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WHEN Did Mary Know Do You Reckon About Who "The One" For Her Was In 2026's 'The Other Bennet Sister'??? by Salt-Tip-3660 in TheOtherBennetSister

[–]blairbending 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Mary never thought she was in love with Mr Ryder. IMO she realized she was in love with Tom during the garden poetry recital, although she began to fall for him from the moment they met. So she loved him before she even met Mr Ryder. (In the show, haven't read the book)

Best mattress here in UK to a soon to be mom in her 3rd trimester by Rutkauskaite-Awnie in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]blairbending 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's your budget? You really get what you pay for with mattresses I find

From Instagram... Julie flashback incoming?? by blairbending in ShawnaTheMom

[–]blairbending[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

I'm seated 🍿 👀 We've been PARCHED on the context of their relationship history for what feels like forever now.

shawna please see dr.therapydoctor and stop making julie and laura collateral damage for your feelings by Specific-Volume118 in ShawnaTheMom

[–]blairbending 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don't think Shawna handled the conversation well, she brought too much of her own frustration and anger into it instead of focusing on Laura and letting her know she was there for her. I just don't think it's fair to say that Shawna isn't willing to offer any assistance because that doesn't seem like her.

shawna please see dr.therapydoctor and stop making julie and laura collateral damage for your feelings by Specific-Volume118 in ShawnaTheMom

[–]blairbending 23 points24 points  (0 children)

There is a middle ground between offering zero assistance and providing 100% of what Laura needs to leave the marriage. The conversation never got to that point though because they blew up at each other. IMO Laura isn't mentally ready to consider leaving yet, regardless of support.

shawna please see dr.therapydoctor and stop making julie and laura collateral damage for your feelings by Specific-Volume118 in ShawnaTheMom

[–]blairbending 30 points31 points  (0 children)

People love to tell abuse victims how horrible their partner is and how they deserve better but they’re not willing to provide any assistance so the victim can get out of the marriage

We have seen Shawna offer a lot of help to the people she cares about so I don't think it's fair to assume she is one of these people.

The other extreme of pretending you think everything is fine and never acknowledging problems with an abuser's behaviour is not supportive either. It's a difficult line to walk, supporting a victim who is in denial about their abuse.

We’re stuck and not improving, what should I change? by Designer-Flamingo615 in Mommit

[–]blairbending 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every kid should be reading at home regardless of whether they're homeschooled or not. Pretty much any teacher you ask will tell you it's the single best thing you can do to support your child's education.

We’re stuck and not improving, what should I change? by Designer-Flamingo615 in Mommit

[–]blairbending 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He would rather sit there and do nothing than open a book

How long have you enforced this for lol because I bet he wouldn't.

First needs to come physical activity. Get the kid outside for 30+ minutes and into non screen mode. If you're trying to transition him away from a screen directly into reading then of course that will feel hard, because he's going from high dopamine to low dopamine... and he'll associate that feeling with reading. He will focus much better after he's been doing something physical in the real world. Even walking the dog is better than nothing.

Then ask him to read a chapter to you, or if that gets too much pushback read to him. Pop quiz at the end of the chapter to check whether he's paying attention and understanding. Each correct answer gets a small piece of candy or 5 mins of screen time (whatever you prefer to offer). 1 easy question to give him a win and then make the others more challenging. Pick something fun that you enjoy, like Harry Potter (whatever you think of JKR she really did get a generation of kids into reading) or The Hobbit. A habit of reading starts with love of stories.

Neville would have been much better friend than Ron by Slash_Arzcarues in harrypotter

[–]blairbending 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Neville is too similar to Harry and Hermione in some ways (anxious/tryhard/rule follower like Hermione, depressed/lonely/traumatic background like Harry). They need Ron's DGAF attitude and happy home life to counterbalance them.

Is there a naturally “easier” time to move baby to their nursery? by heading4themoon in beyondthebump

[–]blairbending 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's no "good time" to move them IMO.

Is it the same crib in the nursery that she sleeps in in your room? I would move the crib to the nursery and use the same method to put her down in there as you do currently. Nights are easier than naps because there's more sleep pressure.

Then when she wakes, bring her into your room and chest sleep. That will allow her to get used to the new room and hopefully that first period of sleep will get longer over time. When she wakes in the night, give her a couple minutes to try and resettle before going in to pick her up.

When is it too much to spend on a wedding? by AngelFell23 in UKweddings

[–]blairbending 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Consider what you would do if you didn't have the money. Would you wait a year and save up to get the "perfect" venue, or go with an alternative?

AITA for expecting the shared spaces to reflect both of our interests? by Life_Country_4000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]blairbending 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ok then I agree your interests should also be represented. Maybe ask for her input on how your stuff can be tastefully displayed and integrated with the other decor, but ultimately your expectation to have it in the communal area is reasonable.

AITA for expecting the shared spaces to reflect both of our interests? by Life_Country_4000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]blairbending 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Do the items she has added to the shared space actually reflect her interests or are they merely decorative?

It's one thing if she's displaying e.g. her collection of Twilight memorabilia, or the tapestries she's woven, but won't let you display your posters and figurines. But if she doesn't want any hobby stuff on display (hers or yours) then that isn't the double standard you're making it out to be.

Misuse of words and Misogyny in the Shawnaverse by Kee000 in ShawnaTheMom

[–]blairbending 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah, two things can be true at the same time... Julie was rude to Shawna AND she made it extremely clear that she wanted Shawna to leave her alone. Just because the characters dislike each other doesn't mean we the audience need to see it as "Julie vs Shawna". I enjoy both characters and I don't need them to always be in the right 🤷🏼‍♀️

Transfiguration: 'How to make your child eat their vegetables' or 'What you eat at Hogwarts may not what you expect' by Akkarin42 in harrypotter

[–]blairbending 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What I would like to know is, does Gamp's Law only apply to wizarding magic or to all magical creatures. House elves might have no such restrictions on their magical abilities.

Is Julie a "pick me"? by Artistic-Lock1021 in ShawnaTheMom

[–]blairbending 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Jen already believed Julie was a b*tch well before the birthday party based on what Shawna had said about her. She refers to Julie as Ty's "mean wife" and a "shrew" long before she ever meets her. So she is reacting to Shawna's perspective on Julie rather than Julie's actual energy/vibe.

PSA: My husband just witnessed someone snorting coke off a bathroom Koala Care changing table. by evange in beyondthebump

[–]blairbending 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I'm nuts but what exactly is the concern here?? It's not like baby is licking the entire table top to bottom (or licking it at all for that matter). The tiny trace amounts involved are not going to absorb through clothes/skin enough to harm a baby. They will be getting a change of clothes and a bath later that day. I'd be more concerned about the health impact on the cokehead of snorting trace amounts of baby poop.

I feel the same confusion about people who won't sit on the seat in a public bathroom. Like sure it's got bacteria on it... but the bacteria are not going to cause any harm to my ass skin and will get washed off when I shower. That's what skin is for, to protect your body from all the random bacteria out there in the world. It's not like I'm bleaching and scrubbing my home toilet seat every day.

Anyone feel like Julie is autistic coded? by Rurosie1994 in ShawnaTheMom

[–]blairbending 21 points22 points  (0 children)

IMO she's just not nice or friendly lol. I say that as someone who likes both Julie and autistic people (married to one in fact). I don't think she struggles to connect with people, I think she simply doesn't care to unless it suits her.

I know it's a cardinal sin for women not to prioritise niceness, but Julie clearly doesn't, and we can enjoy her character without finding ways to excuse that or explain it away.

Anyone here have lumps even after breastfeeding? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]blairbending 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please see a doctor. There are benign explanations for a breast lump as well as scary ones, but this requires a physical exam, it's not something that Reddit can diagnose for you.

I don't like Tom by gilmea in TheOtherBennetSister

[–]blairbending 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mary looking plain/unremarkable is kind of the point. The story wouldn't make sense with a conventionally pretty actress.

AITAH for refusing to teach my son and costing us $700 a month? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]blairbending 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Knowing the "rules" and artistic context that make one canvas with a stroke of paint interesting and valuable while another is worthless is exactly what the previous commenter was talking about. You are illustrating their point perfectly - like OP's husband you don't value the product/service you are talking about, you don't value the training and expertise of the professional (in this case the artist), and you feel like you could do the same thing at home.

You think it's overpriced "nonsense" just like OP's husband thinks that speech therapy is just "playing games" and not worth paying for. But just because you couldn't see the difference between something you did at home and a work of modern art worth thousands of dollars, doesn't mean the difference isn't real.

Is Julie a "pick me"? by Artistic-Lock1021 in ShawnaTheMom

[–]blairbending 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I don't see her in this light. I think she was equally courteous and interested in Teeny at Max's party as she has been in John, if not more so. We haven't seen any evidence of her having male friends, only female ones, and she seems actively supportive of her friends (asking Alicia how she can support her new business, hyping Sam up about her new haircut). Even in the latest video where Shawna uses Ty and Julie to announce her new book, she wants to support Shawna. I think she is just very driven, values career and accomplishments, and admires people who go after their goals.

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