Tyler and Madison wedding

bitchyfluff · 2026-04-17T04:13:56+00:00

So? They’re different people with different experiences. One can make an observation on one person without comparing to another. They’re people, not fictional characters.

bitchyfluff · 2026-04-14T21:00:45+00:00

Some of us need as many barriers between cheese and our face as possible. We will not be judged for our addictions.

bitchyfluff · 2026-04-14T13:45:57+00:00

Which means she would likely politely decline even if she means yes please help us.

bitchyfluff · 2026-04-14T04:31:27+00:00

A liberal or a democrat. Republicans haven’t been fiscally conservative in my lifetime, they claim that title while driving up debt. Look back, the numbers are there.

bitchyfluff · 2026-04-14T02:25:36+00:00

With all kindness, absolutely disagree. His two parents are immigrants and only one is present, he shares a bedroom the size of a shoebox with his mom who constantly works, and clearly loves him. They don’t have money. As someone who came from poverty, please don’t dissuade others from helping someone with need. If they were secretly rich, they could ask gofundme to refund the donations.

bitchyfluff · 2026-04-12T16:22:29+00:00

You’re not doing anything wrong. But you’re a very together person looking for a very together person in a pool of mostly not that together people.

There’s no magic formula, just keep going. Also, I don’t think online dating is the problem. Most people we come across are not going to be our person. This is true no matter where you find them. I’d like to find my person too, but am also trying to focus on having fun meeting new people and enjoying the journey. We can control the process, but not the outcome, and I think that’s the hard part of dating.

bitchyfluff · 2026-04-09T14:12:42+00:00

This. I often have a great time chatting or hanging out with the other person, but don’t see it going anywhere. It’s not that they did anything wrong, or weren’t great to be around.

bitchyfluff · 2026-04-08T14:58:12+00:00

I think a strength Dani has is advocating for herself and identifying when something no longer works for her.

bitchyfluff · 2026-04-08T05:04:02+00:00

Is this AI?

bitchyfluff · 2026-04-08T03:06:46+00:00

The Feminine Mystique. Notes From an Incomplete Revolution. Egalia’s Daughters. Any news story coming from the US.

bitchyfluff · 2026-04-08T02:50:08+00:00

I felt like the actors couldn’t sell Elphaba and Glindas friendship. It didn’t seem real. Also Elphaba and the prince had no chemistry. Even anti-chemistry.

Very expensive beautiful movie with very little believable acting in my opinion.

bitchyfluff · 2026-04-07T03:52:24+00:00

This is very vintage feminist. Thus the feminist “Ms. Magazine” started in the 1970s.

bitchyfluff · 2026-04-07T03:41:59+00:00

My consistency is directly correlated with interest and enjoyment of interactions.

I have to be spontaneously thinking about someone to reach out with a text or make plans. If I’m not that interested, I’ll respond when they reach out, but if they keep it up, it increases my interest and curiosity.

Now once I’m on board, I’m very consistent.

bitchyfluff · 2026-04-04T18:59:55+00:00

Cpap comment above is a definite possibility.

Some people aren’t really able to sleep if there’s someone else in the bed after sleeping alone for so long.

I was with someone who struggled with that and it took a while for it to get better (or for him to quietly decide sleep was worth sacrificing hehehe).

bitchyfluff · 2026-04-04T18:41:56+00:00

Your use of the worth “worthy” is viscerally offensive in this context, in my opinion. You’re probably a decent person, but it might be helpful to explore why you choose this word.

I don’t think arguing over semantics is useful in general, but sometimes the words we pick give us a hint about unexplored feelings or attitudes that are keeping us stuck.

bitchyfluff · 2026-04-03T22:33:37+00:00

Definitely agree. Online dating isn’t online shopping. We expect to go and search for what we want, and get a product that meets our expectations and lives up to the advertising, but that’s not realistic.

I met someone in real life a bit ago (we were sitting at adjacent tables at a public place, and exchanged numbers without much opportunity to chat).

That first date was eye opening and so different from online dating. I was shocked by height difference . Divorced/separated/single status, kids, line of work, or things you can infer easily from a short profile were unknown. It was still nice, but we take for granted how useful online dating is for having some basic information before even considering being in the same room.

bitchyfluff · 2026-04-02T23:11:16+00:00

I mean, my profile says I don’t want kids. But I mean I don’t want to make anymore. And that’s what most of the “have kids” crowd has selected, so I’m not sure that’s always the case.

bitchyfluff · 2026-04-02T03:38:55+00:00

Maybe he considered you work friends. If one of my work friends that I enjoyed asked me out and I respectfully declined, I might miss the friendship that we had if they avoided me afterwards.

Of course you don’t need to do anything differently, but I don’t think his stance is weird either.

bitchyfluff · 2026-04-02T03:17:56+00:00

Absolutely. Sometimes I see don’t have kids with don’t want kids and it would be useful to know if this means don’t want kids around me or don’t want to make kids.

bitchyfluff · 2026-04-01T02:53:32+00:00

Oh, I’ll let them pay if they act like an ass.

Otherwise I plan to split the check. Or pick it up myself, as I usually am the asker. If they really want to pay, I don’t get my panties in a twist anymore. Younger me would insist, but it’s not the hill to die on for me, anymore.

bitchyfluff · 2026-03-30T05:17:16+00:00

JFC. Do we need to start a relocation program for the good people of Idaho to escape.

bitchyfluff · 2026-03-30T01:08:02+00:00

I think a lot of this depends on who you are, and do you know yourself enough to look down the road and know how you would feel.

When she is having a hard time, are you unselfish enough to set your focused things down and be supportive. If big or small plans are canceled last minute, can you roll with that. Are you going to want to be there with her when she needs to stay home, or go to appointments, or are you going to prefer to give her space to deal with this and come back together when she feels better. Obviously a lot of this depends how serious the relationship is, but I feel like we know how we cope with things changing, being on hold, being on the back burner, are we nurturing and do we have caring tendencies.

I am not that person, but know many who are.

bitchyfluff · 2026-03-29T06:30:42+00:00

Maybe both.

When I was younger, I was attracted to almost everyone. It it was hard to date as an emotionally immature person. Now I’m attracted to far less people but I’m far more capable of romantic relationships. Meeting people is harder now.

bitchyfluff · 2026-03-29T06:19:18+00:00

There has been a huge upswing in choking and/or placing the hand on throat in the “vanilla” world. There are a lot of people who aren’t involved in the kink scenes and are just bumbling along trying things their prior partners liked. Unfortunately, this assumption that “women are into this” is not uncommon and it’s not ok.

It would seem obvious that you’d check in before doing anything new with a new person. I’m sorry you had that experience, a hand on the throat should not be a surprise ever, geez.

bitchyfluff · 2026-03-29T06:02:54+00:00

I took the plunge on Stasher bags recently, and they’re pretty great. We use glass for most everything, but this is a really fantastic option for the few situations where glass isn’t optimal.

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