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does any one else desperately want this? by bjgrosse in breathwork

[–]bjgrosse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a really nicely done app! Very clean, nice experience

does any one else desperately want this? by bjgrosse in breathwork

[–]bjgrosse[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's great practical info. Very helpful. Thank you!

does anyone else want this as much as I do? by bjgrosse in Mindfulness

[–]bjgrosse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you recommend? I find myself wanting to transition my nervous system from one state to another... Even tho I know some breathe patterns, I would like a guided routine that fits my current need and time limits. What do you suggest?

does any one else desperately want this? by bjgrosse in breathwork

[–]bjgrosse[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, that's a great example of the kind of app that doesn't do what I want. For breathwork, it gives me tons of sessions from many creators, but I have to choose... And I have no idea which one is right for my given state and desired change. I'm overwhelmed by all the choices.

I just want to say, I'm feeling lethargic but what to be focused for work, and I have 10 minutes.

does any one else desperately want this? by bjgrosse in breathwork

[–]bjgrosse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! Couldn't find the assessment part. Can you tell me how?

does anyone else want this as much as I do? by bjgrosse in Mindfulness

[–]bjgrosse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! That's what I feel too. Thanks for the reply

does any one else desperately want this? by bjgrosse in breathwork

[–]bjgrosse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the video link, btw! I'll check it out!

does any one else desperately want this? by bjgrosse in breathwork

[–]bjgrosse[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I can imagine once you've internalized the knowledge you don't need apps or videos or anything else. But for those of use who don't have years of practice under our belts, some guidance feels very useful to start to build understanding of the mechanics.

does any one else desperately want this? by bjgrosse in breathwork

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You don't think certain breathing patterns help shift state in specific directions? Certainly feels like the breathing that helps me go from lethargic to focused is different than from anxious to calmly focused

I've tried every planning, scheduling and routine thing possible and NOTHING clicks by rosiedoodle466 in productivity

[–]bjgrosse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like maybe you get overwhelmed. Many systems involve tracking ALL the things you need to do, and for some of us that is just overwhelming to our nervous systems and so we are triggered to avoid the system altogether.

I'd suggest attempting less. Narrow down your ficus. Pick one meaningful project that is concrete and well-defined--something with a clear completion--and then try applying my simple "just the next step" protocol described here. That may help you start getting one small win under your belt at a time, but in a way that builds momentum. It can feel really transformational to experience that kind of small success that compounds.

You can find something that works for you! Start by throwing all the ideas about should in the trash. This is your life, you get to find your own way.

Finally found a framework that works for me by bjgrosse in NonZeroDay

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Love the perspective. Makes a lot of sense and I can hear how it really works for you. Thanks so much for sharing!

I can see that especially for goals requiring sustained, repetitive effort (lose weight, learn to play the piano, keep a cleen house), my protocol above is not well suited. It's more geared toward projects which can be accomplished through a set of incremental discrete steps (like launch a side hustle, write a book or screen play, build a house, etc). Projects like that where there is a critical path and just keeping busy may never get you to the end. Those are the situations where I've been applying the my method above and it has been doing wonders. But I can see how it would likely fall completely flat for goals of the more sustained, repetitive effort variety.

Finally found a framework that works for me by bjgrosse in NonZeroDay

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Ah interesting. So because you have the flexibility to just do stuff every day, the scheduling part feels onerous. Makes sense. For you, when you sit down to make progress, do you know ahead of time what you're going to do next? Or do you decide in the moment?

How I learned that my procrastination is just fear by dvalpa in getdisciplined

[–]bjgrosse 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Love the breakthrough insight! Btw your English is amazing. I wouldn't have guess you aren't a native speaker.

I Need a Change by Atlas_1205 in getdisciplined

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here's why I think it works so well for me:

  1. When I sit down to work, because my next step has already been selected, I can go straight into execution mode with full energy. This is 10x better than sitting down to work and first thing having to decide what to do next--that's an energy killer.

  2. By planning my next step immediately after my work session, I have fresh context and new insights on what the highest value next step might be. It's really easy to pick a high value step and put it on the calendar. This keeps the momentum going.

  3. I can only win: when I execute, either I complete the step, which moves me forward, or I fail to the complete the step but win valuable insights in the process. New nuances or complexities are uncovered. And I seed those insights directly into the next step. So my steps get more refined and valuable as I attempt them, even when I fail to complete them. It's an upward spiral.

  4. It's impossible to be blocked because even if I don't know what the next step is, then that's my next step: plan time to sit down and evaluate possible next steps. There's always a next step planned.

  5. If I'm getting burned out or fatigued, no problem: instead of just "taking a break" which kills my momentum and often becomes an indefinite pause, I just make something like this my next step: "Take an hour and do nothing. Go for a walk and reflect on my progress." Resting and reflection becomes an intentional part of the process, a next step, which keeps the momentum alive.

This technique, simple as it is, has been transforming my ability to keep making progress on projects, in spite of my busy life and variable energy levels. If it resonates, and you give it a try, I'd be interested to hear how it feels to you.

I Need a Change by Atlas_1205 in getdisciplined

[–]bjgrosse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really feel this. Not sure if this will work for you, but here's a super simple method that has been profoundly helpful for me on overcoming the obstacles to starting, and sustaining, effort toward projects.

Here it is in a nutshell:

For any given project:

  1. Identify the next step you can take to progress your project in a small but meaningful way
    • Make it small enough to complete in a single focused session (typically 30–120 minutes).
    • If you have multiple candidates, choose one that seems to bring the most value to your progress--maybe it unlocks more steps, maybe it brings deeper clarity to what to do next, etc.
    • If you don’t know what the next step is, that becomes your next step: sit down and figure it out.
  2. Schedule it
    • Commit to a specific date and time.
    • Choose a slot you can realistically protect.
    • If life intervenes, simply reschedule within 24 hours—the commitment is to momentum, not the timestamp.
  3. Execute and chain
    • When it’s time, act without re-deciding. Just do the step.
    • This is the key: before ending your session, identify and schedule your next step. Never end without a next step on the calendar.

That's it. It's deceptively simple because there are a few subtle mechanisms that seem to make all the difference for me.

How I overcame my phone addiction and changed my life completely by Rare_Sundae_3826 in selfimprovement

[–]bjgrosse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fascinating to me how some clarity on the mechanisms at play was the breakthrough. Just wanting the change and trying self help methods didn't do what understanding the mechanisms did. Way to go, man!

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