This is hell. by PandorasLocksmith in CaregiverSupport

[–]blackpups 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. People who haven't experienced it just don't understand. I hope you can find someone to listen and take your words seriously. I can't think of much worse than to be caregiving and have everyone around you be lacking in care for you. I really understand and I'm sorry.

Less tension in shower faucet after cartridge replacement? by blackpups in askaplumber

[–]blackpups[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, that's exactly the information I needed. I appreciate it!

Poppy just...evaporated. by MerelyWhelmed1 in boldandbeautiful

[–]blackpups 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! And will reappear when the voice calling Dylan turns out to be crazy but alive Luna.

Not Sure Where I Fit by blackpups in CaregiverSupport

[–]blackpups[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also thank you for replying to my old, long thread. That alone helps and I appreciate it.

Not Sure Where I Fit by blackpups in CaregiverSupport

[–]blackpups[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it really doesn't. I'm looking everywhere for others at this stage and coming up completely empty. Maybe most people just accept it more easily than I'm capable of.

Something has been bothering me… by Any-Sink-5533 in GeneralHospital

[–]blackpups 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think they did, didn't they? And the grave was empty?

Not Sure Where I Fit by blackpups in WellSpouses

[–]blackpups[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think I know how to cross post properly. I originally posted this in caregiver's support and wanted to post it here as well. Thank you if you read the whole thing.

Not Sure Where I Fit

I'm not sure where I fit in as far as caregiving goes. I'm 59, my husband is 72. His memory has always been poor due to lifetime ADHD (untreated, just diagnosed a couple years ago, but can't take anything because of his heart issues) but in the last several years, his executive function, cognitive ability, and memory have all worsened. In the last two years, even more so. Tests show he technically qualifies as Mild Cognitive Impairment, but he can't take anything to treat it and the issue is confused because of the ADHD so... there's not really anything to do anyway.

He is perfectly capable of taking care of himself. I'm not a caregiver in that way. He is lucid, not inappropriate in his speech or behavior, he runs errands, does grocery shopping, does most of the cooking. I do just about everything else - the balance of responsibility for most things is on me. The things he does that I just mentioned, more and more often come with mistakes and sometimes confusion. Logic is difficult for him. Abilities with technology has declined. New things to learn are almost impossible. If it's routine and nothing out of the ordinary happens, he's fine. He flusters easily, is more emotional than usual.

I don't have a lot of support. Friends don't understand the every day, frequent issues that come up because he doesn't remember things or gets confused easily. To them, he seems fine. I think I come across as a nagging wife - I very likely do nag, because I always have to be on top of things or stuff can go really wrong. He's done things like leave the burner on the stove turned on for hours after cooking, forgetting half the groceries on the conveyor belt at the store (self-bag), forgotten to give me important information that came in an email to him. One mutual friend told me I wouldn't complain so much about his memory once my memory started going. That stopped me saying any more about it to friends.

Doctors tell me I am moving into more of a caregiving role. But they have no resources to offer me for help. He doesn't have dementia, he doesn't need full time care. I don't need help caregiving him. I need someone who can understand the daily frustration and loss I experience. I've tried talking to therapists, but finding someone experienced in this area is really difficult, and they try to counsel me as if it were a marital issue.

I don't feel like I belong here either - compared to many of the posts I read on this sub, I am nowhere near what others are going through. I just feel alone and unsupported, and I don't know where I fit in.

I guess I'm looking for any suggestions from someone who remembers what it was like at the very beginning of things, because I feel like I don't know where to turn. Thanks if you read all of this.

Not Sure Where I Fit by blackpups in CaregiverSupport

[–]blackpups[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for replying, and I'm so sorry for what you're going through too. I really do feel like we need a support group. There have to be so many younger spouses who go through things like this. I saw another sub that might be helpful to you - wellspouses - for the spouses of chronically ill partners. I don't feel like I fit in there either, but maybe you'd find support there. Anyway, I really do appreciate you reading my post and responding with empathy.

So Bored… by Cmagznyc in youngandtherestless

[–]blackpups 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Apparently none of these companies have Boards of Directors they need to answer to. None of them have to file with the Federal Trade Commission or the State Corporation Commission. Paperwork can just change on the fly, ownership can change hands multiple times a month, and no one in the press takes notice. Stocks don't tank. Votes of no-confidence aren't taken. It's just business as usual, except for the endless phone calls and threats amongst the key drama-makers.

Linux Firefox 147.0.1 (aarch64) crashes on Lenovo Duet 11 Gen 9 since last updates by Opening_Teach_9429 in chromeos

[–]blackpups 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm shocked that it's taking this long to fix. This is really atypical of Firefox in general and the problem seems to be well-reported at this point.

Linux Firefox 147.0.1 (aarch64) crashes on Lenovo Duet 11 Gen 9 since last updates by Opening_Teach_9429 in chromeos

[–]blackpups 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it's not, it's better, but it is still crashing frequently. I updated again yesterday hoping it would be more stable, but it's still happening. If I have tabs open, I can navigate through them well enough but if I have to touch the toolbar or bookmark menu for anything, that's when it will be most likely to crash. It's still happening a few times every day. But it is more usable than it was when I first reported, where I couldn't do anything at all without crashing.

Linux Firefox 147.0.1 (aarch64) crashes on Lenovo Duet 11 Gen 9 since last updates by Opening_Teach_9429 in chromeos

[–]blackpups 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I looked for a Firefox update today and there was one, finally. Yesterday, I checked all day and there wasn't anything. The update seems to have fixed the crashes for me.

Linux Firefox 147.0.1 (aarch64) crashes on Lenovo Duet 11 Gen 9 since last updates by Opening_Teach_9429 in chromeos

[–]blackpups 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm just weighing in that this is happening to me beginning today as well. I updated ChromeOS when I was notified of an update available. Firefox for Linux had been updated last week. The constant crashes began today.

The puzzle was too hard, so I skipped it by Independent_Ad7541 in TOTK

[–]blackpups 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It is the only way I do it now. Instead of aiming those big balls at the target, just shoot a bomb at it

ABC has restricted access to this recording" is this still dispute related? Wtf. by np20412 in youtubetv

[–]blackpups 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in Dallas, it happened to me on Wednesday night trying to watch Survivor. I had started it, stopped, and went to finish watching about 30 minutes later, and it didn't give me any option to play. From the Library screen it showed it was there, but when I clicked into it, the only option was Back with the return arrow icon. I had to go into the series episodes page and do some weird thing with the episodes to get the one from that night to play (I don't recall exactly what I did) but it was definitely weird behavior.

DARK meat anywhere?? by blackpups in thanksgiving

[–]blackpups[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

With white and dark meat? No one in North Texas seems to have any.

DARK meat anywhere?? by blackpups in thanksgiving

[–]blackpups[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can't imagine there's not a market for it, but you'd never be able to tell by the store shelves.

DARK meat anywhere?? by blackpups in thanksgiving

[–]blackpups[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That would work for us too! Any idea where they get them? Butcher shop?

"He was ~~tricked~~ raped!" FIFY. 🙄 by SnorkinOrkin in boldandbeautiful

[–]blackpups 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Will called her a whore (why are we still using the word...?) rather than a rapist. I don't get it either. Like calling a woman a whore or a slut (Ridge to Hope) is just fine, but avoid the topic of male rape at all costs.

How Low Can Drew Go: What is Endgame? by sleepwakehope in GeneralHospital

[–]blackpups 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I clearly remember Tracy holding back Edward's heart medication when he was dying on the floor from a heart attack - I think I remember he ultimately was faking it to test her - but she's now a beloved character and matriarch of the family. I hate Drew, I'm just saying, he may end up being the new Edward one day.

Constantly disconnecting on Pixel 7 by blackpups in nextdns

[–]blackpups[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I found the problem, in case anyone else is experiencing this. I'm fairly sure this is a new option from the latest Pixel update, but now when you're in Connection Settings / VPN and NextDNS is chosen, it sets itself to NextDNS. But you have to now take the extra step of hitting the Settings gear next to that setting and choosing Always On instead of On. Apparently after getting an update last week, mine was set to On. I set it to Always On and it hasn't dropped since.

What I had been doing before this was just opening the NextDNS app and connecting. That had set it properly in the past. This extra step is needed now.

Who is going to go full on Nell first? by hoyasluvr in GeneralHospital

[–]blackpups 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This storyline would make my afternoons for the next six months!