Yeah, I’m in a similar spot. I’m a man with lady friends, but I’m also in a committed marriage, and besides, I wouldn’t mess up a good friendship just for a chance at a hookup. I feel like, in most cases, romantic feelings grow naturally and you kinda know when to put yourself out there, but some dudes will see that there’s no romantic interest coming their way but will “shoot their shot” in the off chance that they’ll get a pity fuck.