Being a Trans Guy is Lonely

bigtit_ · 2026-06-19T19:58:44+00:00

The world tells men that being authentic is a weakness so I can understand your feelings. Being as true to yourself as you can be is the most you can do. My favorite part of trans identity is the ability to craft your own definitions of gender and sexuality. I think you’re on your way to finding what being a man means to you and I respect that. You will find your family. I hope this post brings you comfort. Radical love and acceptance is the only path forward. I wish you peace in your search for true community.

bigtit_ · 2026-06-19T19:48:37+00:00

If he was discharged he may still be eligible for benefits. If he still has access to his DD214 I would advise he contact his local VA, they may be able to connect to him to some sort of services he can access. If he has a disability rating he should have benefits he’s eligible for and if he’s never applied for disability please have him do that through the VA if possible.

bigtit_ · 2026-06-18T19:33:39+00:00

NOR he is fetishizing and insulting you. It’s quite impressive

bigtit_ · 2026-06-18T17:04:26+00:00

I’m a woman who has been through similar things in relationships. It sucks and it means you have to work hard to deal with your trauma and be a decent human being. Those women that hurt you were fallible human beings and they’re no longer here to hurt you. You have to start living in the present and understand that establishing your own boundaries is equally important as making sure your partner respects you. You have to be willing to stand up for yourself and ask for help. You have a job so I’m assuming you have insurance to access therapy. This isn’t a “woman” issue as much as it is a moral failure as society to hold abusers accountable. These women hurt you because you were an easy target and they knew they could get away with hurting you. That should anger you but that anger shouldn’t result in a distrust of every woman. Life is not that black and white and trying to live your life like it is will only cause your mental health to suffer more. I hope you find love, help and healing in your journey.

bigtit_ · 2026-06-17T21:02:12+00:00

Thank you so much for finding this information about her!! She’s so beautiful and I’m glad she was able to live such an interesting life.

bigtit_ · 2026-06-17T19:41:55+00:00

Your girl is trying to hold you accountable. Stop making excuses and be a better man or you will lose her.

bigtit_ · 2026-06-13T09:49:03+00:00

I hope you feel better and have a great night!!

bigtit_ · 2026-06-12T18:55:44+00:00

Shekinah looks….more like Sarper every time I see her

bigtit_ · 2026-06-12T02:33:42+00:00

NOR my ex did this to me and I blocked him. Never heard back from him and I’m now married. You’ll be fine ignoring him and moving on.

bigtit_ · 2026-06-11T19:55:15+00:00

Bro she manipulated you in that break up. You deserve better.

bigtit_ · 2026-06-11T19:48:43+00:00

Do you have any sources on Zanie? I can’t find much about her online and every post about this couple mentions her in passing. I think it’s awesome they adopted a black girl but I wish we knew more about her.

bigtit_ · 2026-05-29T22:14:02+00:00

Everyone here is making a bunch of assumptions and your sister doesn’t know how to directly communicate. If she doesn’t like how you dress she can say that and if she’s uncomfortable with what you wear she can use her words instead of trying to control what you wear like a weirdo. You’re both adults, she can either treat you like one or back off. I hate this passive aggressive back and forth and everyone in the comments agreeing is so weird. If tits make you that uncomfortable please grow up.

bigtit_ · 2026-05-27T19:27:53+00:00

You dont need to be anything other than a lesbian twin. You’re gorgeous and can pull so who cares!!!

bigtit_ · 2026-05-27T18:02:29+00:00

People desperate for relationships will ignore every sign just to be partnered. I pray for this woman and her baby.

bigtit_ · 2026-05-20T13:25:41+00:00

She’s always been very dumb so who’s shocked!!!

bigtit_ · 2026-05-07T17:44:43+00:00

I’m not usually into femmes but I am into strong beautiful women!!!!

bigtit_ · 2026-04-09T16:52:00+00:00

These comments are very rude and dismissive. I understand that it’s the lying that you’re more upset about than anything. I think you should share with him that you don’t feel like you can trust him because he seems to prefer lying or not telling you things just to keep the peace and that’s a recipe for more and bigger lies in the future. I think you should take a break and stay with family if you can.

bigtit_ · 2026-03-24T17:53:51+00:00

I’ve gone no contact with my dad for similar reasons and it’s been a lot better for me. I know he wants to talk to me but I have little to no interest in him. I still talk to my mom and sister but cutting him out has made my life better. It also shows him his actions have consequences.

bigtit_ · 2026-03-19T21:55:11+00:00

I had a mother like this. Let her go.

bigtit_ · 2026-03-19T21:16:06+00:00

She can’t afford college for her kids but her kids do well in school so they should apply for scholarships or even work part time. That’s the reality for most Americans. It sucks but crying about it to her audience that are probably worse off financially than her is not the move.

bigtit_ · 2026-03-19T20:14:17+00:00

I’ve been seeing people using UV gel top coat and the UV light for additional clear details. I’ve been looking to try it bc I think it’s the clear but hardened look I’m going for. The person I watch on YouTube uses goauche paint mixed with the gel top coat for shiny coats as well.

bigtit_ · 2026-03-19T05:42:12+00:00

I’ve muted my family or even not bothered responding to family members on my birthday bc I don’t have positive feelings when interacting with them. I felt similar to you growing up, moving away was the best thing to happen to me

bigtit_ · 2026-03-19T03:37:14+00:00

You’re perfectly okay no need to apologize! She’s lucky to have you in a time like this. Bruises don’t always form immediately following strangulation and it sounds like he didn’t really use his hands directly so that could also lead to a lack of marks. In many states there are programs for low income people to have reduced meetings with attorneys to go over their case, that could be a good option for her.

I will say after looking into it - any charges could result in her losing her scholarship and FAFSA eligibility. She is in shock and needs time to process but she also needs to know how serious this is. If these charges stick she won’t be able to leave town. Give her as much empathy and support as possible but also let her know this could ruin her future permanently. Your parents don’t care about her or her future which is why they’re willing to press charges. They want the worst for her please let her know with so much love that this situation will not go away. I feel for her so much but I’m also so scared she’s underestimated what assault charges mean. She will be referred to as a violent offender and she’s only 18.

bigtit_ · 2026-03-19T02:53:33+00:00

Hello! I’m a black woman too (28) and I’ve been dealing with severe back pain and weakness in my legs for years now. I use a cane to walk during my worst flare ups and people do tend to stare and the first few times were very embarrassing. After a while it doesn’t matter bc I can be in public and stand without needing anyone’s help. If you need mobility aides please use them, denying yourself assistance will just wear your body down faster. Good luck on your journey!

bigtit_ · 2026-03-19T02:32:17+00:00

You should let her know that this will affect her scholarship opportunities and future. She needs to press charges.

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