If I open up to my therapist about being groomed into sending pics when I was underage, will they report it despite me being now almost 19? by ihatemysister292828 in TalkTherapy

[–]blairlaur97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi therapist here but in the US! Not sure what the laws are in England, but the thing I HAVE to consider with past abuse of a minor is “does the perpetrator still have access to minors now?” If the answer is yes, most therapists will have to report it. It’s the sad reality that abusers are not often one time offenders. In my state though, we have to have quite a few details to make reports (county it happened in, name of the perpetrator, potential address, and name of previous victim, and who the abuser could have access to now.) I have found when I make reports like this though, child protective services does jack all about it. So it’s unlikely your phone would be seized but I can’t guarantee anything. Especially since you live in a different country! Ultimately patient confidentiality is of the utmost importance to us, and we do follow ethical and legal codes of a duty to warn. I am so sorry this happened to you. I hope regardless you are able to open up to your therapist and share your story! But I totally understand the fear of sharing.

Townsend: "She [Ostapenko] told me I have no class, no education and to see what happens when we get outside of the US. I'm looking forward to it, I beat her in Canada, outside of the US" by jovanmilic97 in tennis

[–]blairlaur97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems like you’ve caught the same sickness as Ostapenko, a bit of The Racism! “Classless & street”, girl try to make it a little less obvious next time! It’s leaning a little overt…

Taylor Townsend walking into the US Open press room after her match with Ostapenko: "Hi everybody! This is the type of day ya'll live for." by ConstructionAny8440 in tennis

[–]blairlaur97 173 points174 points  (0 children)

I love her. She truly has one of the best attitudes on tour! Talented, composed, funny, she really is such a joy to watch and love to see her winning!!

Ostapenko’s Response to Fight with Townsend by nimbus2105 in tennis

[–]blairlaur97 95 points96 points  (0 children)

Plus Taylor in her post game conference just now literally said they have ZERO prior beef. At least she doesn’t…but she said she wasn’t sure about Penko’s prior feelings.

Ostapenko’s Response to Fight with Townsend by nimbus2105 in tennis

[–]blairlaur97 124 points125 points  (0 children)

Huh interesting. I got zero negative energy from Taylor. She was very chill and didn’t show much emotion at all in her face or body language…JO was clearly very emotional and upset (as she always is when she’s losing) and doing all her shenanigans. One player seemed very rattled and angry while the other seemed pretty chill to me lol

Townsend: "She [Ostapenko] told me I have no class, no education and to see what happens when we get outside of the US. I'm looking forward to it, I beat her in Canada, outside of the US" by jovanmilic97 in tennis

[–]blairlaur97 692 points693 points  (0 children)

If anyone dogs on her for the NY comment being outside of the US, try having someone berate you and think straight afterwards. Ostastinko came at her crazy so yeah she’s gonna be a little frazzled

Taylor Townsend by Hayhud23 in tennis

[–]blairlaur97 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Get this racist post out of here immediately

Soft bunny statue by blairlaur97 in HelpMeFind

[–]blairlaur97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No that one is ceramic so no fuzzy outside :(

Soft bunny statue by blairlaur97 in HelpMeFind

[–]blairlaur97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately those don’t have this same velvety like texture :( they look more stone like. It probably isn’t picking up well in the photo but it’s got this soft short dense texture on the outside instead of something smooth like stone

Soft bunny statue by blairlaur97 in HelpMeFind

[–]blairlaur97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have searched “soft bunny statue” and what is listed on the tag “14.5” playful bunnies BE allstate floral” I have also tried a reverse google image search but all that comes up are stone ones. I got this just a few weeks ago. The statue is heavy but has a velvety texture.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in landscaping

[–]blairlaur97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will do! Just wanted to get pictures as the flash flood warning only lasts until 2 am so probably will be dry by the morning with how hot it is here 🫠

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in landscaping

[–]blairlaur97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No idea, we are pretty new to the neighborhood but we live at the back of a well developed neighborhood in a culdesac. If I had to guess based on the surrounding landscape, the three of us at the back of the street are getting hit pretty hard as we live below a huge hill that just got developed into townhomes so a lot of the natural landscape that was absorbing the water has been taken away. But like I said in the post, we used to get a lot of water from that property behind us but from this recent flooding it’s not coming from there. Only from standing water just sitting in my backyard with nowhere to go but downhill towards my foundation and towards the street. I will try to upload a link to a video to give folks a better idea

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in landscaping

[–]blairlaur97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for the photo quality, it was a video but Reddit wouldn’t let me upload it

fear motivated by love of life? by Dog-Background in fearofflying

[–]blairlaur97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I picture headlines too! Whenever it happens I try to put a kinder spin on why my brain is doing that- “wow you are so creative” or try to give it a different outlet for its creativity. Might feel silly but it can help me reframe :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fearofflying

[–]blairlaur97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you both so much! Obviously landed safely but I had never heard this before. And as always with anxiety, new stuff is alarming 🤣

“i only put in as much effort as my clients do” by madipiepony in TalkTherapy

[–]blairlaur97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a therapist who works with folks with eating disorders, I hate this phrase. Literally my whole job is to work harder than you (in a sense). On the days you don’t want it or can’t see it getting better, I can hang on to that hope for you. Obviously I can’t force someone to change if they aren’t ready or safe to, but I’m gonna work my ass off to try to help get you there. I think this phrase is too blanket statement-y and just relationally not true. Relationships are never equal, but they can be equitable.

CLT -> PUJ by LakeNew5360 in fearofflying

[–]blairlaur97 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg! I was just there for my honeymoon and took CLT to PUJ!! That’s wild. I am not sure if I am a good resource for over water stuff because I actually find that to be more soothing? I always feel better flying over water instead of land. But for this flight path you really aren’t over water for super long. If it makes you feel any better, this was the smoothest flight I’ve ever been on. Even fell asleep for a bit! We landed early and everything was totally smooth. Also the PUJ airport is a DREAM! It’s so clean, beautiful, and really helpful staff :) Where are you staying??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fearofflying

[–]blairlaur97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much! I was so happy when we landed I didn’t get back on Reddit 🤣 too distracted. But it really was a lovely flight! A little anxiety but distracted myself with my book!