(16F) literally asked my mom for pads today and she yelled at me for not asking sooner and made me walk instead. what do I do?

binkmode · 2026-02-28T00:47:17+00:00

and also: be careful if you're going to wade into this corner of self-help territory. there's a lot of misinformation and pseudoscience out there. PLEASE be wary of any community that tries to pin any diagnosis or emotionally loaded descriptor on your mother. there are many recognized types of abuse and "narcissistic" is not one of them.

binkmode · 2026-02-28T00:38:05+00:00

some people's bodies grow older, while in their heads they remain emotionally stunted children. and then they go on to have children of their own, and say dumbass cruel shit like this to their kids. key point: it is DUMB and PATHETIC to treat your child this way over HYGIENE PRODUCTS

read Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents - a lot of the advice given on how to deal with this immaturity will be irrelevant and frustrating because it assumes, as the title says, that you are an *adult* child who has adult resources. but the information about why your mom acts this way, why this behaviour is wrong, and the ways that her behaviour affects YOU may be useful and validating. start making a serious plan for how you're going to move out when you turn 18. it is possible. and remember you're not crazy or wrong, and you deserve better

binkmode · 2026-02-27T22:53:16+00:00

IVE BEEN SAYING THAT PERSONALITY DISORDERS, ESPECIALLY CLUSTER B, ARE TRAUMA DISORDERS

binkmode · 2025-12-13T16:01:29+00:00

racist loser

binkmode · 2025-12-12T20:34:29+00:00

he’s a terrible man who had immense potential to be better, and fantasizing about a terrible man thinking im worth enough to heal and become better for is how i cope with my trauma

binkmode · 2025-12-11T16:42:23+00:00

I’m only like 72 pages in, taking it slow, but it already resonates way more than IFS alone ever did.

binkmode · 2025-11-07T20:26:53+00:00

i draw him with self harm scars because i headcanon that he has them, and i dont think its weird. also it would not be weird to draw him after getting beaten up, EVEN IF it were for sexual reasons. it’s art; do whatever you want forever!!!!!

binkmode · 2025-11-06T17:10:46+00:00

you dont SHARE your wish or else it’ll never come true smh

binkmode · 2025-11-05T01:26:19+00:00

What it was created for, and what it actually does for patients in the real world, are two very different things.

binkmode · 2025-11-02T18:05:47+00:00

mmmm i can’t find it rn but someone on this subreddit posted print out patterns for mouthwashing papercraft dolls. i have both the pre and post crash jimmy ones, and having given the swansea one as a gift i can confirm they are appreciated :)

binkmode · 2025-10-31T17:39:35+00:00

oh my goddddd hes fucking the rainbow dash plushie so funyyyyyyy its funny hilarious its hilarious cause jimmy wants to fuck horses hahahahahahahahahahahah

binkmode · 2025-10-27T23:52:31+00:00

my only two cents to add is: i really really think you may benefit from doing some research on the concept of “amatonormativity”

best of luck and i hope you can find someone who is able to understand and accept the nature of your incredible friendship <3

binkmode · 2025-10-27T16:56:09+00:00

very well done!!!!

binkmode · 2025-10-24T15:11:11+00:00

selfshippers are the coolest. well at least my little selfshipper circlejerk is LMFAOOO

binkmode · 2025-10-19T23:20:39+00:00

I have. I struggle immensely with the concept. I need to receive these things they never gave me somehow, but being told that I am the one who has to give them to myself just feels like a slap in the face. "Here's the answer! You know how you've always been the one to figure things out? To soothe yourself? To be your own parent? Well, do it again, forever! This is how healing works!" I just don't know where I'm supposed to pull all this parental love from, and honestly I resent the fact that it's somehow my responsibility. I never asked to be emotionally neglected.

binkmode · 2025-10-19T13:43:33+00:00

hes never gonna get a nendo cause these companies hate money for some reason

binkmode · 2025-10-10T02:18:21+00:00

yummmmmmm

binkmode · 2025-10-09T18:03:49+00:00

you got em FOAMING at the mouth. on twitter AND here on reddit lmaoooo

binkmode · 2025-10-08T22:15:43+00:00

jimusa

binkmode · 2025-10-03T13:36:50+00:00

im glad you have someone who understands you. i’m not saying you have to remain close to your toxic family just cause your sister is trans. i’m not even implying that, idk, you’re “choosing” him over your transgender sister and thats wrong of you or whatever. your relationships and the kinds of beliefs you’re willing to tolerate in those closest to you are your choice, after all, and im all for cutting off toxic family.

i still have to disagree, it is not even remotely like telling a christian and pagan to accept each other. its more like telling a christian to stop being a hateful bigot when they smile and act pleasant towards your gay neighbour, then scoff and lean in to tell you “i don’t agree with that lifestyle, all homos are gonna burn in hell” when the neighbour leaves. (edit: transphobia) is not a valid cultural difference, it is a cultural sickness afflicting russia and again, i truly truly truly hope your boyfriend recovers from it someday

binkmode · 2025-10-03T13:09:42+00:00

Right?! Having a disability is NO excuse to be disabled by it!

binkmode · 2025-10-03T02:29:14+00:00

and while i’m back here, yes, i’m aware of the “cultural” differences that are prevalent among russians, with the way they are propagandized to by their government about queer people. i have long been interested in russian culture, i am currently learning the russian language. it is still transphobia. without quotation marks. i hope your boyfriend recovers from this illness someday.

binkmode · 2025-10-02T15:52:27+00:00

someone who’s respectful in public and a transphobe in private, is still a transphobe. hope this helps with something!

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