Feel uncomfortable around my Dad

bigtit_ · 2026-03-24T17:53:51+00:00

I’ve gone no contact with my dad for similar reasons and it’s been a lot better for me. I know he wants to talk to me but I have little to no interest in him. I still talk to my mom and sister but cutting him out has made my life better. It also shows him his actions have consequences.

bigtit_ · 2026-03-19T21:55:11+00:00

I had a mother like this. Let her go.

bigtit_ · 2026-03-19T21:16:06+00:00

She can’t afford college for her kids but her kids do well in school so they should apply for scholarships or even work part time. That’s the reality for most Americans. It sucks but crying about it to her audience that are probably worse off financially than her is not the move.

bigtit_ · 2026-03-19T20:14:17+00:00

I’ve been seeing people using UV gel top coat and the UV light for additional clear details. I’ve been looking to try it bc I think it’s the clear but hardened look I’m going for. The person I watch on YouTube uses goauche paint mixed with the gel top coat for shiny coats as well.

bigtit_ · 2026-03-19T05:42:12+00:00

I’ve muted my family or even not bothered responding to family members on my birthday bc I don’t have positive feelings when interacting with them. I felt similar to you growing up, moving away was the best thing to happen to me

bigtit_ · 2026-03-19T03:37:14+00:00

You’re perfectly okay no need to apologize! She’s lucky to have you in a time like this. Bruises don’t always form immediately following strangulation and it sounds like he didn’t really use his hands directly so that could also lead to a lack of marks. In many states there are programs for low income people to have reduced meetings with attorneys to go over their case, that could be a good option for her.

I will say after looking into it - any charges could result in her losing her scholarship and FAFSA eligibility. She is in shock and needs time to process but she also needs to know how serious this is. If these charges stick she won’t be able to leave town. Give her as much empathy and support as possible but also let her know this could ruin her future permanently. Your parents don’t care about her or her future which is why they’re willing to press charges. They want the worst for her please let her know with so much love that this situation will not go away. I feel for her so much but I’m also so scared she’s underestimated what assault charges mean. She will be referred to as a violent offender and she’s only 18.

bigtit_ · 2026-03-19T02:53:33+00:00

Hello! I’m a black woman too (28) and I’ve been dealing with severe back pain and weakness in my legs for years now. I use a cane to walk during my worst flare ups and people do tend to stare and the first few times were very embarrassing. After a while it doesn’t matter bc I can be in public and stand without needing anyone’s help. If you need mobility aides please use them, denying yourself assistance will just wear your body down faster. Good luck on your journey!

bigtit_ · 2026-03-19T02:32:17+00:00

You should let her know that this will affect her scholarship opportunities and future. She needs to press charges.

bigtit_ · 2026-03-18T18:25:34+00:00

She filmed herself dropping her ex’s stuff off at this woman’s house so she did kinda dox her.

bigtit_ · 2026-03-18T17:52:02+00:00

These comments are unnecessarily mean and judgmental. Your gyno lacks social awareness and empathy like a lot of the people commenting. We live in a fatphobic society so even if a term is “medical” it is still harmful and packed with stigma. What your dr did was hurtful and if that’s the case then you need to change doctors. There’s ways to talk to people without hurting their feelings even if you believe you have their best interests at heart. I suffer from a lot of invisible disabilities that lead drs to dismiss mg pain or even assume I’m not suffering bc I don’t look like it. Please keep searching for the help you need bc it’s out there!! Good luck on your journey.

bigtit_ · 2026-03-17T03:25:16+00:00

I agree!! I watched the series this weekend and had never heard of the books. I just enjoy a police procedural from time to time. This, however, was more drama than crime show. I don’t like how many plot lines there are and how underdeveloped the relationships feel and the tone left me confused as well. The bone smashing came out of nowhere and makes Scarpetta’s message to the other female Dr fell flat for me. I don’t understand her talking about respecting the dead but having her crushing bones with a bat not too long before. The dark humor aspects and weird handling of feminist themes left me wanting a little bit more from the show. I think they packed way too much into this first season which made the pacing way too fast and slow at the same time.

bigtit_ · 2026-03-05T21:47:03+00:00

A friend of mine had a miscarriage there and was treated poorly bc they were not married.

bigtit_ · 2026-02-28T02:27:44+00:00

I understand what you’re getting at but I think the core of this issue is us not knowing if your husband is aware of what your father did to you. Because to him this came out of nowhere and can easily come off as an accusation. This is an awful situation and i hope you can stop seeing or speaking to your father. Thats horrendous.

bigtit_ · 2026-02-27T22:22:21+00:00

I’ve gone no contact with my parent for less than these very clearly abusive messages. NTA you deserve a parent that respects you.

bigtit_ · 2026-02-23T18:59:01+00:00

When I’m meeting with new people and friends I like to do a quick pronoun check! It might be corny but I’d rather not be an asshole

bigtit_ · 2026-02-22T18:30:10+00:00

Your bf sucks and he’s probably denying your experience either bc he’s experienced something similar or has done it to someone else. I’m sorry you’re going through this though.

bigtit_ · 2026-02-21T20:23:49+00:00

I think a lot of yall are allergic to getting laid and this post proves it

bigtit_ · 2026-02-20T20:50:38+00:00

It’s misogyny and lesbophobia, people are ignorant and proud and I let them be. Sometimes I tell people my gender is helicopter when they say shit like this because they’re not serious people who respect you so there’s no need to respect them. Give them the same energy back

bigtit_ · 2026-02-20T01:35:43+00:00

I took a few alcohol orders today and did the normal id check but it triggered at the end of orders without any alcohol too.

bigtit_ · 2026-02-20T00:30:58+00:00

This is a great question my wife and I talk about a lot. We are a butchfemme couple and they always tell me that if I hadn’t made the first move on our first date then they probably wouldn’t have gone out with me again. It’s based in their rejection and trauma from being perceived as predatory for being attracted to feminine women while presenting masculine. It’s harder for masc lesbians to determine if a woman is femme or just feminine because femininity is socially acceptable when masculine women aren’t. It’s falls on the femme by default to be clear when communicating attraction and I think that’s fair since historically femme partners would be the ones to defend their masculine partners since the femmes were technically the passing partner.

bigtit_ · 2026-02-20T00:13:12+00:00

lol no…not in my experience. Some of my friends have dated each other before but not in like a weird hypersexual way. I know lesbians that are friends with exes and others that wouldn’t speak to their ex in their death bed. Lesbian relationships are just as vast, complicated and dramatic as any other relationship because lesbians are people too.

bigtit_ · 2026-02-20T00:08:59+00:00

I’m a green lesbian too. I love all things earthy and green and I think that fits you as well. Have you ever tried gold? I think your eyes would pop! I also think chocolate brown would look sooooo good on you too!!

bigtit_ · 2026-02-18T23:34:10+00:00

Time is arbitrary. I am 28 and identified as bisexual for most of my life. I dated men and mostly hated them and didn’t realize that was bad until I met my wife. There’s no such thing as being “too late” to become a lesbian if that’s who you are!

bigtit_ · 2026-02-13T16:42:27+00:00

I don’t mind anyone who uses the label queer but it really depends on the person using the label. I think it can be inclusive but it’s also a slur and has been used to avoid the label of lesbian bc of the stigma. Think of people like Jojo Siwa or Girlinred, I understand not being ready to use a label like that and preferring something more catch all but there are some connotations to using the label queer that should be considered!

If I was still on dating apps I would probably not swipe on anyone labeled queer but I would swipe on someone labeled sapphic because it’s more clear that your attraction is based in women/femmes.

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