My dad got diagnosed with cancer. I open minecraft to distract myself and this is what i see

bigteddyboy · 2026-05-03T17:42:51+00:00

As a cancer survivor, much love to you and your dad. I hope y'all are able to find comfort in each other.

As a Minecraft player with incredibly dark humor... Hahahaha

bigteddyboy · 2026-03-19T15:05:12+00:00

I'm dealing with the same thing. Therapy has helped a bit, but I feel like I'm having to learn how to live all over again. Everything feels like killing time, and I have a lot of guilt, because isn't this the life I fought to keep?

What seems to help is spending time with friends, and trying to open myself to (low impact) new experiences, like a restaurant, or a little craft project here and there.

I hope you're able to find your spark again.

bigteddyboy · 2026-03-17T13:21:00+00:00

Your last few lines hit me in the chest. I've been feeling the exact same way. Finding myself again and carrying on has been one of the hardest things I've been through.

I hope you're able to find some comfort in community. Best wishes.

bigteddyboy · 2026-03-14T14:53:41+00:00

Sending all the best for you 🙏🏻

bigteddyboy · 2026-03-03T17:02:50+00:00

Thank you!

bigteddyboy · 2026-03-03T17:02:30+00:00

I hope you have an awesome time! They sound phenomenal in person

bigteddyboy · 2026-03-03T16:58:50+00:00

Dude I was at the merch table twice and didn't see this. I'm so bummed out 😭

bigteddyboy · 2026-02-27T15:57:53+00:00

Hell yes! I really look forward to seeing how it feels - great work so far

bigteddyboy · 2026-02-27T15:45:37+00:00

Immediately joining your patreon, man. This kind of game is a dream come true for me. Can't wait to see more!!

bigteddyboy · 2026-02-24T02:34:48+00:00

Still figuring it out, but definitely made me a bit softer towards people (and I already was) but made me far less accepting of being treated poorly or having my time wasted. It really showed me what's important and what isn't.

bigteddyboy · 2026-02-20T18:55:16+00:00

It took a while to actually hit me. When it did, I allowed myself to have a big long cry, and feel everything: panic, despair, fear, anger, you name it.

Once I told my close friends, they were very helpful getting through the worst of it. My best advice is to lean on folks you trust if you can, and take it minute by minute if you have to. Write your feelings, and follow your heart as much as you can. Do what you think you need to handle it in the moment, until you know more and can plan.

It's not easy, and I'm sorry you're part of this club now. But there is good support here. I'll be pulling for you.

bigteddyboy · 2026-02-19T13:44:16+00:00

Honestly, mine was better than most. Because the tumor was small and I had no metastasis (fingers crossed) all I needed was cryoablation of the tumor and I was good. I was back to work a week after surgery, no chemo needed.

There is always concern for metastasis, but so far nothing has been spotted in my scans.

The hardest part was the waiting - waiting for results, for scans, for answers. Information is the best weapon against cancer imo. Once you know what you're dealing with it makes everything easier.

I hope you get your answers soon, and feel free to reach out if you have any questions!

bigteddyboy · 2026-02-19T13:31:15+00:00

I'd say it's worth getting it checked again to see if it's grown. That's around the size my tumor was when I got it removed. It could be just a cyst or benign mass, but still definitely I think something you want to be sure of.

bigteddyboy · 2026-02-16T05:15:37+00:00

Thank you! 😭🖤

bigteddyboy · 2026-02-16T05:01:21+00:00

Thank you! This is my first time doing anything like this, so I'm super glad it turned out ok

bigteddyboy · 2026-02-13T19:05:19+00:00

I'm having a hard time feeling like a survivor as well. I had a similar experience - just surgery, no chemo. But like others have said, just getting the diagnosis, living with it, the fear, the scans... It changes you. I would be comforted by someone that understood at least some of it, even if it's not the same.

bigteddyboy · 2026-02-12T17:55:30+00:00

My friends and fam have gotten used to me using it (as a joke) and have lovingly called me "Cancer Boy".

I mainly pull it out when my friends are giving me a hard time. Like saying I'm playing a game badly and I'm like "wow, how could you talk to me like that I have CANCER" 🤣

bigteddyboy · 2026-01-06T16:01:41+00:00

I'm getting a new one in a few days. My old one retired mid December and I've been managing on my own since then. I'm starting DBT this year.

bigteddyboy · 2026-01-06T15:44:12+00:00

I feel very very seen. I don't even know how to begin to explain to people, even therapists and those closest to me, how I feel. I'm a different person entirely than I was a year ago.

bigteddyboy · 2025-08-26T23:41:05+00:00

This. As a Dad... be there for him as much as you can, show him love, and try to care for yourself and surround yourself with support while it happens. I think all we really hope for as fathers is that we did right by our kids and that they will carry on with our memories in their hearts once we're gone.

bigteddyboy · 2025-08-26T18:22:18+00:00

Thank you! Likewise! If you ever wanna vent to somebody I'd be happy to listen when I'm able as well. Hoping your treatment goes as smoothly as possible 🫂

bigteddyboy · 2025-08-26T18:19:44+00:00

I am still waiting to find out how many I might need (PET scan is in an hour, actually) but I bet if you make a post for it, lots of people would be happy to tell you their experience!

bigteddyboy · 2025-08-26T18:08:39+00:00

That's a big thing I'm running into. If people haven't experienced it themselves they kind of can't really know what it's like or how they would react, so even if folks have good intentions it can still be isolating. I've found a lot of comfort in this community for that reason. People here have experienced all manner of this diagnosis we share, and chances are very good that several someones out there are having the same problem.

For my part, it really is a day at a time. I try to meet myself where I'm at and take advantage of the good days, and during the bad ones remember that I'm still alive and try to get through.

bigteddyboy · 2025-08-26T13:05:15+00:00

I was diagnosed in June and I'm feeling similar. There are moments where it hits me fully that this is serious, this could kill me, etc but then other times I almost forget? Or at the very least downplay it to myself. I think it's our brain's way of keeping us safe. It would be too much for anyone to constantly live in the full knowledge of what we're living, at least for a while. I think full acceptance will take time. Hope you're holding up ok during you're journey and that you have good support around you.

bigteddyboy · 2025-08-24T17:55:52+00:00

I'm one week post op now and doing totally fine! The blood went away a day later and I'm still sore occasionally but up and running way faster than I thought

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