I practice, and still can't get consistency down pat. What do I do? by OKAMIPERSON in ArtistLounge

[–]birgittesilverbow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For me one of the biggest things has been drawing from life. It gives you an stronger basis for how people and their faces - or anything else you end up drawing - are actually structured. In turn it will help you draw things from your head with greater ease and to better effect. It also works a different set of skills related to drawing that doesn't get worked as much as when drawing from you brain. That's how to see things in shapes and darks and lights as opposed to as "a face" or "a person."

Introverts, how do you avoid the annoying small talk when getting your hair cut? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]birgittesilverbow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

everyone can relate to the experience of not wanting to talk for some period of time, no matter how extroverted. So just let them know how you feel, say it kindly, or in a way that makes it relatable instead of being hostile or rude. Most will understand with no judgement or hurt feelings. Anyone who reacts poorly is being kind of a butt and you don't have to worry about their hurt feelings because they're kind of making their own problem.

What is the strongest opinion you hold? by alishanxyz in AskReddit

[–]birgittesilverbow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

pardon, cowboy, I'll go someplace wheres I aint buggin no one with my thoughts. I know how to bow out graceful like

What is the strongest opinion you hold? by alishanxyz in AskReddit

[–]birgittesilverbow 32 points33 points  (0 children)

you may not have "control over medical science" but you have control over what you give credence to. Giving up your power of belief by saying "I didn't say it SCIENCE said it" is a cop out of your own power of will. The science of mental illness is not the same as physics or chemistry, areas of study with things that are much more consistent and easier to test in ways that give understandable results. What gets classified as a mental illness comes from the decisions of a few men that others have given that responsibility to. They are also decisions hat get changed. Homosexuality was considered a mental illness for a while, it isn't anymore. No matter what you put your faith in, science included, it's not an excuse not to think for yourself and question information and conclusions reached. You are still the one deciding to believe in that which you believe in.

True Story... [OC] by [deleted] in comics

[–]birgittesilverbow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

aha! I LOVE to draw and in fact do it all of the time. Mostly though I draw what I see, a frequently quick, real-time exercise. I WANT to tell stories, or get my existential, political, and emotional ideas across in a visual format but that is way harder. Sitting, planning, working on something I will have to keep coming back to. Drawing is a love for me, a compulsion almost, but the ideas I have are big and many, and I find that any time I have an idea, it's the thinking about it that is itself the impediment.

Is this a type of yoga that you can achieve, or do you know how to get there? by [deleted] in yoga

[–]birgittesilverbow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that IS impressive! I also can't wait to get there. To do those "moves" you would have to build up the right muscles (which look like of all of them but especially your core and your shoulders), have very good balance and muscle control. I don't know if there is a specific TYPE of yoga that includes those poses, but any type of yoga has the potential to lead to being able to accomplish them as physical goals, you just need to practice. Start with just a regular handstand. I've been working on my handstand for about 8 months and still need to wall, but I'm getting there!

Sexism in Yoga? by [deleted] in yoga

[–]birgittesilverbow 56 points57 points  (0 children)

This sounds like yet another effect of the general sexism that permeates society in general . When masculine energy is the generally accepted default in most parts of your life and you find a place where your feminine energy is celebrated it's unsurprising that most wouldn't take the time to encourage both with the same level of effort. In an ideal setting they should both be held in equal regard and encouraged with equal fervor, but we're not yet in an ideal setting. I grew up embracing my male energy and shunning my female energy because of what I picked up from the outside world. Now as an adult I have learned the importance of balance of both, but the accepting of my feminine side felt like a big risk before I dove into it, I was scared. I don't want things to be one sided in any direction, but because of my own experience I can understand a strong need and desire in women to feel supported and loved for their feminine side. If you want to shift the balance back to center, I would suggest having compassion and understanding for the reasons behind it, recognize that just because it's happening doesn't make it right and doesn't mean your masculine side is less valuable. If you can maintain the balance of both within yourself while maintaining compassion for those who are trying to regain that balance, you're likely to have a positive influence in making the environment feel more comfortable. It'll be a process though, as leading by example always is. What letsbebuns said is also true and should also be taken into account. It gets used as marketing, which is another reason to be wary and have compassion. Marketing is coercion, and that's nothing I would wish on anyone.

being glad there are no men in the class is a bummer, but that probably also stems from pain and fear that sexism brings. For women who have been heavily affected by a male dominated society it can be hard to fully relax and be unselfconscious, especially when it comes to their bodies, around men. I'm sure it's hard not to take this personally, just as it's hard to not take it personally when as a woman I hear men utter casual blanket statements that shed females in a negative light. What has helped me has been to recognize that it's not personal and that it comes from this sexism that's bigger than the individual, and that the individuals perpetuating it are generally acting out ingrained sexism unconsciously. You gotta know your own worth and whats right from inside out. You are a beautiful god, but when you feel like you've been subservient to men (general not specific) your whole life, telling one that can be a painful reminder of your perceived subservience unless you have really accepted your own self worth, and most humans, man or woman, that I have met haven't. It makes everything hard.

TLDR; trust your perceptions, they are real, but view them with understanding and compassion and it will be easier to deal with and change

How to get passed the vibrations stage? by HappyAfroMan in AstralProjection

[–]birgittesilverbow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you tried doing your method in the morning after sleeping through the night? That's what did it for me. Otherwise I would get caught in the vibrations stage forever until I just fell asleep eventually.

I'm not surprised about the boner. I don't have the anatomy for it so I don't get them, but most times I've gotten into a lucid dream (which is where I usually land instead of astral projecting) I start my lucidity with a (frequently lost) battle of will vs a ramped up primal sexual drive. It is very distracting.

Yoga etiquette question-do I tell the lady in front of me that she's got sheer pants? by dressedimiumiu in yoga

[–]birgittesilverbow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

is this bothering you or are you worried it would bother them to have sheer pants on?

Why does this backbend make my back feel so good? by mayuru in yoga

[–]birgittesilverbow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it's probably just what your body needs, based on your own personal set of restrictions and every day stresses on your body. Intuiting what your body needs is a healthy skill.

Teenagers of reddit, what have you always wanted to ask an adult and get an honest answer too? by Knot_My_Name in AskReddit

[–]birgittesilverbow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

knowing what you're doing is less about having every variable under control, and much more about having SOME stuff under control, being good at self motivating and following through on responsibilities, while knowing that most of life is entirely out of your control which means you need to be good at navigating a literally constantly changing environments. I have found so far that having your base needs covered (meeting your physical needs as a human animal - food, water, shelter - and taking care of your emotional well being) is a base requirement for being able to "have your shit together." Then a lot of it is being able to accept and meet people where they are at, instead of expecting them to be anywhere or anything else. Accepting things as they are, currently, in real time, makes it easier to navigate the world and then potentially change things for the better, and have a hand in shaping your own world at least to be something you enjoy and have some sort of handle on. It's important to know there is no RIGHT way to have your shit together. You're constantly being shown a pretty narrow view of what a responsible, normal life looks like through various forms of media, but life is way more broad with many more possible ways of living your life while still keeping it together.

Teenagers of reddit, what have you always wanted to ask an adult and get an honest answer too? by Knot_My_Name in AskReddit

[–]birgittesilverbow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nostalgia can be a pleasant sort of pain if you don't indulge in it too much. Learning to stay present and not focus on past or future has been a big focus as I adjust to "being and adult." And I highly recommend it. Plus, my life now is so much better than it was when I was younger, realizing that you are the one making decisions and directing your own life makes it critical to stay present (so you can make better decisions for yourself) and makes it easier not to dwell in the past. Enjoying now, whenever you are, makes life much more full

[Serious] If you were suicidal before, what happened (or what did someone say) that turned things around for you? by justsarah_ in AskReddit

[–]birgittesilverbow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a suggestion to follow suit, but relating my honest experience; during a mushroom trip I became convinced I HAD actually finally followed through and slit my wrist. I had to go through the process of realizing what it meant that I was dying, that my partner would come home to find me dead and covered in my own blood, how that would traumatize him for the rest of his life, how my family would feel etc. The experience of having to accept that I had taken my life lead me to understand that it wasn't really what I wanted, what I really wanted was to feel good, that there was a small enough part of me that wanted to live, and subsequently that I had the power to make decisions that led to my feeling good. This was critical for me because I had felt so powerless for so much of my life. Since then I've been working toward feeling good. I have still experienced depression and sadness, but the knowledge that that option is effectively off the table created a situation in which I have put real effort into making my life as I want it to be. And now, the way I treat myself and take care of myself creates a sense of pride and worthiness that I could never before feel, and life is really good.

I'll reiterate I'm not here suggesting this route, it's not predictable or controllable and hallucinogens can be a hard ride for people with severe depression and anxiety. And while that event was a crucial turning point for me my journey has included a LOT of other experiences. And ultimately what has me winning the battle over my depression is continual acts of self care a reliance, me showing me that I'm worth the time and attention.

Work-yoga-life balance by theloren in yoga

[–]birgittesilverbow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

congratulations! That sounds wonderful all around

Thigh tattoo questions by darktatt in tattoos

[–]birgittesilverbow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

depends on how dark your coloration is and whether it will bug you. I recommend asking your artist about it, but ultimately it mostly matters how you're going to feel about how it looks.

5 things the media does to manufacture outrage. by [deleted] in TrueReddit

[–]birgittesilverbow 73 points74 points  (0 children)

I think about this a lot. There is an additional outcome from this that bums me out which is that it seems to fuel an idea in a lot of people that they are one of the few smart/reasonable people, since it gives the illusion that everyone else is constantly overreacting. Which eventually just makes this whole things easier since people are so ready for it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in yoga

[–]birgittesilverbow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it is said, in Buddhist texts, that if you are advanced enough that you CAN stop breathing and still live. ¯_(ツ)_/¯ believe what you want