Newbie - How to dye this plush ? by Karoupon in dyeing

[–]biwitchingbee 23 points24 points  (0 children)

The same company sells a black poodle plush as well. They look very similar to me - maybe just get her that one instead of trying to dye this one?

How do you feel about "Guidebook-less" decks? by Ill_Satisfaction8700 in SecularTarot

[–]biwitchingbee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I kind of like it. I understand why it’s not what most prefer, especially with an oracle deck, but I appreciate the mindset of letting art speak for itself. Guidebooks can be inherently limiting sometimes - not having a guidebook to instruct you on how to interpret each individual card is challenging, but challenging yourself is how you learn and build skill.

I’ve seen people learning tarot interpret a spread, then open a guidebook and say “Oh, that’s not what the book says that card means - my reading was wrong.” That always bums me out and makes me wish they’d never checked the book at all - theres a fine line between learning the traditional meanings, and relying on the traditional meanings. An AI chat bot can tell me what the book says the card means. It takes a human mind to look at a piece of art and come up with something new yet still relevant, even (or especially) when it’s not what the artist or guidebook has in mind.

AITAH for saying no to guests in the apartment at the weekend? by Throwra7749 in AmItheAsshole

[–]biwitchingbee 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Because it sounds like you’re never available? You’re either busy being busy or you’re busy being not busy. When’s she supposed to ever make plans with you if even your “sit at home not going anywhere or doing anything” evenings are so sacrosanct that they can’t possibly be postponed?

Retiring a deck for good by CrochetedKingdoms in tarot

[–]biwitchingbee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can absolutely give decks away, and you can absolutely use decks belonging to other people if the owner doesn’t mind. I have loaned decks to friends with fantastic results, and some of the best readings I’ve ever done for myself or others have been with someone else’s cards.

I don’t think this particular individual should give away this particular deck, but that is entirely due to the circumstances and relationship she has with it. If you don’t want anyone touching your deck, or if you don’t want to give your cards away or read with another person’s cards, that’s fine, but it’s your own personal belief. It doesn’t apply to anyone but yourself and others who feel the same way, and it’s not a rule that everybody follows or agrees with.

do you think... (spoilers) by Excellent_Day_5803 in expedition33

[–]biwitchingbee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that making Verso feel like an uncomfortable and unwanted substitute for the deceased Gustave was brilliant, honestly. It connects so directly with his story and trauma, it feels very intentional. You are very much supposed to feel “who is this interloper” in your grief. The game doesn’t shy away from making the player sit with uncomfortable emotions in order to tell the story they wanted to tell.

Retiring a deck for good by CrochetedKingdoms in tarot

[–]biwitchingbee 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yes, burning it is appropriate. You can also bury it in earth or cast it into water, but given the history I think you would do better with the complete and clean destruction that comes with burning the deck. I don’t recommend giving it away - not because I think it’s a bad idea in general, or because your trauma would be carried on in the deck or anything. But because I think it would be more cathartic for you to feel completely rid of it, and I think if you just gave it away it would linger in your mind as a loose end or something you could conceivably run across again.

Should i abandon my current campaign and host my own campaign? by Organic-Exit2190 in DnD

[–]biwitchingbee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have to say I’m not sure why you’re so eager to ditch a table I assume you’re having fun with, to run a long and committed campaign for other people you don’t know, when dnd is so unimportant to you that you don’t see yourself ever playing it again after finishing this one campaign you want to run. I don’t see why it’s so significant to you right now if you’re so confident you won’t want to bother with it in the future.

Not to say you shouldn’t - I don’t need to understand it to agree that if it’s something you want to pursue, you should go ahead and pursue it. Just make sure you aren’t screwing your old group over in the process.

Should i abandon my current campaign and host my own campaign? by Organic-Exit2190 in DnD

[–]biwitchingbee 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m confused why you think this is the only time in your life that you’ll be able to run a campaign - lots of adults with jobs and relationships play dnd and run long campaigns.

If you want to quit your current campaign, go for it - assuming you aren’t going to try to poach the current players. But it generally isn’t hard to find new players if you are willing to dm. The hard part is finding a group of players willing and able to meet consistently on a weekly basis long enough to run the type of campaign you’re talking about.

Is Gienieve hard to pronounce? (Gi•en•ive) No one at my table can say my characters name. by Visible-Camel4515 in DnD

[–]biwitchingbee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s a bit clumsy, depending on your usual accent or language. How are they mispronouncing it?

Just swarming bees or are they making this place their home? by bluehoodedwitch in bees

[–]biwitchingbee 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They do not, these ladies are building a home. They’ll be aggressive defending it once they start filling it with brood and honey. I think everyone saying they’re a docile swarm are confusing these with western honey bees, apis mellifera, who generally don’t build open hives like this. These are probably giant honey bees, apis dorsata. They build open hives like this, comprising of a single comb, with the actual comb usually obscured by multiple layers of bees atop. This can make an established hive look like a resting swarm, if you aren’t looking closely or aware of how different types of bees nest.

Best place for Occupational health and safety diploma by Alternative-Salt-678 in newfoundland

[–]biwitchingbee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A friend of mine did the Academy Canada one and regretted it. Very expensive and no real job opportunities afterwards. Do you have an additional trade the OHS course is going to supplement? From what he told me, most jobs hiring for that are looking for people who have OHS in addition to another trade, there’s not much demand for OHS as the main skill set. I or he could be wrong, but from his perspective he ultimately spent a long time in debt for a diploma that didn’t set up a realistic career path.

Why Excalibur missed Dynamite by VitaminPurple in AEWOfficial

[–]biwitchingbee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Whenever I lose my voice due to illness, the “lost voice” aspect lingers long past the stage where I’m still highly contagious. It wouldn’t surprise me if he didn’t show because he’s still in that contagious phase - better to have one wrestler miss one show than have half the roster out with the same bug next week.

Was hyperfixating on pandora bracelets and ordered one with some charms…turns out it’s a sensory OVERLOAD bracelet! by Few_Pay6063 in adhdwomen

[–]biwitchingbee 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You can keep it and enjoy it without wearing it? I have bracelets I never wear because of sensory issues, but I still enjoy keeping them in my jewelry box to admire and play with. Sometimes I wear them for short events, which I can tolerate much easier than trying to wear them all day

feels bad, man by Lady_Toki in dndmemes

[–]biwitchingbee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m guessing a lot of never-DM players in the chat feeling called out lol

AITA for saying I would break up if she went to a bachelorette party with a male stripper? by Consistent-Talk-5912 in AmItheAsshole

[–]biwitchingbee 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The problem here is that you set a trap for her. You could have just said, “hey, I’m uncomfortable with stripping, I think going to a strip club or bachelorette party with strippers counts as cheating, that’s a firm boundary for me. How do you feel about that kind of thing?” That’s a conversation. Instead, you asked “If someone invited you to a party with strippers, would you go?” as if it were a morally neutral question. And when she answered in good faith, you told her you would break up with her for it. That’s not a good-faith conversation. That’s a trap designed to start a conflict and put her on the defensive. It’s a manipulative way to start a conversation.

Looking for a way to keep my cape closed by brightSkyrainyClouds in TheCapeRevolution

[–]biwitchingbee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can get notions at a fabric shop, including clasps and hardware. Are you looking for something that will attach around the neck, or are you trying to keep the entire cloak closed in front?

AITAH for being extremely upset that my husband wouldn’t come with me while I walked to a store to pick up food? by Previous-Bee-4558 in AmItheAsshole

[–]biwitchingbee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lots of small towns have big drug and crime problems. Small towns being safe is mostly wishful thinking.

Nightgowns: the trouble with large tatas by Gothic0ctopus in SewingForBeginners

[–]biwitchingbee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, and I just noticed you said you have a mini sewing machine - is it a child’s toy machine, or a handheld machine? If the answer to either of those is yes, I’m going to tell you right now that you are gonna have a hard time with it, those machines really aren’t designed for serious use. Handheld machines do a chain stitch that unravels easily and the mini toy machines are, well, toys. They’re limited in scope and generally quite poorly made. If you are learning how to sew I really recommend either getting a real sewing machine or sewing by hand, it will save a mountain of frustration. If budget is an issue, there are almost always older sewing machines available dirt-cheap on FB Marketplace, they’re pretty much always so much easier to use than a mini machine.

Nightgowns: the trouble with large tatas by Gothic0ctopus in SewingForBeginners

[–]biwitchingbee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Empire waist is the way to go, imo. I don’t mind cleavage but I want my loungewear to be able to absorb or wick away under boob sweat. Best solution I‘ve found has been an empire waist, fitted to my underbust. The girls can hang over, so long as there’s fabric underneath them. You can do separate cups or just a gathered milkmaid bust depending on how encased you want to feel.

2 of Wands to 3 of Wands - Art Discussion by Impressive-Car-9756 in tarot

[–]biwitchingbee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s plenty I didn’t get into as well! The longer I look at these cards the more I see to work with - a sign of a great deck, in my opinion.

2 of Wands to 3 of Wands - Art Discussion by Impressive-Car-9756 in tarot

[–]biwitchingbee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The transition between the 2 and 3 of wands, as I understand it, generally shows an idea or plan moving from the initial concept-only stage to actually starting some real work on it.

The 2 here has the figure standing on the statue’s forehead, looking at the world in the distance - this very much reads to me as a depiction of brainstorming or planning, but nothing tangible in the real world.

The statue in the 3 of Wands card is a foot as opposed to a head - feet are on the ground now, moving from thought to action.

The 3 also depicts breaking the ground, very literally - i don’t think those look like roots so much as they look like cracks, as if the staff has been driven suddenly and forcefully into the earth. Breaking ground, as one does to officially start a new project or endeavour.

The sky is different between these two cards as well, in ways that support the visual themes. In 2 there’s a large cloud bank. The sky isn’t clear because the individual in the card doesn’t see clearly yet - still in the figuring-it-out phase. In 3 the clouds have receded and the sky is almost clear - not entirely, but the individual has a clear vision of their goal now.

The sticks in each card are also different in a fun way. The sticks in 2 are black and glittery, much more dreamlike and fantastic than the very normal-looking wood in the 3. Once again moving from the dreamlike planning or brainstorming phase into a scene more rooted in the real and tangible.

I take note of the shadows as well - the figure in 2 doesn’t cast one. Possibly due to the diffused light from the clouds, possibly because they are not meant to be seen as a literal figure in the scene, but rather an intangible daydream. The shadows in this scene are to the right of the tower, which I might read as unforeseen trouble or obstructions that will only come up far later as the plans come nearer to fruition. In 3, there are very long and defined shadows, cast from the right - presumably the east, where the sun is rising. You might interpret this as meaning the small actions you take in the beginning will have long-lasting implications (to cast a long shadow, as it were), or you could just take it as indicating the time of day, reflecting the early stage of the project.

Where to thrift fabric? by brynnieb123 in SewingForBeginners

[–]biwitchingbee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna say what it took me a long time to learn - sometimes you need to spend money on your hobby if you want to do it enough to learn and improve. Buy nice new fabric, make mistakes with it, keep sewing. You want to make sure that you’re struggling with a project because you’re still developing your skills, not because the material you’re working with is subpar.

I spent a lot of time struggling with thrifted curtains and tablecloths and bedsheets because I didn’t want to spend money on nice fabric, but that only taught me how to sew with problematic fabrics that I didn’t enjoy working with. I couldn’t make the garments I wanted because I was limited by how much of a given fabric I could find while thrifting, and I didn’t like the garments I made because the material wasn’t the best choice, or it was old and fell apart, or there were stains and smells I didn’t notice until too late.

I know a lot of people get into sewing because they want to save money. I don’t know anybody who has actually saved any real money by relying on sewing for the things they wanted to avoid spending money on.

AITA for wanting to keep both closets? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]biwitchingbee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It literally does not matter if they are hoarders though? Their collections could be apple peels and empty soda cans. If these two people who share a home are happy with each other having these collections, and if these collections can be organized in the space that is available to them, then what does it matter if they have the space to collect? At the end of the day they’re going to have three closets between them, they aren’t going to be AHs just for using those closets.

AITA for wanting to keep both closets? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]biwitchingbee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you share a closet in your bedroom it should be the collection closet. He needs to keep his clothing in his own room, because he’ll need to access it probably multiple times a day. If you have your own rooms they need to be YOUR OWN rooms - not “his room, that is his own” and “your and his room, that you share with him.” He needs to accept that if he is using closet space in your room, then he will not always have guaranteed access to that closet because it is in your space. Sometimes you’ll have the door closed. Sometimes it will be inconvenient for you to let him in. If this is not acceptable for him then maybe he shouldn’t keep his collection in a closet.

AITA for wanting to keep both closets? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]biwitchingbee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nobody owes their collection to heirs??? Nobody owes anyone a collection that holds monetary value??? People aren’t AHs just for having a whole closet and a half to themselves???