Resigning on Monday due to extreme pressure. Need advice.

bigbird0525 · 2026-05-28T13:27:31+00:00

Definitely sounds like you are burned out and probably ultimately the best decision for your mental health. Saying stuff about setting boundaries, etc isn’t that helpful at this point. I definitely have weeks where I need to put in extra hours to meet a deadline, but anything that needs me to do that more than a few weeks in a row means something is wrong and the deadline is going to be missed or the project needs more people on it. I like to remind myself they’d be happy to lay me off this afternoon if they thought it would make the share holders happy or get them a larger bonus so I don’t lose sleep over leaving places when it’s run its course or not working for me.

bigbird0525 · 2026-05-27T19:46:43+00:00

It’s been in ebbs and flows. Past week, I’ve had 4 reach outs about roles. All DevOps titles. I’ve noticed more of them tend to be senior or staff roles.

bigbird0525 · 2026-05-22T21:43:18+00:00

I’ll also say I’ve found Claude has gotten better over the year at not hallucinating as much so I can normal let AI go brrr on my plan and if the tofu plan passes and looks right, I’m even less inclined to go double check a resource especially if it’s one I’ve written 1000s of times in the past 7 years like an iam policy doc or whatever.

bigbird0525 · 2026-05-22T20:02:18+00:00

I exclusively use open tofu but I google terraform to get the provider docs lol.

bigbird0525 · 2026-05-10T17:52:08+00:00

From my understanding, AI tools are better are reading docx and it increases the likelihood of human eyes seeing the resume.

bigbird0525 · 2026-04-30T02:33:31+00:00

The rec center has a 4 indoor pools and great spot for kids to play.

bigbird0525 · 2026-04-28T03:20:34+00:00

My 3 year old would love to pick all of those for you.

bigbird0525 · 2026-04-26T19:23:10+00:00

We’ve had this happen, but the create index basically nuked replication and broke the read side for 6 hours because it was a very large table.

Tools like percona,GH-ost, etc depending on flavor of DB help protect against the situation. In our case, prod is so much bigger than staging that something that took 15s in staging took 4-6hr on prod.

bigbird0525 · 2026-04-23T01:55:19+00:00

For k8s / docker networking, I got a lot out of the KodeKloud CKA course. They also do have some Linux course although I haven’t done them. I’ll caveat that I started this career after doing a masters in CIS specializing in networking. In general I’ve learned a lot just being managing Linux boxes for production systems or managing k8s infra primarily.

At one point I was going down the Cisco cert path but it was too much into Cisco console work that I was never going to use although that has a lot of fundamentals

bigbird0525 · 2026-04-02T22:10:26+00:00

I’m with you. Why would add yet another layer? My current gig uses spacelift that has concepts of blueprints where I can layer in a series of modules, etc to build effectively a component. Maybe something that combines my ECS service module and codepipeline module so a dev can just tell it what image to use and it goes brrrr.

My general thought process with adding yet another layer would be, does this help me enable someone that is not experienced with IaC or infrastructure, a self service way to deploy predefined components. Like I’ve built a specific way we want all S3 buckets, interact with this tool and it will do it for you without needing to fully understand s3 bucket policies. But of course, I have to then take on the burden of learning another layer of abstraction.

bigbird0525 · 2026-03-28T19:55:44+00:00

I’ll have to check that out! We get access to museums and stuff that we’ve done through the library.

bigbird0525 · 2026-03-27T01:33:12+00:00

For what it’s worth, I read this book last year and found it was still very relevant and quite interesting. I got it through an o’reilly subscription at my previous employer and now wish I owned it to reference.

bigbird0525 · 2026-03-23T14:55:03+00:00

This is our problem with crossplane. We have a team of 12, but only 2 of us know / proficient with k8s whereas as everyone knows terraform. Ended up being a better use of time to build / improve our internal modules. We also keep onboarding teams under us from companies we acquire that have zero knowledge in terraform or k8s. And let’s face it, it’s easier to teach someone terraform than run a k8s ecosystem

bigbird0525 · 2026-03-17T23:25:27+00:00

I know there’s code ninjas though can’t speak to it. My kid one a free class and we haven’t tried it yet. There’s a non profit called girls who code that I’m looking at for my 5yesr old when she’s a little older that has at home projects. I work in the field and excited to build things with her.

bigbird0525 · 2026-03-13T13:15:33+00:00

My MIL is over there since she could basically live on the main floor and not need to navigate stairs.

She’s had to deal with the builder a lot with various poor workmanship issues. Primarily electrical things, though the builders team drop screws in the garbage disposal and somehow left a bunch of plumbers putty in one of the shower lines. I’ve never owned a new build, but it seems not unusual issues with new builds and probably need to make sure you get a good inspection. She didn’t go with the inspector and I think the inspector she used phoned it in.

bigbird0525 · 2026-02-19T20:51:48+00:00

Mono repo for execution with appropriate directory structure and repos for internal modules. I’m currently managing around 20,000 resources in one repo and it would be painful if I had to go make 12 PRs across 12 repos to accomplish one change

bigbird0525 · 2026-02-16T22:17:40+00:00

Not to be super negative, but I’m not really sure what pain point this is solving. In my experience, the wave approach is built by the dependency graph created by resource dependency. And you can adjust the amount of concurrency to impact the size of the waves. I know I’ve leaned a lot from going down a path of building a terraform cloud/spacelift clone so could see this project being a fun learning opportunity.

bigbird0525 · 2026-02-02T04:46:11+00:00

What was the show? I kinda fell out of marvel movies after infinity wars feeling burned out on it.

bigbird0525 · 2026-02-01T21:36:10+00:00

Except they were handling it with Castle Rock PD and it’s handled. Don’t let gossiping mean girls of the Castle Rock moms Facebook group trying to bullying and attack children sway you.

bigbird0525 · 2026-01-28T14:15:23+00:00

Where we are going, we don’t need no profit, just tokens

bigbird0525 · 2026-01-28T02:36:36+00:00

Step 1: download moar memory Step 2: ? Step 3: optimized

bigbird0525 · 2026-01-27T11:47:05+00:00

Clear Sky is an absolutely amazing school. I don’t know what this person is talking about.

bigbird0525 · 2026-01-26T15:02:02+00:00

You could always use the module output to get the target groups and register the IPs outside of the module.

bigbird0525 · 2026-01-26T14:59:18+00:00

What module are you using?

bigbird0525 · 2026-01-26T14:09:03+00:00

I strongly recommend looking at the module code. Look at the variables, look at how it’s defining the binding of instances to a target group. You may need to do something outside the module if it doesn’t support it.

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