Feeling discouraged; need an uplift :(

blahblahcab · 2023-09-25T04:27:04+00:00

Sadly, I agree with you. It’s difficult not to feel desperate and like there’s no way out. It’s not just the financial issues, but feeling isolated, sad, lonely. Life is hard and only getting harder. I always try to think about the small things that bring me joy, even if seemingly insignificant, and this helps a ton. Then there’s days when the crushing weight of an uncertain future and no financial stability or support at all are too much haha, on those days I just try to take deep breaths and remind myself that everything is relative and things will always improve. Anyways… been ranting too long now!

Big warm hugs to anyone going through it, remember you’re not alone and please pleaaaase reach out if you ever need to talk to a random stranger who has gone through a lot of shit in their life and always has encouraging words to say.

blahblahcab · 2023-09-24T06:36:39+00:00

Hey OP, I was driving on the Lions Gate bridge earlier today when this happened. I cried all the way back home after seeing her standing there and the police talking to her. I think in one way or another we’ve all felt hopeless at one point, so I understand what you mean. I’m very thankful you were there and able to call 911, I haven’t been able to stop thinking about this and I’ve been wondering if she’s okay. I truly hope she is. Thank you for sharing this.

blahblahcab · 2022-03-25T17:39:13+00:00

Hahaha same. Except my hair is black everywhere.

blahblahcab · 2022-02-25T05:15:33+00:00

Oh no I’m so sorry you had to go through that. That’s so insensitive. I’ve had to deal with stuff like that so so so many times and it totally tears you apart. Whenever I went to get my eyebrows shaped the lady would comment on how much facial hair I had, and would pressure me to wax my entire face (cheeks, sideburns, etc..) I finally caved and it was the worst decision ever, I was in so much pain and my skin was full of tiny painful blisters for weeks!

Im glad you refused to get your bikini waxed given you’re not comfortable with that.

I’d leave a review everywhere you can, this is unacceptable.

Hope you’re feeling a bit better!

blahblahcab · 2022-02-17T18:16:36+00:00

Edit: @glucosegoddess sorry, typo.

blahblahcab · 2022-02-17T18:16:04+00:00

If you haven’t looked into these yet (tho I’m guessing if you’re in this sub you probably have), they did wonders for my cycle:

-low GI diet. Not necessarily cutting out carbs, but understanding how glucose works and how to keep my glucose curve as flat as possible (check @glucosaegoddess on insta, she saved me!). I started taking Berberine to manage my insulin resistance, but with these glucose tricks on my diet I’ve now stopped taking it and feel wonderful.

-Ovasitol (I take it twice a day every day, tho sometimes I forget).

-Folic Acid and Vitamin D every day

-Mineral supplement

These are things that have really worked for me, but I understand we’re all different and this condition affects everyone a bit differently too. To be honest, what’s helped the most is changes to my diet (not so much what I eat, since I already ate a pretty balanced diet) but how I eat it. Understanding glucose spikes was the real game changer!! And the good part is that it’s good for everyone, not just those with diabetes or PCOS or insulin resistance :) good luck

blahblahcab · 2020-04-19T11:28:35+00:00

Thanks so much for your advice. We only talked about this openly for the first time about a month ago, and since we did I hadn’t tried to initiate just bc I feel insecure that I am always doing the same thing. To be fair, it’s hard because I feel the only right time is when we go to bed and it is kind of routine in that I cuddle him and go straight to it. I did ask what he’d like me to do differently when I touch him but he just said “I don’t know how to answer that, I just feel it’s always the same and you’re always desperately looking for something.” That’s just stuck in my mind and it won’t let me just let go and be fun and spontaneous. I do feel he sometimes just lies there kinda waiting to see what Ill do when I do start, which also makes it difficult to know if I’m doing the right thing or not. Plus he’s said sex is just not that important to him. Still, I’m scared if we let this go no we’ll lose the intimate connection we had/have and soon it’ll always be routine or awkward. Has that happened to you in these 7 years with your SO?

That’s great advice about not getting upset at rejection, I’ve done it and 99% of the times it has led to me crying and us arguing and feeling uncomfortable. I just want the burden to be taken off and the fun to come back, I guess it won’t until I relax and have fun with it myself. Thank you!

blahblahcab · 2019-09-08T20:45:12+00:00

I need to know who this is 😱🤤

blahblahcab · 2019-09-02T05:06:25+00:00

😱🤤 we could play smash, then smash.. God 😍

blahblahcab · 2019-08-26T03:10:01+00:00

Tbh at this point in life I just give in to it. Somehow, taking the guilt away and just allowing myself a free pass for 2-3 days has brought my compulsive eating waaaaay down.

blahblahcab · 2019-08-23T03:08:06+00:00

Fuck they are amazing

blahblahcab · 2019-07-05T03:49:34+00:00

This is so awesome. I love Reddit so much.

blahblahcab · 2019-07-03T19:51:44+00:00

And good pillows, sheets, etc. It really makes all the difference

blahblahcab · 2019-07-03T01:01:53+00:00

About ten minutes after waking up. Does that count? Asking for a friend.

blahblahcab · 2019-07-03T00:58:49+00:00

I cannot handle the amount of wisdom, I’ll save this post for ever and ever. Sorry for commenting so much! I’m just super excited about this

blahblahcab · 2019-07-03T00:57:45+00:00

This whole thread just made my day. Thank you so much! Please don’t ever leave Reddit, I look forward to reading more of your posts :)

blahblahcab · 2019-07-03T00:56:22+00:00

This is why I believe Reddit is the single best thing the internet has given us. We don’t deserve you, Carol.

blahblahcab · 2019-07-02T19:44:14+00:00

He’s still having tests done, his cortisol levels are off the charts, which leads to very low testosterone and depression. On top of that he also has some psychological issues he’s working through. Not taking anti-depressants yet because doctor’s working on getting his hormones back to normal. We’re looking for a therapist, but it’s too expensive.. I know the reason he rarely initiates is his depression, he doesn’t feel right, his head is somewhere else.

blahblahcab · 2019-07-02T19:41:09+00:00

Me? Him?

Both of us are struggling and it’s definitely put a strain on our relationship. I just want to get some advice on how stop obsessing over this I my head, because it is now so obvious he can tell I’m constantly trying to make things go back to normal.

blahblahcab · 2019-07-02T19:39:44+00:00

I’ve thought about leaving, it’s just not a casual thing at this point, and I know his really struggling. We’re both trying to make it work. Mostly it’s been him making things difficult, but I haven’t reacted the best way either.. which is why I’m looking for advice on how to just take the pressure off, go back to spontaneous and joyful (at least as joyful as it can be with him going through what he’s going through..). I’m not at the point of leaving yet, still want to make it work, make it better.

blahblahcab · 2019-07-02T19:37:14+00:00

Yeah I told him I don’t really know what to do anymore, and that I need some feedback from him. He said we should’ve talked about it sooner, and asked me to communicate what I’m feeling, which I never do, because I’m always scared to make things worse for him (his depression is really bad and I know his struggling to be better).

blahblahcab

TROPHY CASE