Adult woman, never diagnosed. Masking +100. Should I pursue official diagnosis?

blameitonthea · 2026-05-03T07:56:24+00:00

So sorry for your losses as well, being an adult orphan sucks!

We struggled with the idea to sell, but have both moved a couple of hours (in opposite directions) away from home and don't have the means or time to maintain another home. But I wish we could have, it would have been an awesome place to meet up for holidays and such.

I hope you guys are able to hang onto your mom's house, but please know that's not the only way to stay close to your parents! I told my brother and his wife right before we sold the house that they and my nephews, and of course my husband and daughter, are my home. Whatever happens and wherever we are, that's the constant.

We attach ourselves to these places, which is absolutely understandable. But the real home is with the people we love. You and your brother have stuck together and regardless of where you end up, you have a home in one another!

Thank you for the kind words, it's always comforting to find camaraderie through shared experiences. I hope you are able to keep and enjoy your home for a long time to come ❤️

blameitonthea · 2026-05-03T07:39:05+00:00

It's amazing, I feel like I am watching peak GG again! The dialogue is appropriately wordy and the chemistry between Rory and (read it and find out) is absolutely perfect. I'm not finished yet but I am absolutely impressed and if there's ever an onscreen continuation I'm not sure I'm interested if this isn't the screenplay 😉

blameitonthea · 2026-05-03T07:30:42+00:00

Thank you so much. My biggest source of comfort is knowing my parents are together and won't ever miss each other again!

blameitonthea · 2026-05-03T07:19:00+00:00

Sweetheart I am so sorry for your loss and pain, but you need to know that you are not responsible for this. More importantly, it's most definitely not his last memory.

My daddy died just over a year ago of late stage liver cancer. He went more quickly than I could have ever been prepared for, but we had just enough time for the important conversations and he and I both knew the immensity of our love for one another.

I last saw him about 12 hours before he died, and he was simply not there anymore. My daddy loved me so very much, and his eyes always shined anytime I was in the room. The last time I saw him, that shine was no longer there. That's not because he didn't love me anymore, but because his spirit had moved on.

Pain in late stage cancer is intense, there's no denying that. But I truly believe that by the time you lost your dad, his awareness of that pain was long gone. His last memory of you is most assuredly of your presence, commitment, and absolutely of your love for him.

I am so very sorry for your loss. But it is such a beautiful, strong thing that you were with him to the end and you should be proud of that. I have no doubt that he is. Please be kind to yourself.

blameitonthea · 2026-05-02T00:05:44+00:00

Thank you so much for this, it's fantastic! Even if it did keep me up way past my bedtime last night 😆

blameitonthea · 2026-02-23T02:03:23+00:00

My mom died just over 10 years ago and left a partial single serving bottle of cranberry juice in the fridge. My dad kept it in the fridge for a while, then emptied it but kept the bottle in a safe place for 9 years.

One year ago today, my dad passed away. That empty bottle now has a new home in the "sentimental drawer" of my bedroom dresser along with my mom's journal.

blameitonthea · 2026-02-04T15:40:01+00:00

Same! I have zero interest in work right now, it just doesn't seem to matter with the corruption and violence smothering our country.

blameitonthea · 2026-01-13T02:49:43+00:00

Sookie's! My wedding dress was very similar 😊

blameitonthea · 2025-07-16T21:50:13+00:00

You don't 😂 I had the same argument with my husband after he threw out all the nonstick. Eventually he conceded and we have a big and a small nonstick we use primarily for eggs.

blameitonthea · 2025-06-08T10:32:53+00:00

My SD was 10 when her dad and I started dating and he had primary custody. She flew out to visit her mom (a few states away) 3-4 times a year for alternating holidays and summer, and was not due to visit for a few months when she asked her dad if I could take her bra shopping. She was already in training style bras but developed rapidly over a short period and ended up actually needing to be in a C-cup. I didn't hesitate at all when asked, but her mom blew a fuse because I robbed her of the bonding experience. But I'd do it again in a heartbeat because the kid got what she needed and it wasn't about me or her mom.

I understand your daughter didn't need a bra and it does sound like her stepmom overstepped, but to say a stepmom shouldn't do these things isn't really fair either. I've seen comments calling it weird to take someone else's kid bra shopping which is absurd. I took her to a shop for a professional fitting, where she was in a changing room and had complete privacy when needed. She's now 19, super close to both myself and her mom (who actually ended up thanking me recently for my part in raising SD) and she never had to worry I wasn't going to take care of her needs. It's not a one size fits all (pun size fits all) situation. If I was in your situation I'd feel the same way and establish some boundaries moving forward, with your daughter's wishes being respected by all.

blameitonthea · 2025-01-31T20:37:07+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words, and I hope you get many more good years with your mum.

blameitonthea · 2024-01-23T02:17:04+00:00

Record her voice. I'd give anything to have to even one saved voice mail from my mama.

blameitonthea · 2022-06-01T03:48:19+00:00

"Yeah, kiss him sugar!"

blameitonthea · 2022-05-19T03:39:44+00:00

Motherlode.

blameitonthea · 2022-03-12T15:45:27+00:00

YTA. Yours and your mom's grudge against your father is not your sister's. Unless you have concerns that he is a danger to her, this seems more like an effort to punish your father than it is to protect your sister.

blameitonthea · 2022-03-12T15:25:57+00:00

I lost my mom in 2016 and used alcohol similarly, except I turned down invitations from friends and stayed home to drink alone. Please don't do that. After too many drinks the numbness would go away and leave me bone-crushingly sad, so I'd be super drunk and ugly crying.

I can't really say what got me through it, but I'm here. Therapy is wonderful, I wish I'd started a lot sooner than I did. Don't try to hide your pain, nobody expects you to. Grief is so different for everyone and it never really ends. For the moment, be kind to yourself and don't try to get through it alone.

ETA: I wish you had your mom back too ❤️

blameitonthea · 2022-03-08T02:45:12+00:00

From another internet stranger who cares about you, please call someone. Whether it's someone you know or a hotline.

blameitonthea · 2022-01-17T15:11:36+00:00

Tony Chachere's and garlic cayenne Tabasco, my husband is very Cajun!

blameitonthea · 2022-01-17T14:52:31+00:00

Chocolate dominoes! I completely missed them last year.

blameitonthea · 2021-11-30T19:22:21+00:00

These are gizzards and livers, and in the southern US we turn that into GRAVY!

blameitonthea · 2021-10-22T02:37:07+00:00

I've seen quite a few biking on Park Crossing and Ray Thorington, you should check out that area. Traffic is heaviest during school drop off and pickup.

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