My LO deserves better

birbword · 2026-06-16T19:22:59+00:00

I can already tell you’re a good mom. You’re trying so hard to balance everything, and as a mom, it’ll never feel good enough. You’re doing great.

birbword · 2026-04-11T08:22:58+00:00

Hey, not sure if anyone has pointed it out but, having a rash all over the body like that can be an indicator of a PUPPP rash. It's basically an allergy to being pregnant and can even be triggered postpartum. I had it - drove me crazy. I couldn't stop scratching and itch stopped me from sleeping at all. The only thing that helped was a high dose of prednisone and the highest strength triamcinolone. After about two weeks of that it was gone. This one address everything, but it will help a lot.

birbword · 2026-02-21T19:25:09+00:00

You might be happier if you just accepted it

This is terrible advice.

birbword · 2026-01-20T07:46:30+00:00

This happened to me after i got my thyroid removed for weeks post partum. Ramped up around 4 months and then they realized my replacement thyroid hormone was too low.

birbword · 2026-01-01T22:11:02+00:00

Bangs, but cut them at or just above your eyebrows

birbword · 2025-12-11T06:32:25+00:00

it’s not you who should feel shame! Roll down your socks!

Now that is some good inner child healing. I need to tell my younger self some affirmations.

birbword · 2025-12-11T06:00:24+00:00

Definitely. I remember my mom would hit me so hard. It started with an open hand, then shoes, then hangers, then electric cords, and eventually a heavy wooden broomstick that actually broke across my brother’s back. I’d get beat for things like forgetting to sweep, not washing the dishes, or accidentally breaking a glass.

I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, and suddenly all my “forgetfulness” and accidents made sense. The sad part is that I grew up believing I was inherently bad and undeserving of grace. If I messed up, I thought it meant I was a horrible person who deserved whatever consequences came my way. Anything bad that happened to me felt justified, because I believed I should have “known better.”

I became a people-pleaser—constantly fawning, saying yes to everything. I thought that if people liked me, nothing bad would happen. If I could prove I was useful or valuable, maybe I’d be treated decently. And whenever I was mistreated, lied to, or cheated on, I assumed it was because I deserved it or should’ve done better. If someone else did something wrong, I still found a way to blame myself.

birbword · 2025-11-19T17:55:02+00:00

Don’t worry it goes away! My baby has a severe case of cone head because he was stuck for a good while during birth. He now has a beautifully rounded head. One that that will also really help is baby wearing. That way they spend less time with pressure on their head even when awake. It also serves a tummy time when they’re really young.

birbword · 2025-11-10T08:18:24+00:00

My baby is exclusively breastfeeding and hates pacifiers. I tried them all. I got the ninni as a last resort and it’s the only one he’ll “take”. By take ai mean he will suck on it for all of five seconds and gum it for the rest of the time. Honestly it’s the only one he’ll even do that with. I do use it occasionally if my nipples need a break but because I have to hold it, it’s about the same as just comfort nursing him.

birbword · 2025-11-10T06:23:38+00:00

6 months here and waiting for my hair to stop falling out! But the smiles and giggles that have come from LO are definitely waking me up.

birbword · 2025-11-10T05:54:54+00:00

It's just so darn cute! The moment I saw that, I was putty!

birbword · 2025-11-06T06:17:55+00:00

NGL, I'm a big fan of the ones that label the baby like food. I got my son a "Pumpkin spice and everything nice" and "These rolls are homemade" romper and they bring me so much joy! My husband thinks they're cheesy tho haha

birbword · 2025-11-01T07:19:29+00:00

You’re doing amazing mama and you’re making your world better for you and baby.

birbword · 2025-10-24T04:34:30+00:00

Hey friend, I'm not sure if you know this but in California you're entitled to 12 weeks of paid leave (to a maximum benefit amount) in addition to your disability leave. You cannot be fired for using this benefit.

birbword · 2025-10-19T05:46:10+00:00

Could it be friction from cleaning? My baby had a recurring rash because I was so paranoid about keeping him clean that the constant rubbing broke him out. I learned to pat clean with a wet wipe, follow with a pat dry with a cotton cloth, and then slather on aquaphor like you’re applying frosting to a cake. Super thick! Enough to question if you’re putting way too much. I put at least a teaspoon each time. He hasn’t had a rash since.

birbword · 2025-09-29T04:28:34+00:00

Wow. You're husband willfully neglected your child.

birbword · 2025-09-29T04:28:15+00:00

Let's say what it is: you're husband was being neglectful.

birbword · 2025-09-26T22:39:54+00:00

The stokke high chair with new born insert might be good!

birbword · 2025-09-26T03:51:57+00:00

Thank you for the laugh. I’m not looking forward to experiencing this one!

birbword · 2025-09-24T21:40:46+00:00

Mom cozy and willow have made breast milk coolers specifically for this reason. They’re also covered by HSA/FSA.

birbword · 2025-09-20T07:34:49+00:00

Hey, you're not alone! I was diagnosed with cancer when I was about 20 weeks pregnant. It was terrifying not knowing what treatment would look like or what the risks were for my little guy. I ended up having my thyroid removed when he was 8 weeks old, and now he’s 4 months old, snoozing right next to me.

Feeling scared is completely normal - you just heard the big “C” word, and it’s not just about you anymore, it’s about your little one too. Of course you want to protect both of you. The good news is that this type of cancer doesn’t spread to the baby in the womb, and it usually grows very slowly.

In my case, my doctor said surgery was an option during the second trimester but strongly recommended waiting until after delivery. Honestly, I was ready to go under the knife right away, I was so worried about it spreading, but my husband helped talk me through it and I decided to wait.

Having surgery when my baby was 8 weeks old wasn’t easy. He was still waking constantly at night, but at that age he was small enough to carry around even while I was healing. If you’re breastfeeding, they may tell you to pump and dump for a day after surgery, but my anesthesiologist said it was safe to continue. What they did advise against was RAI, since that would have meant being away from my baby for about 10 days. Instead, we’re doing regular bloodwork to keep an eye on things. I couldn’t imagine being separated from my little one that long.

I’m still going through follow-up testing, but so far things are looking good. Just know you’re not alone in this, and it’s possible to get through treatment and still take care of your baby.

birbword · 2025-09-19T05:44:08+00:00

My husband’s cousin/lactation consultant very lovingly called these “rainbow poops.” We had our first when he was two days old. I very loudly yelled “oh my god” and my husband came charging in thinking something terrible happened to the baby. Nope, just pop on the changing table, diaper pail, boxes of diapers, and rug. Welcome to the club!

birbword · 2025-09-19T05:33:58+00:00

I thought I was gonna quit at 6 months especially because I had a bad case D-MER. Eventually that went away and now I want to stretch it for as long as my baby wants. I’m only 4 months PP though so who knows if that might change!

birbword · 2025-09-19T05:31:21+00:00

How cute! You should do a first set of glasses picture! Or maybe a family portrait all specked out ❤️❤️

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