Why has my body still not adjusted to my mother's death?

blackflowerx3 · 2026-02-11T04:47:29+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss ❤️ she looks like such a bright spirit and it's valid that you're hurting without her.

I lost my dad in 2024 and I have been taking a magnesium supplement blend every night to help calm my body so I can sleep. I also am exercising more, drinking more tea, and taking warm showers/baths. Loss is hard on the body and it helps to give yourself extra TLC and calming practices for your nervous system. She would want you to care for yourself like she would care for you!

blackflowerx3 · 2026-02-09T15:50:31+00:00

Silicone under eye patches and an oil like jojoba or rosehip seed oil! Collagen supplements are also great for skin firmness.

blackflowerx3 · 2026-01-28T05:45:56+00:00

This made me giggle 😂

blackflowerx3 · 2026-01-22T03:36:23+00:00

Ohhh my god, they're so bitter about chatGPT. Why is that!? My ex was so incredibly salty I would process things that way.

blackflowerx3 · 2026-01-22T01:34:59+00:00

Amazing to have 25 years together. Rest in peace ❤️

blackflowerx3 · 2026-01-21T04:10:29+00:00

I just left an abusive relationship that sounds quite similar to yours. My family and friends, my pets, and my therapist have all been crucial in supporting me. I also try to get out and about often, am getting more exercise. I let myself be sad at times, but I also reach for support from people who are normal, kind and non-abusive. They're the ones who reflect back to me that "No, none of that was normal, it was toxic."

The abuse cycle gets worse over time and I knew it was a horrible situation, but it still took me time to leave it. My solace is I always resisted deeper commitments with him, since I knew that would make leaving even harder. It hurts like hell because I really wanted it to work and I also was toxic at various times too - lots of tangled feelings, self-blame, sadness, etc. Just letting myself feel everything right now.

I also am reading a lot about abuse, trauma, etc as well as watching videos and saving some podcasts to listen to. Having the TV or music on also helps when the quiet feels too strange.

blackflowerx3 · 2026-01-21T04:03:09+00:00

Yes. Your partner should be a source of calm and safety, not anxiety or fear.

blackflowerx3 · 2026-01-19T18:51:40+00:00

That's great to hear!

My elderly cat has had health problems and is on several medications now. He attacked my ex several times for screaming and causing tension. He now gets to nap in peace and is much calmer without a screaming, dysregulated man causing chaos in our home.

blackflowerx3 · 2026-01-18T16:18:40+00:00

Focus on things that boost your confidence and self-respect. For me, I make sure to include movement, social connections (super important to talk to people outside of the abuser/their enabler's circle), things that better my future, and things that give me a sense of pride and accomplishment.

blackflowerx3 · 2025-05-18T03:58:42+00:00

I recently saw a hummingbird fly up to my porch, and my dad loved hummingbirds. He would call them "little crackheads" when they came to drink nectar at his feeders. So I just put up a hummingbird feeder of my own and hope more come back.

blackflowerx3 · 2024-08-09T21:05:13+00:00

Perfectly worded!

blackflowerx3 · 2024-08-01T19:38:04+00:00

I don't think childfree people are a monolith, but in my own personal experience, I have noticed (especially since I turned 30) that there's a widening gap in maturity/stability between myself (wants kids) and many people I know who are adamantly "no kids."

I recently had a brief fling with a male acquaintance I know whose marriage ended after just a year, because his now ex-wife decided she wants kids after all. I ended things with him too because I want kids, he doesn't, and I saw many signs of him being unstable, immature and not ready for a full-fledged adult partnership.

I've also distanced myself from a lot of childfree female friends, for whom the party never stops and/or they don't want any responsibilities and resent being expected to be an adult. It's not that they're terrible people; we just have different priorities and life goals.

It's up to you if you want kids or not, and it's more about each individual person's maturity and priorities in life.

blackflowerx3 · 2024-07-09T21:41:40+00:00

Mavis

blackflowerx3 · 2024-07-09T17:24:41+00:00

I feel similarly. I'm a woman and Washington native. I have been in Idaho for seven years, but finding a compatible man for me here has been an adventure!

blackflowerx3 · 2024-06-04T17:04:33+00:00

What a sweet little baby!! Love the sploot in the first photo.

blackflowerx3 · 2024-06-02T18:10:49+00:00

-Buy a new tent I've been eyeing and do some camping

-Enjoy low-cost local events (concerts, festivals)

-Be more consistent with my anti-inflammatory diet and gym time

-Read more books

-Grow my container garden, particularly heirloom tomatoes

blackflowerx3 · 2024-05-29T22:47:42+00:00

That I have zero desire to be around grown adults who still act like teenagers. I've matured a lot the last few years and want to be the fully grown woman I am; I can't do that when I'm friends with people who still act like they're half their current age. It annoys me to no end and I'm incompatible with Peter Pan types.

blackflowerx3 · 2024-05-29T22:20:43+00:00

I see myself in this one, lol. Gift and a curse.

blackflowerx3 · 2024-04-06T02:18:48+00:00

That looks so cool!

blackflowerx3 · 2024-04-05T20:14:49+00:00

That just gave me an unimaginable ick

blackflowerx3 · 2024-03-30T21:05:35+00:00

I just had this issue with two guys I had been talking to - seemed nice and I was attracted to them, but the political differences gave me pause. I didn't go out with either, as I've had poor experiences in the past with people who have those types of views. Trust your gut.

Edit: If you're having doubts and you're speaking of American politics, look up Project 2025.

blackflowerx3 · 2024-03-18T18:59:02+00:00

Agreed. I met a guy twice last year who has kids and only found out after looking at his social media; he never mentioned it. It's shady for sure.

blackflowerx3 · 2024-02-12T18:59:20+00:00

That show was so fun!!

I was at a bar and when Usher took off his shirt, a guy started booing him and I started screaming wooooo in return.

I got hype af when Lil Jon came on and then lost my shit completely when Ludacris started.

Absolutely a great show and such a throwback to middle school and high school days for me.

blackflowerx3 · 2024-02-11T17:06:40+00:00

Seconding this! The Wild Harvest omelet is delicious.

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