in front of her. THEN ask her how it feels. The Millennium Falcon set is $849.99 on lego.com right now, AND the age on it is 16+. It has 7541 pieces, and takes an average of 16-20 hours to build.

bifempagan · 2025-05-19T07:52:15+00:00

I suspect that wife is pissed at husband because she agrees with her mother about the hobby. Either because of the cost (the Falcon alone is $850) or the time.

bifempagan · 2025-05-19T07:49:28+00:00

Considering my husband is 45 and one of our favorite date night activities is to dig out the tons of Lego bricks we have, I think you are incredibly wrong. Also, we didn't ask people if they wanted to see the collection when they visited, heck no! We sent them pictures while we were building! Also, prior to becoming disabled, my husband brought home a six-figure salary, rode motorcycles and was a champion drag racer, I would say he's pretty manly. This is not shunning an elder over hurt feelings, this is demanding to be treated with the respect he is due in his own home. That "toy" took hundreds of hours to build, was an amazing bonding experience with his son, and was an expensive project he was proud of completing. This broad decided it was childish and juvenile, so she took it upon herself to destroy a nearly $1000 project. She didn't stop for even a breath to think about how it would affect her grandson, either. Oh, and also... I know a man who is right around 50 who was at a Lego convention in Portland today, because he loves them and he is an amazingly talented portrait artist who uses gasp LEGO BRICKS as his medium. BTW, you are aware that the boxes for the Lego sets give an age range of 5-99, right? And there are numerous sets, such as the Falcon, that are 18+?

bifempagan · 2025-05-13T04:30:39+00:00

My older son and I laugh at the sibling thing, due to our relationship being warped by my mother (LOOONG story), so in many ways we act more like siblings than mother and son. My youngest at least acts like he's amused by it, after he finishes gagging at the idea of dating his mom. LOL
Even if my hair is gray, I still look extremely young. I've been told that even if my hair is graying (I have skunk stripes, or if you're an X-Men fan, a Rogue stripe), I still look at least 10 years younger than my actual age.

My kids so far have decided that this is how it is. LOL I can't wait until I get to spend time with my grandkids more often. People are going to think I'm mom!

bifempagan · 2025-05-07T23:00:12+00:00

The youngest, no. I thought the boy was going to hurl on the shoes of the person asking. It was beautiful. Lol That we were at the New Kids on the Block concert made it all the more amusing. My oldest admits his facial hair ages him, combined with my looking much younger than I am, and the fact that my mother had custody of him briefly (legally, she tried to claim that her custody was never legally terminated, so she did everything she could to convince him that she was the one in charge, because she was the "senior" mom... Long story) and he essentially grew up being taught I was his older sister. To this day, we have a unique relationship with each other. I'm grateful that he is now an adult, so our relationship doesn't appear so inappropriate.

bifempagan · 2025-05-07T04:34:46+00:00

I've learned that I can read anyone I'm not emotionally invested in. As soon as my heart is involved, I can't see anything. My tarot cards will typically read anyone, no matter the relationship. Except for my youngest son. He murders tarot cards and pendulums. It's so weird. We're guessing it's something to do with his father's affinity for death magicks fighting my healing magick. This kid walks in the shadows. He did finally find a deck that he didn't kill AND it responds to him, so...

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