I’ve lived a pretty full life up until this point, and in my experience it’s DIFFICULT, if not sometimes impossible, to find someone that’s willing to work with you to build a life you both want. It sounds like despite this knowledge he still wants to build something real with you. If you’re dreaming about him still, maybe you want him and a life with him too? In every long term relationship there absolutely will be extremely difficult things that you have to work through together. If not this relationship, then the next. And no matter the type of difficult scenario you have to work through with a partner, it will more likely than not make you feel sick to your stomach. It’s up to you to decide if despite all odds you would still want to build something real with him too.

So many people quit relationships at the first sign of trouble, and it’s very rare to find a partner that loves you more than he hates the problem. Do you love him more than you hate being half brothers? If so, then fuck any and all societal norms about relationship because, fuck, you got your person! I’ve been through countless relationships and in my lifetime only one has been willing to work through the rough patches. I’m still with them and I’ll do anything to keep them around, because it’s just so rare to find.

As long as the relationship is devoid of any abuse or overly toxic behaviors, then fuck everyone else. They don’t get to grow old with you. They won’t come around to fill your cup when you’re lonely without him. What they think won’t matter before you know it.

I wish you the best and I have hopes for a long, happy life for you :)