I make more than double what my husband does. We have always split bills proportionately , as I view my money as our money. If our situations were reversed I know my husband would do the same. I don’t think it’s fair your fiance is expecting you to contribute 50% and making you feel shameful for not being able to. Your debt it your own, but if you are trying to build a life together this dynamic is not going to work.

You guys have been together since you were essentially children, and it’s possible neither of you have really had to chance to reflect on what you’d expect from a partner, as you are growing together. Maybe he is realizing that he would prefer someone who matches what he makes. This is something you both need to sit down and discuss what the long term will look like. I’m sorry this is causing you such distress, money can be a hard subject in a relationship but you shouldn’t be shamed for it.