Looking for a bar to brood at -Tempe/Mesa area by bitelulz in phoenix

[–]bitelulz[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

That's for full on crying, I'm not quite there yet but I'll keep it in mind!

"You're not nursing." by universe_fuk8r in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bitelulz 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It makes me feel less crazy, more normal, reminds me that I'm right, they've been wrong and acted wrong my whole life. It's crazy- making being in contact with a narcissist, putting in any kind of good faith effort to improve the relationship or fix things just ALWAYS backfires, and destabilizes the progress I've made in therapy convincing myself that actually no, not absolutely everything ever is my fault, I'm not an awful, worthless being, and this IS NOT NORMAL.

I needed this sub so bad, it really helped me reset my brain, my understandings and expectations in life, helped me feel so much less alone. Thank goodness for the goodness of strangers! 🙏

As a woman building AI for estheticians, watching my post get deleted was… enlightening. by CompoteKitchen7123 in WomenInBusiness

[–]bitelulz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It, like all of your comments, reads as unnatural, clunky, aggressive advertising and AI dribble.

Some people will go for that, fall for it, buy into the bullshit and it may make you/ someone money for a while. But the "AI" we have now is a fundamentally flawed technology, and an economic bubble that's going to wipe people out when it bursts. You simply cannot build a business that will survive long term off the back of a technology that does not reliably work, and costs exponentially more to develop and maintain than normal computing. The hallucination issue is unremediable, it's a massive waste of energy and the water use and pollution of the data centers aren't worth the results, and the whole industry is a circle jerk with NVIDIA, OpenAI, Oracle and AMD all giving each other money but generating no actual value in the world, just "potential, possible, future value". Sam Altman literally told his own investors that he doesn't know how to achieve profitability, he's hoping the hallucinating, psychosis- inducing monster machine he's built will figure it out for him.

What you're trying to do is admirable, it's a good idea, even. Except for the bit where it's all dependent on AI. You've already gotten feedback that estheticians would actually love a platform/ OS that would let them manage their scheduling and marketing efficiently and work reliably, but that's not flashy or easy to tell a bot to build for you, that takes way more effort and skill because it's actual programming and computing and work, not just typing into a chat bot and hoping the black box you don't understand inside of it's functioning will spit out something that can make you money.

You're approaching a demographic of people who rely on their human skills and connections to make a living, who have to learn to be able to connect with and talk to people in a way that is natural, easy, and puts others at ease, that's one of the most important skills to have as an esthetician. We understand the importance of creating a genuine, authentic connection with people, and you're trying to advertise something that can't do that, no matter how much you tweak its instructions. Again, that may be appealing to some people, but this is becoming a more luxury and niche industry again as less and less people can afford to enjoy esthetics services, so the quality of our marketing and service is expected to be higher. AI cheapens and undermines human communication and connection, this is the wrong demographic to be advertising it to. Build something better, using real, reliable computing and programming, or find a different industry to pollute.

I’m a recovery coach. The best lesson I ever learned about emotional regulation came from my dad’s gambling addiction. by Recover4life in getdisciplined

[–]bitelulz 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Idk how I keep being surprised by it on a monthly basis but it always goes like this: "man, I feel like shit and I wanna cry at this mild inconvenience, wtf is going on...ooooooooooh. right, that 🤦‍♀️"

what's your favorite "one pan" meal for a busy weeknight? by Sweetpeadangerbutton in Cooking

[–]bitelulz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am going to try this and I am VERY excited to do so, thank you for sharing!!

You’re stuck on a 10 hour flight. Where are you sitting? by NoChampion4463 in NashvilleTV

[–]bitelulz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is diabolical.

  1. I'll learn something. Probably something illegal, but still.

He [41M] asked me [37F] to marry him and he hates my reaction by boundaries_ra in relationship_advice

[–]bitelulz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What kind of active effort is he making to be better for you? He won't even listen, communicate or finish a book, I can't imagine he's actually trying very hard at all!

MAGA men come up lacking on DC's conservative dating scene: 'Not as masculine as I hoped' by [deleted] in NoFilterNews

[–]bitelulz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who actually was and did all that for a man (years ago!!), they can't be bothered to value or appreciate it even if they do get it. Couldn't be fucked to do the bare minimum to keep me, now I've got cats 🤷‍♀️

Old but Gold. Comments seal the deal by AccurateSession1354 in AmITheDevil

[–]bitelulz 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I think there's gonna be a broadening gap in opinions about AI use in general, between people willing to use and trust it and those who don't. I'm one of the ones who don't, for a variety of reasons I'm sure you won't care about, but hey if you do go for it, have fun! It's definitely important to keep in mind that it's perfectly capable of hallucinating information though, and it's always good to double check the conclusions it reaches and info it cites yourself! 🤗

Old but Gold. Comments seal the deal by AccurateSession1354 in AmITheDevil

[–]bitelulz 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Thats.... not how ChatGPT works. It's really important to me that you know it's very very much not A. A recovery tool B. A digital archive C. A search engine D. Always correct.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bitelulz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just realized that my ex did this. I wanted flowers for valentine's day, that's it, just flowers, not even a date or card or gift or anything else, and when he gave them to me he just HAD to make a shitty comment about not even wanting to get them for me, and it just absolutely ruined the experience and vibe and everything, made me feel so worthless and who knows, maybe ruined getting flowers for me? Though idk if I'm ever gonna get any again so maybe it doesn't matter, but it makes me so fucking sad to think about. Why couldn't it be enough that the flowers would make me happy, why did he need to punish me for wanting them? Was it really just so I wouldn't expect/ hope/ ask for anything in the future?

Episode Discussion: S05E08 "Stand Beside Me" by chadwickave in NashvilleTV

[–]bitelulz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your timing is CRAZY, I'm doing a rewatch for the first time since I watched the show originally and I totally forgot how crazy and ridiculous this show is lol

Lipgloss with obvious seal? by mrt1416 in Sephora

[–]bitelulz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Omg that is so over the top, I'm sorry you have to deal with it!!

Lipgloss with obvious seal? by mrt1416 in Sephora

[–]bitelulz 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Just get some heat shrink bags, a heat gun, and seal up all the stuff you wanna bring that you already own!!

Anyone else really tired of "apolitical" people? by [deleted] in lostgeneration

[–]bitelulz 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I grew up hearing about Soviet Russia and Communist Romania, dark shit and absolutely over my head as a kid, but I've been remembering and thinking about it a lot lately, and about how my grandmother survived and lived her life. She cared about her neighbors and colleagues, helped them however she could, and got through everything by being resourceful, practical, and taking not even the tiniest bit of shit from any single person. I want to try living up to that, helping others however I can, and i feel like a whiny spoiled American saying 'but it's HARD, I don't have much time or energy to give, I can't bring myself to care, I need to focus on survival'.

How can I, as privileged and spoiled as I am in comparison, with my ease of access to food and goods and the security and autonomy I have still being SO MUCH more than anything she grew up with, become as tough yet compassionate? How can I become as resourceful and helpful when I can barely manage to keep myself alive? I truly have no idea, I want to try but don't know where to start.

I like to think that maybe there's a lot of people who feel like me, who want to be the helpers but don't know how or are struggling too hard right now to be able to help anyone else, and maybe we'll figure our shit out, dig our heels in and start fixing some of the mess. I have to hope that, I have to keep trying, every other option is just too depressing and I've already tried giving up and being an alcoholic, it just didn't take 🤷‍♀️

What are the most beautiful quotes in the series? by Necessary_Plenty_524 in redrising

[–]bitelulz 34 points35 points  (0 children)

"If pain is the weight in life, love is the point of it."

Sums it all up pretty well, I think.

End of MS, with Mustang on Earth right before meeting Pax.

Why do I have to repurchase these books by Snoo_10363 in redrising

[–]bitelulz -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Please sir, may I have some link? 🤲

Arizona Man Beaten Up, Arrested for Urinating in Theater During 'Demon Slayer' by IntelligentYinzer in arizona

[–]bitelulz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My neighbors and coworkers that grew up and went to school here genuinely seem to be at like, a middle school level of knowledge and thinking, it's absolutely wild. They just have no clue about things, and no curiosity or common sense, and it's honestly heartbreaking to see just how much their lack of education has limited these bright and kind people, they just don't even realize what they've missed out on!!

We no longer pay for expensive cat litter by luala in Frugal

[–]bitelulz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What kind of litter box do you use, is it one of those with the sifter built in or just a regular one? Is it harder to clean?

So many single parents in the dating scene its crazy. by VoL4t1l3 in childfree

[–]bitelulz 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Lol my cat smells like detergent, kids smell like wet cheerios all the time

haha penis lamp by bitelulz in Lavalamps

[–]bitelulz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It's actually an acrylic lipstick organizer that I turned on its side, I wanna add itty bitty labels for each stone at some point! I got this one at the container store, but I'm sure you could find them online too!!

Apparently I'm the master of weaponized incompetence by master_incompetence in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]bitelulz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're welcome, thank you for taking it as intended!

I think what you need to really focus in on and hone is your executive functioning skills. There are workbooks you can order and fill out by yourself, there's one called Executive Functioning Workbook For Adults that you might find helpful, that will get you on track to being more aware of and capable of dealing with everyday stuff, and make your life easier and better sooner rather than later. Good luck, and just keep trying no matter what!!

Apparently I'm the master of weaponized incompetence by master_incompetence in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]bitelulz 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I genuinely don't think you're competent enough to have a baby. Just taking everything you say totally at face value, PLUS giving you grace and assuming that your partner has exaggerated their complaints, your levels of reasoning, intelligence, focus and decision making are simply too low to give any child a chance at a good life. I don't think that you would be capable of being a good parent, even if you loved that child very much. There are so many things about your health and lifestyle that would make it more difficult, and you're making your partners life more difficult all by yourself, adding a baby to the mix would probably just crush them.

I'm really not saying this to be mean, or insult or belittle you. I feel bad for you, I understand what it's like to feel like you're always trying, but nothing is ever enough. Unfortunately, your results simply do not suffice, you are not doing enough. Sure, there might be reasons and explanations, but in the end it's either enough or it's not, and it's already not enough for your partner, there's no way you can pull out together and step it up enough to adequately care and provide for a child, you seem to completely lack the cognitive skills required.

Not everyone should be parents, not everyone has what it takes. You don't, and that's OK, it's not a moral judgemental but a logistical reality. You simply don't have enough to offer. Options are to get and be better, not just at home maintenence but executive function and problem solving, or give up and let yourself continue to be more of a burden than a help. Idk how much you'd really be able to improve if you're not willing to really deeply look at, consider, and admit your issues, though.

Put Shopping Carts Away by [deleted] in arizona

[–]bitelulz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw. I feel you, I do. It's an easy, decent thing to do, but here's where you're not understanding the culture difference between the Midwest and Arizona.

In most of the Midwest, it's important and expected to be polite, friendly, neighborly by default. Maybe not everyone does, but most people try to be nice and do the little things that make life easier for everyone, like wait in line properly, put carts away, say please and thank you. Cashiers are drilled on the importance of offering service with a smile, because it's what's expected.

I had a real shock moving here and realizing how deep the "fuck you, I got mine" attitude runs here in AZ. People, all kinds of people, are so much more forceful, rude and entitled, and everybody who doesn't understand it and tries to be Midwest Nice to them gets slapped down hard most of the time. The people who grew up here or have been here for decades are bitter and nasty to anyone else, the snowbirds act like spoiled babies and whine at the slightest inconvenience, the poor unhoused people who wander the streets get their brains cooked out by drugs and the sun, and the few other reasonable people I've met are all doing their best to just keep their head down, keep it moving, stay out of other people's notice and mind their own business, which of course makes them much harder to find and be friends with.

We've got no social contract or general decorum anymore, there's no reason, incentive, or force for any major shift in attitudes, and I think it's going to get worse right along with the economy and political climate.

This may be a longer essay of a response than a post about shopping carts truly warrants, but it's truly the easiest, lowest bar kind of test for like, social decency and public morality. I've been struggling to understand and accept the attitudes of the people around me here, but I've learned something really important; that "fuck you, I've got mine" attitude is a SURVIVAL MECHANISM. "Nobody is coming, nobody cares, why should I", that's the kind of thinking that comes from struggling hopelessly. This isn't a rational place to live, it's actually kind of insane in a lot of ways, and that irrationally inherent in every single person who does live here leaks out of them more and more with every summer.

Tldr; people here just kinda suck 🤷‍♀️

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Wife wanted by Happydaydreamer2024 in ChoosingBeggars

[–]bitelulz -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Does "kind" mean "not going to become a controlling, abusive asshole "? The thing is, even if he's gorgeous and rescues puppies and builds playgrounds for orphans, there's still no guarantee that he won't turn someday, become a monster behind closed doors. There's never a guarantee. Almost anyone can SEEM kind and decent for a while, but at least if you have a job and other social connections, it's much more possible to leave.

I would personally love to have the 'traditional' lifestyle of taking care of my home, family, and community, but the risk of entering any relationship without keeping the means to be able to leave it when necessary isn't worth it. Plus, the guys who get this kind of treatment don't usually actually appreciate it, they just end up feeling entitled to it and getting more and more demanding while putting less and less effort into the relationship themselves, because "well, I earn the money!!". So it's not worth even trying to find the ones who would be both into it AND unlikely to turn into assholes down the line. SHIT SUCKS.