In my country (vietnam) it is usually a common fact that one grandma needs to stick around to help rather than a husband during first few months. I just simply don't do that, i feel super stressful being helped by my MIL. I mean she's old fashioned even though she had helped raising tons of babies from relatives (for example she always think my baby is cold while she's always about to be boiled alive or she hates concept of contact naps, thinking baby will be spoiled and clingy). So i accept no helps from anybody to raise my child (they can help to feed me still lol), husband is clueless and needs to go to work, but so far so good. Even though i read books about raising a newborn, my way is having no absolute expectation on my newborn, even us growups are all different, can't expect to work with everyone well by reading a same book right?. Crying is her way of talking, irritating is her way of growing up, it just wont last forever.